My Husband Thinks I’m Too Close to My Ex-Husbands

[Anonymous]

She still likes the idea of having fun with hubby #1

[Anonymous]

Husband collector!!'

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Presumably your third husband married you, knowing your relationship with your previous husbands.

I think he’s out of line to try and change your relationship. If it was a deal breaker to have you close to your x, he shouldn’t have even gone on a date. He made this bed, he can lay in it.

He also shaboinks OP in it.

[Anonymous]

Husband #3 is an insecure loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Husband #3 is an insecure loser.

Make sure husband # 4 is comfortable enough in his own skin not to feel threatened by texts and gifts from husbands 1, 2, and possibly 3.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in a bit of a situation and could really use some perspective. My husband feels that I’m too close to my ex-husbands, and I’m not sure how to handle it.

I married my first husband young. We have a 12 year old son together, and we co-parent well, communicating daily to stay on top of things like school, schedules, and family events. We don’t have conflict—he’ll often call or text me multiple times a day if something comes up with our son, or even just to check in. We also talk occasionally about personal matters, like how our families are doing and updates on our lives, but it’s always respectful and focused on our son’s needs. My husband thinks we’re too friendly, which is causing tension.

I remarried four years later to my second husband. We didn’t have children together, but he was a stepdad to my son for several years. Even though we’re divorced now, he still reaches out every few months, especially around birthdays and holidays. He’ll ask how we’re doing, sends gifts for my son and me, and we catch up on things like how his family is, his work, and just life in general. He still likes to talk to my son sometimes, and I think it’s nice given the bond they had. While I don’t initiate contact, I appreciate that he still cares and stays in touch in a thoughtful way.

I’ve been married to my current husband for a few years now and we have a young son together. He’s great, but he’s uncomfortable with the ongoing communication I have with my exes. While I understand his feelings, I also feel it’s important for my son to maintain positive relationships with both his dad and former stepdad.

I’m not sure how to find a balance between respecting my husband’s feelings and maintaining healthy relationships with my exes, particularly for my son’s sake. I don’t believe we’re too friendly, but because there isn’t any conflict, my husband thinks it’s too much. I’m a naturally easygoing person, who does not hold grudges but he sees it differently. I love him and want him to understand that it’s healthy to maintain respectful relations with ex-spouses.

How can I help my husband feel more comfortable with this dynamic?

Maybe #4 will be better. To can just go through life collecting men until your looks fade and no one wants to care of you anymore.

Geez, 3 marriages at an age still young enough to have kids - there’s a problem - with you AND #3. I mean, he should know your headed to divorce land since you have the frequent flyer pass.

[Anonymous]

Lady, control yourself. Limit the comms between the exes. This isn’t hard.

[Anonymous]

op is clearly the problem here. You care more about your exs then get single and do whatever you want.

[Anonymous]

I don’t see what the problem is. It sounds like you’re set to have an excellent relationship with ex husband number three!