42 and still single, is it over?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I couldn’t find the ideal man which is why I stopped trying. I had super high expectations. I know that wasn’t the best idea. OP

So why rush to find a man now?

Become a single mom by choice.

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Anonymous wrote:It’s never too late. Never. Ignore the BS from previous posters. Be open to finding connection. Don’t judge on appearance or background. All that matters in the end is the connections we have with others.

^This. If you're not good in bed, just look for someone a little older whose libido is low. There is a lid for every pot.

I’m good in bed, but I haven’t had sex in like 8 years. OP

[Anonymous]

I’m not sure if I want to use a sperm donor. I hate anything medical, etc. OP

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's over. You can adopt a cat. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

"And, I say this gently, I'd really look into why you aren't married and haven't dated in 14 years. That's not common."

This is total BS. If OP lives in the DMV, it is very common for this to happen if she's not doing OLD. In 10 years, I only met one man who asked me for my number and then followed up. Granted, the COVID years were in there, but still. You pretty much have to proactively do OLD to meet men.

[Anonymous]

Honestly ...looks are almost everything. If you are attractive with all the right things in all the right places then should be easy. If not these things are often a rocky road.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s never too late. Never. Ignore the BS from previous posters. Be open to finding connection. Don’t judge on appearance or background. All that matters in the end is the connections we have with others.

^This. If you're not good in bed, just look for someone a little older whose libido is low. There is a lid for every pot.

I’m good in bed, but I haven’t had sex in like 8 years. OP

Have you looked into politicians? Many want to have the family image before running for major office. I believe there are some who need the "beard" arrangement and would probably go through with having a child in order to keep up appearances.

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Anonymous wrote:What is your BMI?

I’m 105 lbs, 5’2.

Have you considered eating more? That's awfully skinny and potentially unattractive to men. Try to avoid looking like a child when you dress.

+1
My 11-year-old daughter is the same height and weight--and she is thin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not sure if I want to use a sperm donor. I hate anything medical, etc. OP

At this age even if you find a partner, you may need to use IVF. You need to think of what is your goal. You may not like everything about the process, but if you want to be a mom, embrace the journey. Your attitude of hating anything medical will stop you from getting pregnant if you need medical help to get pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Be a single mom by choice. Either your own egg or adoption. I am saying this with all love and kindness.

However, being single and childless is also not bad. In 10-20 years you are in the same place most married moms are - single and childless.

The expectation that kids will be your support in old age is pretty unrealistic. These guys are not even able to take care of their own SHEET.

[Anonymous]

The real question is why havent you dated at all in 14 years?

If you just prefer to be alone/ not date- thats fine.

But if you wanted it all along, and sat on the sidelines for 14 years... there is more to the story here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:42F, and haven’t dated since I was 28. I want to be married, and have kids, but I’m afraid it’s too late now.. What should I do?

I have a friend who hasn't dated since he was 30. He is 46 now. Would you be open to date a guy like him?

[Anonymous]

If you haven't dated for 14 years then you didn't need to and your life was complete. Either have a child on your own by choice - I know many women in that position with happy little families. Or let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"And, I say this gently, I'd really look into why you aren't married and haven't dated in 14 years. That's not common."

This is total BS. If OP lives in the DMV, it is very common for this to happen if she's not doing OLD. In 10 years, I only met one man who asked me for my number and then followed up. Granted, the COVID years were in there, but still. You pretty much have to proactively do OLD to meet men.

Or just be hot and out in the world. Men will approach you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"And, I say this gently, I'd really look into why you aren't married and haven't dated in 14 years. That's not common."

This is total BS. If OP lives in the DMV, it is very common for this to happen if she's not doing OLD. In 10 years, I only met one man who asked me for my number and then followed up. Granted, the COVID years were in there, but still. You pretty much have to proactively do OLD to meet men.

Or just be hot and out in the world. Men will approach you.

I am hot and this never happened to me all my life.