College pregnancy scares

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Anonymous wrote:I am sure she is terrified. Just try to explain to her that she is better testing when she can still DO something about it, rather than be in denial about it.

Hope she is not in a Red state!

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't her partner pull out? It costs nothing and when done correctly is much more effective than it gets credit for.

bs. I bet you have 7 kids. Don't spread bs.

Scientifically, that is correct. The problem is with the "when done correctly."

It's not brain surgery.

1. Pull out on time every time.
2 (and this is key). Always urinate before you have sex a subsequent time. Contrary to myth, pre-ejaculate does not contain active sperm, but it can pick up sperm left over in the urethra from a previous ejaculation. A nice forceful whiz will clear the pipes out so you're good to go for round two.

Do you really think it's something an 18 year old boy can manage? I'm skeptical.

It's certainly not something a girl should gamble on, considering the STI risk

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is pregnant. She knows how long she forgot for. She has to take a test. Mom needs to find resources for medical abortions.

Really? Why is this mom’s job? If sweet pea is old enough to be sleeping around, she’s old enough to take care of her own issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nurse Practitioner here. If she can’t go to class because this is all-consuming, she really is too young to be having sex.

Pregnancy, from a lifetime health perspective, is the least concern, regardless of outcome: miscarriage, abortion, birth.

STIs can be forever. HSV, HPV (I think most girls are vaccinated, but not all boys), gonorrhea, chlamydia. Women can have silent infections from gonorrhea and chlamydia, which can lead to infertility.

I wish more people talked to their kids about STI.

Pullout method 0% effective for this.

Girls should be prepared if boys are not.

I hope she is not pregnant and that she can take responsibility for protecting herself, and if she can’t, then she waits until she can.

This.

[Anonymous]

She needs to get the hell out of her room. I would not be okay with her skipping classes because of this. I have a kid with major anxiety so I get it, but if she wasn’t going to class I would drive up to college and drag her out of her room. She needs to KEEP moving and not hide from her problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is normal and it’s good your kid is sexually active. Tell her to book a counseling center appointment.

??? No. It's not normal. This is over-the-top anxiety, and needs to be addressed separately from the actual trigger, which also needs to be addressed. She needs to take a pregnancy test and then if her period doesn't come back, go to the gynecologist to get an ultrasound and bloodwork. Urine pregnancy tests only work in the first weeks of pregnancy, after which there is too much HCG to make the test positive, and it can report a false negative...

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Anonymous wrote:Why didn't her partner pull out? It costs nothing and when done correctly is much more effective than it gets credit for.

bs. I bet you have 7 kids. Don't spread bs.

Scientifically, that is correct. The problem is with the "when done correctly."

It's not brain surgery.

1. Pull out on time every time.
2 (and this is key). Always urinate before you have sex a subsequent time. Contrary to myth, pre-ejaculate does not contain active sperm, but it can pick up sperm left over in the urethra from a previous ejaculation. A nice forceful whiz will clear the pipes out so you're good to go for round two.

Do you really think it's something an 18 year old boy can manage? I'm skeptical.

I could at 18. But I also mastered climax control during my teens by edging and by never relying on pornographic material when self-servicing.

[Anonymous]

It is not normal to be so anxious about anything that you cannot leave your home or perform your job or the equivalent (here, going to class and taking tests). That is a disabling level of mental illness. It's especially bad here because she will not take a pregnancy test so she can either get an abortion or stop worrying. I would be going there myself if it were my kid, same as I would if she were showing signs of any other serious mental or physical disorder and not able to arrange treatment for it herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She’s not on any form of birth control. She said she didn’t want to be sexually active in the fall. We believed her when she said she wasn’t having sex and didn’t need it. Well, come to find out she’s sexually active, and not with a boyfriend, so she lied. She is too nervous to get tested.

she can get a pregnancy test at cvs or anywhere. she needs to go find out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is not normal to be so anxious about anything that you cannot leave your home or perform your job or the equivalent (here, going to class and taking tests). That is a disabling level of mental illness. It's especially bad here because she will not take a pregnancy test so she can either get an abortion or stop worrying. I would be going there myself if it were my kid, same as I would if she were showing signs of any other serious mental or physical disorder and not able to arrange treatment for it herself.

agree the level of anxiety conveyed is beyond what is expected

[Anonymous]

She won't go to class? Show up at her door with a fistful of pregnancy tests and stop this nonsense before she fails the semester.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. She’s not on any form of birth control. She said she didn’t want to be sexually active in the fall. We believed her when she said she wasn’t having sex and didn’t need it. Well, come to find out she’s sexually active, and not with a boyfriend, so she lied. She is too nervous to get tested.

Did she tell Chad that she wasn't on anything, or did she lie to him too? If he knew, he should have pulled out or as a last resort taken her for Plan B the next morning.

Chad needs to know he might be a father soon. No reason why she needs to be alone with the pregnancy scare. Maybe Chad will wrap it up next time. And she needs to do an STD test too.

[Anonymous]

Gyn, ASAP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. She’s not on any form of birth control. She said she didn’t want to be sexually active in the fall. We believed her when she said she wasn’t having sex and didn’t need it. Well, come to find out she’s sexually active, and not with a boyfriend, so she lied. She is too nervous to get tested.

Did she tell Chad that she wasn't on anything, or did she lie to him too? If he knew, he should have pulled out or as a last resort taken her for Plan B the next morning.

Chad needs to know he might be a father soon. No reason why she needs to be alone with the pregnancy scare. Maybe Chad will wrap it up next time. And she needs to do an STD test too.

Something tells me, she and Chad don't communicate well with one another.

[Anonymous]

HIV is still very real. You need to have a serious conversation with your daughter about being responsible and safe!