Snark from other women for being fit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you perhaps dress provocatively and they're judging that?

OP: This is interesting. I’m short and tend to wear fitted clothes because otherwise I find that I look sloppy. Maybe I look like I’m trying to show my figure off too much? I do have an hourglass figure. It feels so stupid to type that, but I just have good genes in that way.

[Anonymous]

Maybe coworkers don’t believe it can from exercise alone. You say it was not hard to do. Losing weight and getting back in shape at 51 even if you were an athlete is not easy. It still takes time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: I promise I’m not. I was always very athletic and I bounced back without a ton of effort. Mostly better food choices.

There’s a difference between skinny from food choices and effort from harder workouts.

This post rings insincere

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are they saying that could possibly be mean about becoming fit? That's a pretty awesome accomplishment in middle age, OP! I need to do that

OP: it’s more dirty looks. And checking me out up and down.

Snark is by definition mocking comments, not looks.

[Anonymous]

It is jealousy and this is no troll. Op works in healthcare which is just a different environment. Keep doing your thing and never let their attitude discourage you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a college athlete. I thought then and still think it’s kind of weird for people to exercise like they are getting ready for the Olympics when they are just bored and competing in nothing.

Prime example of a bitter comment. 50+ women working out, however intense or frequent, is a beautiful thing. Dont be a hater

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: I promise I’m not. I was always very athletic and I bounced back without a ton of effort. Mostly better food choices.

There’s a difference between skinny from food choices and effort from harder workouts.

This post rings insincere

+1 I wonder what “fit” means to OP?

[Anonymous]

Are you striking a pose when you mention you lost weight? But really, everyone assumes you are on Ozempic and will roll their eyes when you say it's the gym. Just the way it is these days.

[Anonymous]

You should be mature enough to deal with this at 51.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should be mature enough to deal with this at 51.

Yes. And if you don’t want people to notice don’t dress that way either - not saying you dress provocative just don’t show off and people
Won’t respond

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 51 and got back into shape recently and have been truly shocked by how women respond to me now. I was lazy about my health and needed to make a change so I did. I really didn’t want to believe that it was a matter of jealousy, but holy cow. Do other people experience this? I know, I sound arrogant, but I promise I’m not making it up. It’s not my attitude… I am kind, generous, inclusive, not braggy, etc. It feels so unfair.

Unfair? That people look at your body when you put it in tight clothing?

What's unfair is the story you're telling yourself about what those looks may mean and the subsequent judgment(s) you're passing on your friends/acquaintances. Odds are nobody really gives half a damn about your weight loss, which may or may not even be noticeable to anyone but you, especially as you say you're getting "back into shape" which doesn't exactly scream massive weight loss.

There's nothing unfair at all about other people having opinions, especially when they're not even saying anything to you. You sound neurotic about your body shape, humblebraggy af, and kinda insufferable for claiming you're so "kind, generous, inclusive, not braggy, etc." while basically whinging "why don't people like me and praise me for existing in my own body?!!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should be mature enough to deal with this at 51.

For freakin' real.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are they saying that could possibly be mean about becoming fit? That's a pretty awesome accomplishment in middle age, OP! I need to do that

OP: it’s more dirty looks. And checking me out up and down.

So nobody said or did anything and you're making extreme assumptions about the actual nothing that happened?

Get help.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who is a couple of years postpartum and has obsessively gotten into fitness. Like constantly posting about her workouts on social media. She is looking too thin and it’s giving eating disorder vibes. Could this be your issue OP? You want validation for the working out but no one wants to give it because they can see that it’s disordered?

[Anonymous]

I got hot when I left my husband. Women now see as a threat. Nope. I got rid of a man and will never need a new one. Join me. You can be happy too.