Boyfriend continues to cheat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is so great about this guy that all these women want to cheat with him?

Has to be good D
Women accept all types of BS behind that D

[Anonymous]

This is so toxic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is so great about this guy that all these women want to cheat with him?

Has to be good D
Women accept all types of BS behind that D

could be true or OP grew up in dysfunctional family during childhood.

[Anonymous]

“So when I bring up the cheating that actually happened, the conversation somehow turns into him saying he doesn’t trust me and that I broke the relationship first.”

The above is an abuse technique known as DARVO - the acronym stands for deny, attack, reverse victim, and offender. He is denying any cheating and attacking you for cheating which reverses the victim and offender dynamic and makes you the offender. It’s a classic abuse technique and an invasion of accountability.

The thing he did with your mom – getting in touch with her and telling her a lie that would get her to be on his side is also an abusive technique known as “flying monkeys” or to be more charitable ball and use a psychology term “triangulation”. The flying monkey is someone recruited by the perpetrator to help him – sort of like the flying monkeys help the wicked witch in the Wizard of Oz. Often of users or narcissists tell lies to friends and family members to try and recruit them to reinforce their gaslighting or manipulation of their partner. More charitably and psychological terms telling a third-party about problems in a relationship in order to get that third-party to assist in getting the Partner to change their behavior is known as “triangulation“. It is considered an unhealthy pattern of communication. Healthy communication expresses concerns directly.

Your BF is seriously abusive. Please leave him ASAP. I’m sorry your Mom doesn’t support you. That is also seriously messed up. Please get an individual therapist and work on relationship skills and boundaries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a crazy person. Get away from him.

+1 he literally obtained the telephone number of your mother and tried to do what?

I don’t let people play with me like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What did your mother say?

I’d like to leave but he’s still a nice partner and treats me well, so I accept his apologies but I don’t know what to do in this situation, how long more to take it.

She said that he doesn’t deserve me and that she always knew that I was a whre.

Are you ugly? If you are that’s ok and this is totally understandable. Thats the only reason to be this desperate for any man who will give you attention.

Anyway, did you read the herpes thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is so great about this guy that all these women want to cheat with him?

Not the OP, but my xH cheated. His tactic was to make them feel special. He was pretty smart and “deep” in a spiritual sense, and would feed them a bunch of BS how he was this tortured artistic soul and they were the only person in the world who understood him, they were connected on a spiritual level, etc. To their credit, the women he cheated with had no idea I existed.

Typically cheaters are very charming and good at making people feel special, which is how they are able to land APs and why people like OP stick around. They’re good with words

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Babe. So, I had a similar BF. I ignored my gut and stayed. Eventually, I caught him cheating while I was literally giving birth to his child. Still didn't leave for another 3 years, when I caught him cheating for the god knows how many time.

The whole "but YOU did XYZ!" is straight out of the cheater's playbook. Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender. It's to get you to shut up and not hold him accountable.

Leave. It's not worth it. He's going to cheat again, and it's up to you whether you end it now or years from now. Now is better.

I have so many questions...

Right because this sounds like an episode of love after lock up. I could never.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dump him.

And, when he tries to pressure you to stay together and keeps asking for reasons, you just say, boyfriend, I don't want to be a relationship with you anymore. It's over.

He's going to want you to list reasons so he can counter them with his arguments. Don't get caught up in that. You simply don't feel the same way about him anymore and it's over.

Just tell him you don’t have any reasons and don’t need any.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What did your mother say?

I’d like to leave but he’s still a nice partner and treats me well, so I accept his apologies but I don’t know what to do in this situation, how long more to take it.

She said that he doesn’t deserve me and that she always knew that I was a whre.

You’re either a troll or an idiot. On the off chance that you’re a real person with half a brain, break up with this guy and get into therapy STAT.

He is NOT a nice partner and he does NOT treat you well if he’s sticking his dick in other women. Over and over.

Definitely the latter. As is any woman who would entertain a cheater gaslighting and accusing her of cheating.

[Anonymous]

"Continues to cheat". The headline should be "Girlfriend refuses to leave serial cheater boyfriend" because that's what's actually going on here.