42 and still single, is it over?

[Anonymous]

42F, and haven’t dated since I was 28. I want to be married, and have kids, but I’m afraid it’s too late now.. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Play golf and meet a kind divorced dad.

[Anonymous]

The harsh truth is it is probably too late for you to get married and have your own biological kids. Sure, there are outliers, but it is statistically unlikely, especially if you aren't even dating right now. There are obviously alternate routes to motherhood, like egg donation and adoption, but those are also expensive and time-consuming, meaning they are probably off the table unless you have a lot of financial resources. If I were you, I'd focus on dating without the pressure of looking for the father of your future kids.

[Anonymous]

You have been single for 14 years. Haven't you been happy?
Why do you feel the need to be married and have kids now?
Who is pressuring you? Your parents? Society?
You don't need to date, be married and have kids to be happy.

[Anonymous]

why you haven't dated since you were 28? That is the bigger issue here

[Anonymous]

What is your BMI?

[Anonymous]

A relationship is possible at any age. Motherhood depends on how flexible you are as it will likely look different than you planned. A natural pregnancy while not impossible will be difficult. Are you open to things like donor eggs or surrogacy? What do you feel about adopting or being a stepmom?.

What has kept you from a relationship since you were 28?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You have been single for 14 years. Haven't you been happy?
Why do you feel the need to be married and have kids now?
Who is pressuring you? Your parents? Society?
You don't need to date, be married and have kids to be happy.

I couldn't agree more.
You are probably and independent woman with a good job.
Don't let a man or children enter into the picture and ruin your life.

[Anonymous]

Maybe OP is a man.

[Anonymous]

I couldn’t find the ideal man which is why I stopped trying. I had super high expectations. I know that wasn’t the best idea. OP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is your BMI?

I’m 105 lbs, 5’2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is your BMI?

I’m 105 lbs, 5’2.

Have you considered eating more? That's awfully skinny and potentially unattractive to men. Try to avoid looking like a child when you dress.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you have a child on your own? You are much better off as a single mom by choice than compromising, and at your age, you would most likely have to compromise. The market is not in your favor. A single guy who's never had kids has too much options in younger, more fertile women. And you absolutely don't' want someone who already has kids. They will just take away resources from your own. You'll be your best mom version of yourself at this point as a single mom by choice.

[Anonymous]

It’s never too late. Never. Ignore the BS from previous posters. Be open to finding connection. Don’t judge on appearance or background. All that matters in the end is the connections we have with others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s never too late. Never. Ignore the BS from previous posters. Be open to finding connection. Don’t judge on appearance or background. All that matters in the end is the connections we have with others.

^This. If you're not good in bed, just look for someone a little older whose libido is low. There is a lid for every pot.