College pregnancy scares

[Anonymous]

My DD, now a college junior, has been on birth control for years, she started it to manage heavy periods and now has an implant. Her choice and she was not always sexually active. I recommend it. No worries about remembering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't her partner pull out? It costs nothing and when done correctly is much more effective than it gets credit for.

I did it exactly once and have a teenager to show for it. Zero stars as a birth control method.

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't her partner pull out? It costs nothing and when done correctly is much more effective than it gets credit for.

I did it exactly once and have a teenager to show for it. Zero stars as a birth control method.

I also laugh at people who suggest the rhythm method, because it relies on horny impulsive teenagers to closely track their periods and then not have sex during the time in which they're naturally going to want to have sex the most.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am I the only one who is surprised this girl called her mother?

OP is the girl not the mother me thinks

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Anonymous wrote:Nurse Practitioner here. If she can’t go to class because this is all-consuming, she really is too young to be having sex.

Pregnancy, from a lifetime health perspective, is the least concern, regardless of outcome: miscarriage, abortion, birth.

STIs can be forever. HSV, HPV (I think most girls are vaccinated, but not all boys), gonorrhea, chlamydia. Women can have silent infections from gonorrhea and chlamydia, which can lead to infertility.

I wish more people talked to their kids about STI.

Pullout method 0% effective for this.

Girls should be prepared if boys are not.

I hope she is not pregnant and that she can take responsibility for protecting herself, and if she can’t, then she waits until she can.

This.

The vaccine doesn’t cover all strains of HPV. Viruses evolve too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, I preemptively talked to her about getting on birth control so that she was used to it before she was sexually active. There is no reason for emergencies when it's generally accepted that college aged adults are or will become sexually active.

+1 I was a virgin when I went to college. Pregnancy was always a big fear at that time. I remember going to the Planned parenthood in my college town and getting on the Pill long before I decided to have sex.

It’s a maturity issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't her partner pull out? It costs nothing and when done correctly is much more effective than it gets credit for.

This is fine for a 35 year old man who knows his reactions well. Not a dumb 20 year old who just started screwing in the last couple of years.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. She’s not on any form of birth control. She said she didn’t want to be sexually active in the fall. We believed her when she said she wasn’t having sex and didn’t need it. Well, come to find out she’s sexually active, and not with a boyfriend, so she lied. She is too nervous to get tested.

She’s not mature enough to be sexually active, and you need to MAKE her get a test.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She won't go to class? Show up at her door with a fistful of pregnancy tests and stop this nonsense before she fails the semester.

This. If you physically cannot get to her, overnight/DoorDash some pregnancy tests to her room.

Once you know if she's pregnant, the next step is to either schedule an abortion (assuming that's possible where she is) or figure out birth control.

Honestly, I agree with the others that she sounds too immature for sex. Pregnancy is a pretty expected outcome of unprotected sex between two healthy young people.

I hate to ask, but are you 100% sure this was all consensual?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. She’s not on any form of birth control. She said she didn’t want to be sexually active in the fall. We believed her when she said she wasn’t having sex and didn’t need it. Well, come to find out she’s sexually active, and not with a boyfriend, so she lied. She is too nervous to get tested.

She’s not mature enough to be sexually active, and you need to MAKE her get a test.

+1

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It doesn't sound like she was prepared for the real world.

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Anonymous wrote:Stupid tik tok is advocating against girls going on the pill or getting an IUD. Condoms are less effective…and then there’s being drunk and throwing caution to the wind. Make sure if she gets through this she protects herself. Use condoms AND use your own form of control.

+1 we told our sons (first absolute consent) and always wear a condoms. Less girls use any birth control themselves these days. It’s not the 90s when every girl of college age was on the Pill.

And apparently guys are not pulling out. Tik tok is to be blamed.

The problem is worst at elite colleges where the graduation rate is >90%. These guys have been brought up to finish what they start.

[Anonymous]

Wow, “forgot”.

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Anonymous wrote:No, I preemptively talked to her about getting on birth control so that she was used to it before she was sexually active. There is no reason for emergencies when it's generally accepted that college aged adults are or will become sexually active.

+1 I was a virgin when I went to college. Pregnancy was always a big fear at that time. I remember going to the Planned parenthood in my college town and getting on the Pill long before I decided to have sex.

It’s a maturity issue.

One of my friends did this and planned it out. Her parents destroyed her bc pills when they found them during the summer, so she just gave up being mature and had unprotected sex with her boyfriend when she went back to school.