How big is it and is bigger better?

[Anonymous]

When I see over a carat, I believe that it is not real. Though I would never say that out loud.

[Anonymous]

The funny thing is, the biggest rings I see are usually on administrative staff at my job Not sure why!

I had DH take me on a tour of the world instead of getting me a ring. He still got me a little one (.75 carats) though. It's beautiful, but I'm not a jewelry type -- I wear my wedding band every day, and only wear the engagement ring once in a while for fancy times.

I think a lot of people in the DC area either fall into the ultra-traditional "get me the biggest rock you can afford (or can't afford)!" or the unorthodox "don't waste the money on a ring, let's get a _____ (house, car, trip) instead" camps. Not a lot in between, so usually when I see someone who gives a crap about jewelry, it's a huge rock.

[Anonymous]

I think the diamond is too big, but I wouldn't ask my fiance to take it back if that's what he chose on his own. Definitely wouldn't ask him to take it back if the diamond was too small. What's the difference?

[Anonymous]

I would be worried about a guy who spent that much $$$ on an engagement ring. Just as I would never have dated a guy who spent too much money on a car. Just my priorities.

[Anonymous]

I believe the people who say they just don't care about diamond size. But to the rest of you PPs who call big diamonds tacky or use a big diamond to judge someone as materialistic, looking to get robbed, or having misplaced priorities---I call TOTAL B.S. If you're an adult who has ever interacted with different types of people you certainly must know that it's illogical to extrapolate about someone's character based on a piece of JEWELRY of all things. The fact that you choose to do it anyway makes it painfully clear that you are jealous. Of course, you can't admit that you envy something like that because it's totally shallow, so instead you comfort yourself by pretending that a large ring means there is something lacking in the wearer's life. Sometimes I can't believe how unaware people are about how they come off.

FWIW, I'm jealous of big sparkly rocks too, but not to the point where I actually try to tear down people who wear them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I believe the people who say they just don't care about diamond size. But to the rest of you PPs who call big diamonds tacky or use a big diamond to judge someone as materialistic, looking to get robbed, or having misplaced priorities---I call TOTAL B.S. If you're an adult who has ever interacted with different types of people you certainly must know that it's illogical to extrapolate about someone's character based on a piece of JEWELRY of all things. The fact that you choose to do it anyway makes it painfully clear that you are jealous. Of course, you can't admit that you envy something like that because it's totally shallow, so instead you comfort yourself by pretending that a large ring means there is something lacking in the wearer's life. Sometimes I can't believe how unaware people are about how they come off.

So in other words, you're judging people who make judgments about others. Speaking of unawareness...

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Anonymous wrote:I believe the people who say they just don't care about diamond size. But to the rest of you PPs who call big diamonds tacky or use a big diamond to judge someone as materialistic, looking to get robbed, or having misplaced priorities---I call TOTAL B.S. If you're an adult who has ever interacted with different types of people you certainly must know that it's illogical to extrapolate about someone's character based on a piece of JEWELRY of all things. The fact that you choose to do it anyway makes it painfully clear that you are jealous. Of course, you can't admit that you envy something like that because it's totally shallow, so instead you comfort yourself by pretending that a large ring means there is something lacking in the wearer's life. Sometimes I can't believe how unaware people are about how they come off.

So in other words, you're judging people who make judgments about others. Speaking of unawareness...

Um, no, it's not the same at all. There's no logical connection between jewelry and character--there just isn't. It is, however, a fairly common emotional response for people to try to tear someone down when that person has something they wish they had. My kids do it all the time--if one has an ice cream and the other wants it he will eventually say something like "FINE. I didn't want it anyway! I hate your stupid ice cream!!!"

