Almost 13yo son– violent over video games, refusing meds. What now?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take it all away, call the police when he rages - you’ll end up with a mandatory inpatient psych stay which is what you need at this point (ask me how I know).

This is not a police issue nor a hospitalization issue. That's not what will fix this. And, there is a very specific threshold to hospitalization, especially a young child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what is his diagnosis? I am terrified that you haven’t even sought one yet.

ADHD Combined type.

Have had him reassessed since the violence increased? I have a child with ADHD and I seriously doubt any doctor would write off what you are describing as *only* ADHD. You definitely need more help.

Yes, he was diagnosed at six after behavioural issues at school and home, and was reassessed a year and a half ago, same result.

[Anonymous]

Have Dad take the child for awhile even though he does not want him full time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, what triggered the divorce? Was your ex violent like your son?

Ex began accusing me of cheating and became physically abusive. On the third occasion, he hit both me and our toddler. I called the police and left immediately. He then stalked and followed me for months, forcing me to call the cops repeatedly. He threatened me and my family, showed up at my job, and harassed my siblings and parents.

[Anonymous]

Why do you have a “partner” living with your son?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you have a “partner” living with your son?

We’re engaged.

[Anonymous]

The ex and the violent tween sound like peas in a pod. This will not end well for the other kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kid needs some kind of inpatient place. You need him out of the house. If xDH makes threats it's clearly a setup on his part with the games. He either has to reao what he sows and keep kid or kid has to be placed elsewhere. He will kill you. Or his sibling. Or both.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, what is his diagnosis? I am terrified that you haven’t even sought one yet.

ADHD Combined type.

Have had him reassessed since the violence increased? I have a child with ADHD and I seriously doubt any doctor would write off what you are describing as *only* ADHD. You definitely need more help.

Yes, he was diagnosed at six after behavioural issues at school and home, and was reassessed a year and a half ago, same result.

And, what have you been doing about it beyond getting him diagnosed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you have a “partner” living with your son?

We’re engaged.

That's not a reason.

I suspect your son is not happy about having a new adult foisted into his home, and also knows that his father does not want to parent him. Those are the real problems.

[Anonymous]

Send him somewhere. It’ll only get worse as he gets older.