Snark from other women for being fit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are they saying that could possibly be mean about becoming fit? That's a pretty awesome accomplishment in middle age, OP! I need to do that

OP: it’s more dirty looks. And checking me out up and down.

We can’t control anyone but ourselves. Ignore them, OP. Enjoy your successes. Other people’s opinion of you are not your business. These are things we learn as we age and they are so freeing!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 51 and got back into shape recently and have been truly shocked by how women respond to me now. I was lazy about my health and needed to make a change so I did. I really didn’t want to believe that it was a matter of jealousy, but holy cow. Do other people experience this? I know, I sound arrogant, but I promise I’m not making it up. It’s not my attitude… I am kind, generous, inclusive, not braggy, etc. It feels so unfair.

Without examples, I have to assume you have main character syndrome. People just don't think about you as much as you apparently think they do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are they saying that could possibly be mean about becoming fit? That's a pretty awesome accomplishment in middle age, OP! I need to do that

OP: it’s more dirty looks. And checking me out up and down.

Looking ... isn't ... "snark."

You sound positively mental.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are they saying that could possibly be mean about becoming fit? That's a pretty awesome accomplishment in middle age, OP! I need to do that

OP: it’s more dirty looks. And checking me out up and down.

Are you wearing a sports bra at the store or on the train? Do you have a camel toe? Otherwise it seems unlikely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are they saying that could possibly be mean about becoming fit? That's a pretty awesome accomplishment in middle age, OP! I need to do that

OP: it’s more dirty looks. And checking me out up and down.

Consider it what it is - jealousy. Keep putting in the work. As someone who’s been there I know you feel so much better physically and mentally in this skin. You can’t buy what you have, talk your way into it or cheat your way there. Hard work, consistency and time. Do today what others won’t, so tomorrow you can do what others can’t.

[Anonymous]

Women get their feelings hurt when people talk about or react to their bodies in a negative way, even if their body is meeting the current beauty standards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mostly women at work. I work in healthcare and my workplace is mostly female

because you took ozempic and lied.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are they saying that could possibly be mean about becoming fit? That's a pretty awesome accomplishment in middle age, OP! I need to do that

OP: it’s more dirty looks. And checking me out up and down.

Looking ... isn't ... "snark."

You sound positively mental.

Maybe OP desperately wants validation so the looking without positive comments is deemed snark.

[Anonymous]

As someone who has always been attractive and thin (not bragging), I just learn early on to avoid those women. They've always been there, they just used to be nice to you. I'm a really kind, cheerful person and just steer clear of them. It's always women, typically either Boomers or judgy Gen Z girls (millennials and GenX are just off living crazy busy lives). I have never had men treat me as mean as women have, and it's not because they're hitting on me or anything crass like that.

[Anonymous]

Plain ➕ simple, anyone who is acting snarky around you is a jealous green monster!

Keep your head up and enjoy all the rewards of getting fit!
Your health should definitely reap the better benefits. 👍🏽

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 51 and got back into shape recently and have been truly shocked by how women respond to me now. I was lazy about my health and needed to make a change so I did. I really didn’t want to believe that it was a matter of jealousy, but holy cow. Do other people experience this? I know, I sound arrogant, but I promise I’m not making it up. It’s not my attitude… I am kind, generous, inclusive, not braggy, etc. It feels so unfair.

Yes, you sound arrogant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you perhaps dress provocatively and they're judging that?

OP: This is interesting. I’m short and tend to wear fitted clothes because otherwise I find that I look sloppy. Maybe I look like I’m trying to show my figure off too much? I do have an hourglass figure. It feels so stupid to type that, but I just have good genes in that way.

It’s the clothing. Why are you wearing fitted clothes to work? It’s not a club. Hourglass women have to dress conservatively in professional settings.

[Anonymous]

I’m 51 and fit. I have never received snark or up and down looks from other women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of the most misogynistic people in American society today tend to be other women.

Unfortunately I agree. And I am reminded of that at least once week by the responses on these boards.

[Anonymous]

On the off chance it’s real, it’s because it’s new. People are looking. Unless they are saying nasty things, I would not think it’s because they are being mean. I lost 60lb preozemic times when it was way less common and yeah people were curious (mainly about if there was a magic shortcut - they lost interest when they heard just really strict diet and exercise routine) and it took them time to adjust. It’s been 10 years since and nobody comments or notices since the new me just became the default me.

But also, if you have an hourglass figure, you cannot wear form fitting clothes in professional settings. It is what it is.