Advice wanted: School laptop and grooming on discord

[Anonymous]

PP here. It’s also possible that the recepient is not and older man but a group of 10 year boys. Which could mean your daughter is sending p—n to young kids

[Anonymous]

You need to turn the laptop into school, hire a lawyer, and keep her home until you have a plan. This is beyond grave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Take the device away immediately and send a letter to the school stating that you no longer consent to their device agreement.

Exactly this.

It is a pain in the a$$ but in fcps you can also go through their list of thousands of programs your kid has access to (many with chat functions accessible to any adult pervert who knows there are kids on them) and individually opt out or in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to turn the laptop into school, hire a lawyer, and keep her home until you have a plan. This is beyond grave.

I agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:PP here. It’s also possible that the recepient is not and older man but a group of 10 year boys. Which could mean your daughter is sending p—n to young kids

Any person asking a minor to send explicit photos onlune is 99.9% some pervert adult predator and not other kids.

[Anonymous]

You need a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Change your wifi password? If she needs the laptop for homework, enter the password for her and be in the room.

I mean I assumed this was the answer but this turns into hours (like four?) of me monitoring her every night. No homework shouldn’t take that long but somehow it does for her and whatever she’s doing and it’s so so so easy to click over to discord when my back is turned or I go to the bathroom Maybe that’s the only answer but it’s insane that a parent would have to do that.

Your child is in crisis. How many hours is too many to save a kid?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Uh, have you called the police on the predator who is talking to your daughter?

THIS!!!! OP, I would have collected evidence the minute I saw it and contacted authorities to put a stop to this.

Problem is it could be another kid too, no real proof its a pred.

Either way, it is illegal and needs to be stopped, pronto.

[Anonymous]

I would have given the laptop back to the school as soon as I found this out along with an email that I officially do not consent to my child using laptops, other devices or the Internet in any capacity. A teacher will need to give her paper work so she can access the curriculum. If need be, I would get a psychologist to sign a note to that effect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to turn the laptop into school, hire a lawyer, and keep her home until you have a plan. This is beyond grave.

This. Like PP said, start by sending a letter stating that you no longer consent to the school system's device agreement. Do you or your DD have a therapist already?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PP here. It’s also possible that the recepient is not and older man but a group of 10 year boys. Which could mean your daughter is sending p—n to young kids

Any person asking a minor to send explicit photos onlune is 99.9% some pervert adult predator and not other kids.

Disagree. Have you met tween and teen boys?

There's a non-0% chance it's a boy her own age OR that it's a younger, curious kid.

Regardless of who it is or how old they are it needs to be stopped immediately.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can the school not see what's being done on the school device? Her sending nudes would be like me sending nudes on my work computer - the IT guy can see it.

I would at least nip that in the bud.

Can they see everything in the discord chat? I assume the images were being sent on her phone and not the school device (before we took away the phone) but I don’t know.

Ma'am, I'm sorry, but you need to get it together.

Your child is sending nudes to someone you're not even sure is a fellow child and you're just like "Well, I think they were sent on her phone but they were also sent over discord on her school tablet."

Figure it out. Come up with a plan.

I don’t get this. I didn’t say they were sent on a school device. I said she is using her school device to access discord. The nudes freak me out but that’s not all that disturbs me. I want to get rid of her access to discord entirely.

And yes I’d love to come up with a plan for that.

She is using her school device to communicate with someone who may be a sexual predator. It doesn’t matter where the pics were sent from.

Dear School,
It has come to my attention that students, including my daughter, are using school computers to communicate with people via discord who are encouraging them to send sexual imagery. I have requested xyz steps be taken to limit access but the problem has not been resolved. I would like a guarantee that this will be prevented and/or accommodations that will enable my daughter to complete all academic work without use of an electronic device. I look forward to working with you and/or the district to address this. Please know that I have also taken steps to address this directly with my daughter (ie restricting access to all non-school electronics).

[Anonymous]

I would send her to a military school

[Anonymous]

I would bet that OP is worried that if she tells the school about the use of Discord and the naked pictures that the kid will be suspended. Mom wants to avoid the suspension but is refusing to tell the school the real issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would bet that OP is worried that if she tells the school about the use of Discord and the naked pictures that the kid will be suspended. Mom wants to avoid the suspension but is refusing to tell the school the real issue.

Even good kids get caught up in stuff like this. That’s why NO kids should have unsupervised access to the internet.