How big is it and is bigger better?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
PP who mentioned "rob me" has a legitimate point. Seriously.

maybe but I think the "I'm really materialistic" or "I'm really shallow" or "I'm really insecure and hope that by wearing a huge ring I will impress you" also has a serious point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ring is a 2.5 carat center stone. In DC it feels fairly big but when I go home to NY I see lots of women with way bigger. The ring has been in my family (with no changes) for over 100 years and it's very special to me. It cost my DH nothing, so I think it's pretty ridiculous that bitter people like the PPs would use it as a reason to make assumptions about my character. Fortunately I have no interest in being friends with people like that anyway.

We're taking about a FOUR carat ring here, not your puny 2.5 ring. Get over yourself and your miniature hand me down ring!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My ring is a 2.5 carat center stone. In DC it feels fairly big but when I go home to NY I see lots of women with way bigger. The ring has been in my family (with no changes) for over 100 years and it's very special to me. It cost my DH nothing, so I think it's pretty ridiculous that bitter people like the PPs would use it as a reason to make assumptions about my character. Fortunately I have no interest in being friends with people like that anyway.

We're taking about a FOUR carat ring here, not your puny 2.5 ring. Get over yourself and your miniature hand me down ring!

Wow, really? I'm not the PP, but you are the type of person I refer to as a "bitter have-not" It's always the people without who are criticizing people with more. Not the reverse. Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

The other problem with a really big ring is that it's a pain in the butt. I have a 2 carat center stone with two side stones of .75 each, and I hate it every day in the winter. Can't even get a pair of gloves on without something going haywire. I can't imagine how much harder it would be with a 4 carat stone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other problem with a really big ring is that it's a pain in the butt. I have a 2 carat center stone with two side stones of .75 each, and I hate it every day in the winter. Can't even get a pair of gloves on without something going haywire. I can't imagine how much harder it would be with a 4 carat stone.

Come on now - she was acting like she was all Princess Diana.

[Anonymous]

"only" .75 for the center diamond with 3 small terraced diamond chips on each side, but it's a beautiful art deco family ring that belonged to my DH's grandmother. Wouldn't change it for the world.

[Anonymous]

My first ring was 1.5 carats. Beautiful. For a milestone anniversary my husband surprised me with a 4+ carat ring. It is also beautiful and I wear it every day. I totally don't care what people think about me wearing it. My husband bought it to surprise me with it because he knew I would love it and would never think of asking him to upgrade my already beautiful ring.

[Anonymous]

OP here: Wow, some very interesting replies... My ring is 1 C but I've been wanting to upgrade to a 2. I never thought about getting something even close to 4 carats, so I never really thought of all the cons it could have, but all of you bring good points. To the PP that asked if it's total weight or just the center stone: I don't know, I didn't see the ring. She only told me 4 carats, but I assumed it was the diamond bc she said she didn't want "a rock that big".

[Anonymous]

I think any single stone over 3ct is too big. My ring has three princess cut stones. The center stone is half a ct. and the two side stones are each a quarter ct. My wedding band has a channel of ten square cut diamonds inset. Both rings were purchased in department stores and have platinum settings. We purchased the rings on sale and applied for the store credit cards in order to get larger savings. We paid $1700. for the set that retailed for three times that. DH was making more than me but still ,less than $25k at the time so it was a lot of money for us.

[Anonymous]

I haven't read all the posts. But damn, this thread is not at all what I was hoping for. Can I start another thread with the same subject line?

[Anonymous]

I have a few friends with teeny-tiny hands and huge honkin' rings. (2+ carats.) One of them even got a diamond wedding band as well. I think it looks ridiculous, but it's important to them that they look rich. I think the setting makes a difference, too, and the cut.

I have bigger hands so I'd probably need a 1-carat-ish stone with side stones so it didn't look ridiculous. I wouldn't be comfortable with a huge rock, though - it's just not me.

[Anonymous]

Quality over quantity.

4 ct, as one PP noted, is probably not going to be very clear, well-cut, or flawless--e.g., is not going to have that bright white sparkle--that high quality, but smaller diamonds would.

Personally, 4 ct is really too big unless you have "man hands."

My ring size is 4.75 and my 1.5 CT looks very appropriate in our peer group.

Honestly, though, much more impressive than a huge diamond is a couple that is clearly in love.

[Anonymous]

People actually still get solitare rings? Ugh, makes you like like an old lady and so very tacky and unoriginal. Might as well be pretty much every other person on the block.

Let me guess, 2 ct, princess cut in a plat. setting? Blah...yawn. I smell your boring life from here.

[Anonymous]

Geez, the snark and competition in this thread is over the top, not that I'm surprised. I think 4 is enormous and though i would secretly love to have it, I think I'd end up too embarrassed to wear it. I'd return it for something smaller, too. Mine is just over 1 carat with good size baguettes on either side. I inherited a 2 carat with baguettes from my grandmother that I have given to my mom to wear because I felt kind of ridiculous wearing two good-sized diamonds at my age (late 20s).

Re the 4 carat diamond, I had a colleague who was super nice and down to earth and every now and then would wear her J.Lo sized engagement ring. It had to have been at least 4 carats and was Emerald or Ascher cut. It was just so noticeable that you couldn't help but start to wonder about her/her husband's financial situation. My guess is that is why she only wore it periodically. And this was in an office with pretty well-off people where no one noticed a 2 carat-ish ring. I think that's why I wouldn't want one as big as 4 carats, it would become an object of attention for so many people.

[Anonymous]

Mine is less than half a carat. I love it. My hands are very petite and it looks perfect on my hands. Why does it matter how big your diamond is anyway? Does it mean your husband loves you more? I doubt it. All you ladies with diamonds that are huge, do you receive other jewelry that has/had large stones? I personally think that when the stones get bigger it looks ridiculous. But, if a man is in charge of buying the engagement ring(which is almost always the case) the thought in his head is the bigger the better. That's just how it goes.