People registering for insanely expensive wedding gifts

[Anonymous]

Sometimes people go in together on more expensive items. Some friends of ours registered for a $300 wine cabinet. 4 of us were planning to spend about $100 each, so we got them the cabinet and we each picked out a special bottle of wine for them. They were really excited to see it checked off of the registry.

$700 seems like a lot for coffee.

[Anonymous]

"Personally, I find $125 a plate china to be way more obnoxious than a single high end item. "


The thanks you cards for x numbers of the exact same thing must be a riot to write and read!

[Anonymous]

OP, some people set you up. To elaborate, they will know what kind of friend/relative you are based on your tasteless reaction or tasteful lack thereof. That is really all you need to know. Can't outkid a kidder, y'know. Either enjoy someone else's wedding or not, your choice. But they will know! So will everyone else. You are kidding no one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sorry to be a naysayer here, but I got married in NYC and $700 IS outrageously expensive. June wedding four years ago. You don't expect people to spend that on your wedding gift. If your extremely rich, extremely close relative wants to spend that on you, he or she will find a way to do it without you flaunting hugely expensive gifts all over a registry. You really want a $700 coffee pot? You make a mental note of it and after your wedding you go buy it yourself with whatever cash gifts you receive. Anything else is horrifically tacky. DH and I did not live together before we were married and had nothing. We registered for a very nice everyday set of china/dishes (much more expensive than anything we could ever afford ourselves but at about $125 a dinner plate, it allowed for a large range of options in the set). We also registered for crystal and flatware. Anyone who wanted to buy anything else could go off the registry. No $700 gifts asked for or needed, thank you. We were just so happy people wanted to be with us.

Personally, I find $125 a plate china to be way more obnoxious than a single high end item.

Just for perspective.

Not the poster, but that's for a dinner plate, not a saucer or cup, and I think that was the point, which you clearly missed, but that's okay.

[Anonymous]

Haven't read all the responses. I can see both sides. My SIL registered for a ton of expensive stuff-dining room set, sofa and what I found tacky was she complained that nobody bought it for her given that her husband's family has some money.

On the other hand, my parents asked us to register for three pieces of furniture we wanted for the discount. We could not get the discount without the registry. We did not expect anyone else to spend that much and I felt sick to my stomach with guilt when one item was purchased before my parents got to it. The family could afford it and was a close family friend, but I felt wrong allowing them to spend that much. Otherwise we had a lot of inexpensive items on our registry and I felt bad when some people chose to buy a whole bunch of things together because i didn't want anyone spending that much money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, some people set you up. To elaborate, they will know what kind of friend/relative you are based on your tasteless reaction or tasteful lack thereof. That is really all you need to know. Can't outkid a kidder, y'know. Either enjoy someone else's wedding or not, your choice. But they will know! So will everyone else. You are kidding no one.

What does this even mean?

[Anonymous]

It seems to mean don't be a bride hater. It shows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
If Miss Manners would have anything to say it would be about rude, bitter guests.

You are not correct. You do not understand etiquette. Miss Manners hates registries, and if she had anything to say it would be about the rude presumption on the part of the bride of making a list of things that you think your guests should buy for you. The value of the registered gift has nothing to do with it.