When your spouse becomes a fitness freak

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Anonymous wrote:This is so amazing. Good for your DH! He’s staying healthy and modeling how to stay healthy for your children. I don’t see the down side. Enjoy him!

You don’t see the downside of a father getting competitive with his teenage sons and refusing to let them win?

No. Eventually they will win. But it will be earned.

Uh huh.
You’ve never met a dad who didn’t allow his son to be stronger than him or a mom who didn’t allow her daughter to be prettier than her?

I’m pretty sure I have heard a story about this somewhere…

Didn’t allow the son to be stronger? What are you making up? Also it’s completely different than a mom competing with her daughter to be the most beautiful.

Are you going to complain next that the dad makes more money than sons?

The OP literally says that it feels like a competition and that it’s affecting her teen boys body image.

Why is it completely different if a man does this to his sons vs a woman doing this to her daughters?

You are fragile flower. Trash talking in arm wrestling is not harmful. Guys have harmless exercise challenges all the time. These are teens. They will grow stronger than dad. It’s really weird that you think the dad needs to let them win.

Is it okay for the dad to earn more money?

It sounds to me like OP is worried because she’s literally the only family member who doesn’t exercise with her husband.

I’m not a fragile flower. I am a person who has reading comprehension skills. That’s not why the OP said she was worried.

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Anonymous wrote:This is so amazing. Good for your DH! He’s staying healthy and modeling how to stay healthy for your children. I don’t see the down side. Enjoy him!

You don’t see the downside of a father getting competitive with his teenage sons and refusing to let them win?

No. Eventually they will win. But it will be earned.

Uh huh.
You’ve never met a dad who didn’t allow his son to be stronger than him or a mom who didn’t allow her daughter to be prettier than her?

I’m pretty sure I have heard a story about this somewhere…

Didn’t allow the son to be stronger? What are you making up? Also it’s completely different than a mom competing with her daughter to be the most beautiful.

Are you going to complain next that the dad makes more money than sons?

The OP literally says that it feels like a competition and that it’s affecting her teen boys body image.

Why is it completely different if a man does this to his sons vs a woman doing this to her daughters?

You are fragile flower. Trash talking in arm wrestling is not harmful. Guys have harmless exercise challenges all the time. These are teens. They will grow stronger than dad. It’s really weird that you think the dad needs to let them win.

Is it okay for the dad to earn more money?

It sounds to me like OP is worried because she’s literally the only family member who doesn’t exercise with her husband.

I’m not a fragile flower. I am a person who has reading comprehension skills. That’s not why the OP said she was worried.

You are the one who thinks it’s problematic that DH doesn’t let teen sons will at arm wrestling. They are teens not preschoolers. Fragile.

[Anonymous]

Could be he resents you aren’t in shape.

Could be he’s got his eye on someone.

Could be this is just what’s he’s into right now.

Only you can tell.

[Anonymous]

What a “problem” to have! Bang him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As somebody who is more interested in fitness than my husband, I DO resent his lack of interest. He has flat out told me he doesn't want to hear updates from me on how I'm doing (e.g. I ran X distance, in x time!). I certainly never comment on how fat he is (he's fat) or that he gets very little exercise (maybe 2-3 walks a week?).

Why do you resent that he is in shape?

+1 except my husband is the opposite of fat, he weighs about 145. But he never exercises at all and he seems annoyed that I do so much. Like he thinks I’m trying to look good for someone else. Of course that’s not the case but I’d like him to show some interest like any hobby.

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Anonymous wrote:This is so amazing. Good for your DH! He’s staying healthy and modeling how to stay healthy for your children. I don’t see the down side. Enjoy him!

You don’t see the downside of a father getting competitive with his teenage sons and refusing to let them win?

No. Eventually they will win. But it will be earned.

Uh huh.
You’ve never met a dad who didn’t allow his son to be stronger than him or a mom who didn’t allow her daughter to be prettier than her?

I’m pretty sure I have heard a story about this somewhere…

Didn’t allow the son to be stronger? What are you making up? Also it’s completely different than a mom competing with her daughter to be the most beautiful.

Are you going to complain next that the dad makes more money than sons?

The OP literally says that it feels like a competition and that it’s affecting her teen boys body image.

Why is it completely different if a man does this to his sons vs a woman doing this to her daughters?

Have ever been around any males? Especially teenage boys pumping full of testosterone?

This is how they bond and form relationships.

This is why sports exist for thousands of years (before women were allowed to compete).

Men are fishing, golfing, playing something.

They are not known for book clubs or chatting about feelings or outfits or fashion trends.

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Anonymous wrote:Is he spending so much time on fitness that he is ignoring other priorities (work, family time, family responsibilities)?

Is he criticizing anyone else for not doing what he does?

If not, then he's not doing anything wrong. Let him be.

If he was, say, an obsessive pianist, would you get upset with him because he was setting an unreasonable standard for excellent piano playing?

We have a home gym so does not impact anything at home.

I think it is more of the boys challenging him to arm wrestle (or actually wrestle as one of ours does that for his sport). He will do it sometimes with them and they will talk trash but normally lose to him.

He does not criticize anyone - but when one of the boys may claim there arm is bigger or something he does not placate them.

Our daughter will sometimes run with him.

Fail to see the problem.
50 year old man taking care of himself.
Not critical of anyone.
Bonding with his children and not coddling his teenage sons.
The problem is you op why are you such a miserable person,?

OP prob needs to get in shape and mad she’s the only who’s not in her family

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I like that he is male bonding with his sons. Unlike some men who just work and don't spend time with them. He sounds like a good dad.

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Anonymous wrote:Could be he resents you aren’t in shape.

Could be he’s got his eye on someone.

Could be this is just what’s he’s into right now.

Only you can tell.

Yep.
Mr Husband is signaling he’s not thrilled w his wife’s weight/shape