College pregnancy scares

[Anonymous]

Has anyone else had kids in college go through a moment where they thought they might be pregnant? I’m curious about how often this happens and how families navigated it.

My 18 year old has been a little anxious lately—her period is late and she’s been feeling nauseous, she also “forgot” to use protection—and it got me thinking about how different kids handle this kind of uncertainty. It’s been a tense few days for her, and I’m trying to stay calm while helping her process everything. She’s stuck and is refusing to do anything but sit in her room, will not take a test or go to class.

How did you support your kids through moments like this, and what helped them cope while figuring things out? Any stories or experiences would be really helpful.

[Anonymous]

This is normal and it’s good your kid is sexually active. Tell her to book a counseling center appointment.

[Anonymous]

Stupid tik tok is advocating against girls going on the pill or getting an IUD. Condoms are less effective…and then there’s being drunk and throwing caution to the wind. Make sure if she gets through this she protects herself. Use condoms AND use your own form of control.

[Anonymous]

Why doesn’t she take a pregnancy test?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stupid tik tok is advocating against girls going on the pill or getting an IUD. Condoms are less effective…and then there’s being drunk and throwing caution to the wind. Make sure if she gets through this she protects herself. Use condoms AND use your own form of control.

+1 we told our sons (first absolute consent) and always wear a condoms. Less girls use any birth control themselves these days. It’s not the 90s when every girl of college age was on the Pill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stupid tik tok is advocating against girls going on the pill or getting an IUD. Condoms are less effective…and then there’s being drunk and throwing caution to the wind. Make sure if she gets through this she protects herself. Use condoms AND use your own form of control.

+1 we told our sons (first absolute consent) and always wear a condoms. Less girls use any birth control themselves these days. It’s not the 90s when every girl of college age was on the Pill.

And apparently guys are not pulling out. Tik tok is to be blamed.

[Anonymous]

First thing is talk about when she’s going on the Pill.

[Anonymous]

Why didn't her partner pull out? It costs nothing and when done correctly is much more effective than it gets credit for.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has anyone else had kids in college go through a moment where they thought they might be pregnant? I’m curious about how often this happens and how families navigated it.

My 18 year old has been a little anxious lately—her period is late and she’s been feeling nauseous, she also “forgot” to use protection—and it got me thinking about how different kids handle this kind of uncertainty. It’s been a tense few days for her, and I’m trying to stay calm while helping her process everything. She’s stuck and is refusing to do anything but sit in her room, will not take a test or go to class.

How did you support your kids through moments like this, and what helped them cope while figuring things out? Any stories or experiences would be really helpful.

“forgot” to use protection---really that's her excuse? She needs to get an IUD asap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is normal and it’s good your kid is sexually active. Tell her to book a counseling center appointment.

Uh...?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't her partner pull out? It costs nothing and when done correctly is much more effective than it gets credit for.

bs. I bet you have 7 kids. Don't spread bs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stupid tik tok is advocating against girls going on the pill or getting an IUD. Condoms are less effective…and then there’s being drunk and throwing caution to the wind. Make sure if she gets through this she protects herself. Use condoms AND use your own form of control.

What is interesting is that these wellness influencers never advocate for condom usage. It’s just disparaging birth control and telling them to track their cycle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First thing is talk about when she’s going on the Pill.

+1. This is the time to talk about getting her on the pill or an IUD and using condoms. Her university health center will help (unless she goes to a catholic college, in which case she'll need to get to somewhere outside of campus).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't her partner pull out? It costs nothing and when done correctly is much more effective than it gets credit for.

bs. I bet you have 7 kids. Don't spread bs.

Try two kids, both planned. Back in the day, though, I was in a three-year relationship and pulling out was the only contraception we used. She didn't want to be on oral birth control for health reasons, and I like to be able to feel something during sex, so condoms were ruled out too. Even though I have a sack fulla sperm (as evidenced by my two kids) and she also has kids now with her current husband, we had zero pregnancies or pregnancy scares. The key is to pull out on time every time, and to urinate forcefully between sessions so no leftover sperm hangs around in your urethra to potentially be pushed out by pre-ejaculatory fluid. Do those two things and you're as safe as wearing a condom, at least where pregnancy is concerned.

[Anonymous]

OP here. She’s not on any form of birth control. She said she didn’t want to be sexually active in the fall. We believed her when she said she wasn’t having sex and didn’t need it. Well, come to find out she’s sexually active, and not with a boyfriend, so she lied. She is too nervous to get tested.