College pregnancy scares

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She’s not on any form of birth control. She said she didn’t want to be sexually active in the fall. We believed her when she said she wasn’t having sex and didn’t need it. Well, come to find out she’s sexually active, and not with a boyfriend, so she lied. She is too nervous to get tested.

Did she tell Chad that she wasn't on anything, or did she lie to him too? If he knew, he should have pulled out or as a last resort taken her for Plan B the next morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't her partner pull out? It costs nothing and when done correctly is much more effective than it gets credit for.

This is not reliable. Maybe for a married couple, but for someone you haven’t been dating for a while this is a terrible idea.

[Anonymous]

She needs to grow up and she needs some harsh truths. She won't go to class or take tests but refuses to take a pregnancy test? She could end her spiraling now. How far away is she? Can you go down or bring her home for a few days?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is normal and it’s good your kid is sexually active. Tell her to book a counseling center appointment.

Disagree. Based on the post, she isn’t mature enough to be sexually active.

[Anonymous]

I am sure she is terrified. Just try to explain to her that she is better testing when she can still DO something about it, rather than be in denial about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't her partner pull out? It costs nothing and when done correctly is much more effective than it gets credit for.

Please don't listen to this idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't her partner pull out? It costs nothing and when done correctly is much more effective than it gets credit for.

bs. I bet you have 7 kids. Don't spread bs.

Try two kids, both planned. Back in the day, though, I was in a three-year relationship and pulling out was the only contraception we used. She didn't want to be on oral birth control for health reasons, and I like to be able to feel something during sex, so condoms were ruled out too. Even though I have a sack fulla sperm (as evidenced by my two kids) and she also has kids now with her current husband, we had zero pregnancies or pregnancy scares. The key is to pull out on time every time, and to urinate forcefully between sessions so no leftover sperm hangs around in your urethra to potentially be pushed out by pre-ejaculatory fluid. Do those two things and you're as safe as wearing a condom, at least where pregnancy is concerned.

Again, don't listen to this moron OP.

Every woman knows this is the worst thing you can do. Get her on the pill and for goodness sakes get her to take the test. Sticking your head in the sand isn't going to save her.

[Anonymous]

Not to diminish her feelings—it’s scary, I know. But this was just another Wednesday back in our day. Long before TikTok, 18 years olds made many, many dumb, risky decisions, often under the influence of alcohol, and many, many pregnancy scares ensued. Hopefully, this will be a wake up call for her to get on birth control.

[Anonymous]

You could go ahead and make an abortion appointment for her just in case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone else had kids in college go through a moment where they thought they might be pregnant? I’m curious about how often this happens and how families navigated it.

My 18 year old has been a little anxious lately—her period is late and she’s been feeling nauseous, she also “forgot” to use protection—and it got me thinking about how different kids handle this kind of uncertainty. It’s been a tense few days for her, and I’m trying to stay calm while helping her process everything. She’s stuck and is refusing to do anything but sit in her room, will not take a test or go to class.

How did you support your kids through moments like this, and what helped them cope while figuring things out? Any stories or experiences would be really helpful.

What helped was taking a test.

What didn’t help was refusing to care for myself and hiding from everything. Make her DO SOMETHING about this. Panic isn’t a plan, for goodness sakes. Kids these days!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't her partner pull out? It costs nothing and when done correctly is much more effective than it gets credit for.

Pulling out doesn't prevent STDs. This guy isn't even a boyfriend and relying on a guy's self control instead of a clear form of birth control is a bad, bad idea.

The fact that she's having entirely unprotected sex she hasn't even gone and bought a test? If this isn't a troll this is a hugely problematic situation that someone would be that insanely reckless.

[Anonymous]

Common, very common. Get her to calm down first, reassure her, and then make sure she takes a test.

[Anonymous]

No, I preemptively talked to her about getting on birth control so that she was used to it before she was sexually active. There is no reason for emergencies when it's generally accepted that college aged adults are or will become sexually active.

[Anonymous]

The morning after pill is available over the counter for use when they “forget” to use contraception. Also I think since PAP smears aren’t needed til 21 now and most girls haven’t had a pelvic exam at that age the IUD can be scary. The Implant is a much better option - and just as effective.

[Anonymous]

First, I didn't tell my mom about it. If she is late already, she needs to take a test already. She could be 5 weeks. Time is of the essence.