My Husband Thinks I’m Too Close to My Ex-Husbands

[Anonymous]

OP, please ignore all the bitter old hags who are responding to you. Your husband needs to grow up and get over it. This is about your son. Your communication with your first husband, your son’s father, is no issue. You have to talk to him for your son’s sake, and if the two of you get along so well, then all the better. I don’t know how much you tell your current husband, but he doesn’t need to know every time you talk to your son’s dad. The only thing that would raise an issue for me is your second husband giving you gifts. Giving your son gifts is fine, but he doesn’t need to give you any. Other than that, this is an issue with your current husband’s insecurity, not an issue with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop getting married you clearly aren’t good at it. You are a terrible role model to your child.

So kind, so helpful.

[Anonymous]

Your husband is insecure if he feels threatened by the fact that you have a good parenting relationship with your exes. He doesn’t have balls. Maybe he is used to drama and doesn’t understand how you had a drama free divorce.

[Anonymous]

Texting multiple times a day on a normal day about one 12 year old boy is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

You guys need to work on fixing this cause third times usually the charm, was for my parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My XDH is mean and it’s difficult to coparent with him. Frankly, I am jealous. I think you can just politely decline the gift from XDH2 and explain that your current DH is uncomfortable. Communicate a little less with your first XDH. Go to marriage counseling to stay married to DH3.

+1 to the bolded and I agree on the gifts to you from XH2 (who sounds hung up on you TBH).

Obviously many posters disagree, but I think it's important to get to the bottom of your current husband's feelings. Don't start carving off little bits of yourself to keep the peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop getting married you clearly aren’t good at it. You are a terrible role model to your child.

So kind, so helpful.

Helpful for her kid, if she cares.

[Anonymous]

No need to respect your current husband's wishes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No need to respect your current husband's wishes

You mean her soon to be third ex-husband? She snagged a doctor and she needs to keep this husband.

[Anonymous]

Don’t listen to posters who make it sound like there is something wrong with communicating with ex husbands.
You are a good person and you are doing what any reasonable good human being should do.

I have a good relationship with my ex husband. He has a good relationship with my Mom, Dad and siblings.
My husband has no problems with it.

[Anonymous]

He'll understand it once he is an ex and you develop a good relationship with him as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At least lose contact with husband 2. Your son is old enough to have his own relationship with him if he wants.

This.

[Anonymous]

Put yourself in his shoes, if he had two ex wives and few girlfriends he wanted to stay closely connected to because he is an easygoing person, would you he okay with it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Texting multiple times a day on a normal day about one 12 year old boy is ridiculous.

This. This is a hot mess. And you crowdsourcing comebacks to support this nonsense instead of telling former husband #1 that he can’t have 24 hour access to you is ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was married to my first husband for eight and a half years, and we dated two years prior. Although we were intimate a few times after our divorce, that was before I began dating my second husband. We divorced, and about a year later I started dating my second husband. We got married three years after that, so I don’t think it was rushed.

My second marriage was short, and we divorced after a few years, we weren’t compatible. I’m now married to my current husband. I never thought I would get married a third time, but just a few months after that divorce we met at an event and he was really just the perfect person for me. He’s a very kind, respectful man and a physician—a truly wonderful partner. He wants to expand our family, have another kid or two. So , I really value him and his feelings and want to do everything I can to make him feel comfortable. Op

I knew OP was a troll from this tidbit because it's ragebait for the posters who will scream "gold-digger!"

Yes, I read this board too much.