People registering for insanely expensive wedding gifts

[Anonymous]

Look, its not a kayak. Just don't buy it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know brides who come from families that expect registries. Nice registries. Giving nice gifts is important to those families. So what?

Agree. I attended the wedding of a grad school friend who came from a moneyed old Richmond family. She registered for Tiffany china. 12 place settings. A single dinner plate (plate only, nothing else) was about $150. Guess what? She got almost all of her china registry fulfilled.

[Anonymous]

A good registry will have a selection of items in all price ranges so that IF guests choose to buy off the registry there is something for everyone's price range. We had items ranging from $3 to about $500, and we did get a some from both ends. We were absolutely grateful and appreciative of all gifts of all sizes.

[Anonymous]

OP, should she "dumb down" hear registry for you if she and her family are accustomed to say, Bloomingdales and your are accustomed to say, CVS? How much sense would that make? It is not a personal appeal for you to buy the coffee pot. Surprise, it's not all about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I know brides who come from families that expect registries. Nice registries. Giving nice gifts is important to those families. So what?

Agree. I attended the wedding of a grad school friend who came from a moneyed old Richmond family. She registered for Tiffany china. 12 place settings. A single dinner plate (plate only, nothing else) was about $150. Guess what? She got almost all of her china registry fulfilled.

OP here. I know the couple really well. Both sides. They are not from these kinds of families. That is in part why I think it is strange. I am buying a gift that costs about $150 and that will be the end of it, but I was shocked at the crazy coffee pot.

[Anonymous]

A lot of defensive brides on this thread, or maybe just one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of defensive brides on this thread, or maybe just one.

Totally. I'm wondering what absurdly expensive items they registered for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People need to remember that registries came from the days when people would marry straight out of high school when you had two low wage earners who needed EVERYTHING to fill a house.

Today, with people marrying much after college, the two people marrying will have accumulated much of the stuff they will need to fill a house when they marry. And will marry at a time when they have decent incomes.

As someone who does not like handouts, registries are uncomfortable for me. I know two people who got married in their late 20s after living in a house they bought together for a couple of years. They had everything. Gets worse. They own a company together and at that time were probably pulling in 400K/year between the two of them. I was embarrassed for them that they even had a registry. Come on.

When my dh and I got married we were older and really didn't need anything. So I didn't register. At first. Then everyone drove me crazy asking where we were registered, and then arguing with me about how it was really nicer to everyone to give them an idea of what we wanted. Trust me, I tried "just don't give us a gift.". So, I finally registered, and gots lots of lovely nice crystal that have used a lot.

[Anonymous]

My most recent friend to get married literally had nothing on any of her three registries that was below $200.

So we bought her a $75 vase and included the gift receipt. I am sure she returned it but whatevs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My most recent friend to get married literally had nothing on any of her three registries that was below $200.

So we bought her a $75 vase and included the gift receipt. I am sure she returned it but whatevs.

That is obnoxious. People really should register for a range of things.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she really wants the coffee pot and is planning on getting it herself with the discount the store offers brides on registry items after the wedding

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, should she "dumb down" hear registry for you if she and her family are accustomed to say, Bloomingdales and your are accustomed to say, CVS? How much sense would that make? It is not a personal appeal for you to buy the coffee po[b]t. Surprise, it's not all about you.

+1

[Anonymous]

I know people who registered for furniture-solely to get the % off discount. If course they also registered for normal things, but it ended up saving them a lot of money when they furnished their new place.

Also, in the realm of wedding gifts, $700 isn't that out there. If it was all stuff that expensive, that would be one thing, but one high end item doesn't seem that weird. Maybe they know that a few people wanted to go a collective gift, or that a certain family member always gives gifts around that amount.

Now if you want tacky, go check out the etiquettehell website. Your friend will seem very polite by contrast.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to be a naysayer here, but I got married in NYC and $700 IS outrageously expensive. June wedding four years ago. You don't expect people to spend that on your wedding gift. If your extremely rich, extremely close relative wants to spend that on you, he or she will find a way to do it without you flaunting hugely expensive gifts all over a registry. You really want a $700 coffee pot? You make a mental note of it and after your wedding you go buy it yourself with whatever cash gifts you receive. Anything else is horrifically tacky. DH and I did not live together before we were married and had nothing. We registered for a very nice everyday set of china/dishes (much more expensive than anything we could ever afford ourselves but at about $125 a dinner plate, it allowed for a large range of options in the set). We also registered for crystal and flatware. Anyone who wanted to buy anything else could go off the registry. No $700 gifts asked for or needed, thank you. We were just so happy people wanted to be with us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don't know her guest list. A good gift registry has gifts in all price ranges so everybody can have options.

I never registered for anything that expensive, but the person who bought me the $350 mixer also bought me the down comforter ($200) and gave me a check ($300).

The only vulgar person in this whole deal so far is you.

Agreed. If you hate the couple that much, just don't go to the wedding.