I didn't mean to judge exactly, just to point out what is obvious to the outside observer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I believe the people who say they just don't care about diamond size. But to the rest of you PPs who call big diamonds tacky or use a big diamond to judge someone as materialistic, looking to get robbed, or having misplaced priorities---I call TOTAL B.S. If you're an adult who has ever interacted with different types of people you certainly must know that it's illogical to extrapolate about someone's character based on a piece of JEWELRY of all things. The fact that you choose to do it anyway makes it painfully clear that you are jealous. Of course, you can't admit that you envy something like that because it's totally shallow, so instead you comfort yourself by pretending that a large ring means there is something lacking in the wearer's life. Sometimes I can't believe how unaware people are about how they come off.

So in other words, you're judging people who make judgments about others. Speaking of unawareness...

Um, no, it's not the same at all. There's no logical connection between jewelry and character--there just isn't. It is, however, a fairly common emotional response for people to try to tear someone down when that person has something they wish they had. My kids do it all the time--if one has an ice cream and the other wants it he will eventually say something like "FINE. I didn't want it anyway! I hate your stupid ice cream!!!"

I didn't mean to judge exactly, just to point out what is obvious to the outside observer.

Oh, give me a break--we all know exactly what you were trying to say. Which is more ridiculous--to say that everyone who wears a big ring is materialistic or to say that everyone who thinks big wearers are materialistic is jealous?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ring is a 2.5 carat center stone. In DC it feels fairly big but when I go home to NY I see lots of women with way bigger. The ring has been in my family (with no changes) for over 100 years and it's very special to me. It cost my DH nothing, so I think it's pretty ridiculous that bitter people like the PPs would use it as a reason to make assumptions about my character. Fortunately I have no interest in being friends with people like that anyway.

No one was referring to you ring. That is just average.

Awww, sweetie, I'm sure your ring is very beautiful too! You don't need to be so insecure that you put someone else down like that. I'm sure the PP is well aware that in DC 2.5 carats is definitely NOT average. Mine is barely half that and still very respectable. I'm a biglaw attorney and DH is a lobbyist so it's not like I never see huge rings, but they are definitely the exception.

If you're that bitter maybe you could ask your DH to save up a little each month so he can buy you a bigger diamond, or you could just buy a big cubic zirconia. No matter what you do, know that you don't need to feel so bitter--I feel sad for you. Hugs.

Your husband's penis is still small though. You KNOW I'm right. Hugs to you too sweetheart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To me, 4 carats would be too big. Mine is just over 1. I'd have loved something closer to 1.5 but not at the expense of a lower quality diamond.

4 carats! I call that a Turnip!

[Anonymous]

When I got married my DH and I picked out a nice setting for a 0.5 carat diamond that his father had. It is a lovely ring, not showy or gaudy. I was working at a small nonprofit at the time and one of my coworkers was admiring my ring one day and she said " wow, it's so lovely, but I could never wear a ring like that because I work with immigrant farmers who are really poor and I feel it would be in bad taste". Then I moved to this area and every other mom in the carpool line has 20 carat cocktail ring on. Makes my little ring look like toy jewelry.

[Anonymous]

Can't believe how many people are proudly supporting the diamond industry. You weep for the poor cows on their factory farms, but you have no compunctions spending tens of thousands of dollars on a rock that a slave dug out of the ground halfway around the world? Actual slaves, folks. Working in brutal conditions that they cannot escape, for barely more than a meal a day. Humans in captivity, at hard labor. Please give this some serious thought before you "upgrade".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Can't believe how many people are proudly supporting the diamond industry. You weep for the poor cows on their factory farms, but you have no compunctions spending tens of thousands of dollars on a rock that a slave dug out of the ground halfway around the world? Actual slaves, folks. Working in brutal conditions that they cannot escape, for barely more than a meal a day. Humans in captivity, at hard labor. Please give this some serious thought before you "upgrade".

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[Anonymous]

Blood Diamonds

[Anonymous]

When the valium and booze wears off, 00:07, please say more. I am honestly interested in how people justify purchasing new diamonds. I mean, it's not like food or clothing. And it's not like they're aren't lots of "vintage" diamonds available that don't support the mining of new gems.