42 and still single, is it over?

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Anonymous wrote:"And, I say this gently, I'd really look into why you aren't married and haven't dated in 14 years. That's not common."

This is total BS. If OP lives in the DMV, it is very common for this to happen if she's not doing OLD. In 10 years, I only met one man who asked me for my number and then followed up. Granted, the COVID years were in there, but still. You pretty much have to proactively do OLD to meet men.

Or just be hot and out in the world. Men will approach you.

I am hot and this never happened to me all my life.

What kind of men do you want? What do you want from them?

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Anonymous wrote:What is your BMI?

I’m 105 lbs, 5’2.

Have you considered eating more? That's awfully skinny and potentially unattractive to men. Try to avoid looking like a child when you dress.

That's a very normal slim weight for that height. I have a friend who is about that size and she has a nice figure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"And, I say this gently, I'd really look into why you aren't married and haven't dated in 14 years. That's not common."

This is total BS. If OP lives in the DMV, it is very common for this to happen if she's not doing OLD. In 10 years, I only met one man who asked me for my number and then followed up. Granted, the COVID years were in there, but still. You pretty much have to proactively do OLD to meet men.

What is OLD?
I must be old myself as i have never seen this acronym

[Anonymous]

I have a number of friends who could have written this. Some had early young marriages that didn’t last and others have just been single since their mid-late 20s, none have kids though. They are extremely choosy and unwilling to compromise on anything. This is compounded by the fact that you get used to being/living on your own and having everything the way you like it and then you’re reluctant to make any lifestyle changes for a man.

The ones who did eventually marry had to compromise on age (8-10 years older OR younger) and job/income. You can do this pretty easily if you’re not dead set on having children. If you do want a child I would have one on your own at this point, but you would likely need to forego dating for about 10 years so as not to expose your young kid to abuse from “mom’s boyfriend.”

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If you want a kid then you need to do that on your own asap.

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Are u hot?

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Anonymous wrote:Are u hot?

Doesn't sound like it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure if I want to use a sperm donor. I hate anything medical, etc. OP

Having a baby is medical, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:"And, I say this gently, I'd really look into why you aren't married and haven't dated in 14 years. That's not common."

This is total BS. If OP lives in the DMV, it is very common for this to happen if she's not doing OLD. In 10 years, I only met one man who asked me for my number and then followed up. Granted, the COVID years were in there, but still. You pretty much have to proactively do OLD to meet men.

Or just be hot and out in the world. Men will approach you.

I am hot and this never happened to me all my life.

You are not hot or you are oblivious. No third option

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Anonymous wrote:It’s never too late. Never. Ignore the BS from previous posters. Be open to finding connection. Don’t judge on appearance or background. All that matters in the end is the connections we have with others.

^This. If you're not good in bed, just look for someone a little older whose libido is low. There is a lid for every pot.

I’m good in bed, but I haven’t had sex in like 8 years. OP

So you know, you don't want any at around 48+. It will shrink, go back inside, or disappear completely.

If he folds it in half, maybe he can still stuff it in?

This is spectacularly false.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eh. I lowered my standards because I wanted marriage and kids, and it ended with me getting cheated on repeatedly before being financially devastated by his theft of my money + a divorce. You really never know what’s going to happen in a marriage.

Most married women I know would kill to be in your position. I love my kids, but even this morning, I was wishing I had just remained single and childless my entire life. This shit ain’t for the weak.

Preach!

[Anonymous]

To paraphrase Boz Scaggs: "Why cant you just get it through your head, it's over it's over now."