What to do...friend disrespected me.

[Anonymous]

wow, that is so, so gross. I was at the gym one morning waiting for the bathroom on the level near the treadmills. (not the locker room.) A woman was in there for awhile and when she finally came out, there was poop smeared all over the side of the toilet- all over the seat and the bowl. It was ridiculously disgusting. I got the hell out of there and considered finding her and pointing her out to the staff. who doesn't clean up after themselves?

I don't think I'd want to hang out with your "friend" anymore, OP. She sounds disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously?
Issue 1: she is a good friend you've known since when again? September? That can still be measured in days or weeks.
Issue 2: she inquired about a threesome?
Issue 3: She defecated all over your bathroom and you think your boyfriend is being too rough on her?

Your boyfriend is right and how you do it is you don't call her, and if/when she calls you, you say, "listen, I don't mean mean to embarrass you but the night you spent at our house revealed a side of you that surprised me and I think it would be best if we just took a step back." If she really doesn't know what you are talking about, feel free to lay it out there. I predict the call should end soon after that.

Good advice.

[Anonymous]

Why is one drunken night considered an alcoholic problem?

OP even states Z hung out and stayed the night on New Years.
OP, as tricky as it sounds, I would talk to Z, ask her if she knew the mess she made. I find it hard to believe that she doesnt know. She even said she wanted to shower.

Has she contacted you since?

[Anonymous]

I'd hope dear Z wouldn't try yo contact OP!
If she does..she's ballsy!

[Anonymous]

This is really gross. It sounds like she has a problem with binge drinking. Maybe you could be a better friend and help her through this? I would either send her a written letter in the mail or call her to discuss what happened. Maybe she was so drunk she doesn't know? But if you smelled poop on her... ewwwww. Maybe she needs a wake-up call?

[Anonymous]

Disrespect isn't a verb.

[Anonymous]

OP here,

Z has texted me twice yesterday. I never responded. I am sure I'll have to face the issue soon enough.

[Anonymous]

You have a friend with a known problem with alcohol.
You have a friend who wanted to have a threesome with you and your boyfriend.
You have a friend who left a shitty mess in your bathroom.


Your biggest concern is that you were disrespected? Honey, your biggest concern should be why you choose this type of person as a "good friend."

[Anonymous]

You need to talk to her about this. She needs to know what happens when she drinks. It sounds like she has a real problem, and hiding her messes from her isn't what a friend would do. So approach this as a friend talking to a friend about a problem.

That is, if you decide to stay friends. If you dump her, then never mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
That is, if you decide to stay friends. If you dump her, then never mind.

No pun intended?

[Anonymous]

The thing that seems strange about this to me is that I don't know how you do this accidently.

Unless I am misunderstanding, itt sounds like it would have taken a bit of effort and intent on her part to make the mess she did...

[Anonymous]

this story is every man's fantasy until she pooped, everywhere

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Disrespect isn't a verb.

Thank you!

At most, your friend showed disrespect for you.

[Anonymous]

That's seriously gross. I'm guessing that she was so drunk that she probably doesn't remember sh*tting all over your bathroom and didn't have the mental capacity at the time it happened to clean it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
That is, if you decide to stay friends. If you dump her, then never mind.

No pun intended?

Nope, not intended!

But thinking about this, I want to revise it. Even if she "dumps" her friend, she needs to tell her why. Hiding something like this is like enabling her binges.