Snark from other women for being fit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a college athlete. I thought then and still think it’s kind of weird for people to exercise like they are getting ready for the Olympics when they are just bored and competing in nothing.

Wow, people can improve themselves in many different ways. Stop being a bit%

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who is a couple of years postpartum and has obsessively gotten into fitness. Like constantly posting about her workouts on social media. She is looking too thin and it’s giving eating disorder vibes. Could this be your issue OP? You want validation for the working out but no one wants to give it because they can see that it’s disordered?

Normal fitness is now too thin. So many overweight people is now normal and it's gross.

[Anonymous]

You were out of shape, then got into shape for being 51, and you think you’re in SUCH phenomenally good shape that your friends are being mean and jealous to you now? I don’t want to sound harsh but there’s simply no way an out of shape 51 year old recently got the kind of physique that would warrant that. Your personality has likely changed because you’re now the kind of person who thinks you’re so fit people are rude to you about it which is unlikely.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes, reformed eaters feel the need to tell you all about their diet of choice. I don’t need to hear about your special chocolate dessert that is made from cottage cheese (so much protein !). My advice is keep the conversation light, “ Trying to take care of myself” and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are they saying that could possibly be mean about becoming fit? That's a pretty awesome accomplishment in middle age, OP! I need to do that

OP: it’s more dirty looks. And checking me out up and down.

My sister did this to me last week in my own house. I have been thin/average all my life until the past 2 years, when I gained 20lbs. I'm 53 and had the flu late last year. I lost 5 lbs due to illness, but used it as motivation to clean up my diet. I have lost 12 of the 20 and my sister looked me up and down and gave me a dirty look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a college athlete. I thought then and still think it’s kind of weird for people to exercise like they are getting ready for the Olympics when they are just bored and competing in nothing.

Exercise is great for mental health anf sleep. I'm exercising for the not depressed olympics. The alternative is not good for my family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You were out of shape, then got into shape for being 51, and you think you’re in SUCH phenomenally good shape that your friends are being mean and jealous to you now? I don’t want to sound harsh but there’s simply no way an out of shape 51 year old recently got the kind of physique that would warrant that. Your personality has likely changed because you’re now the kind of person who thinks you’re so fit people are rude to you about it which is unlikely.

Being thin over age 45 stands out like a sore thumb, especially if you have an hourglass figure. Being thin (not frail skinny) looks good, whatever your age. At middle age, it is glaring and others who aren't as fit hate you for it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you striking a pose when you mention you lost weight? But really, everyone assumes you are on Ozempic and will roll their eyes when you say it's the gym. Just the way it is these days.

This.
I have a coworker who was out for months to supposedly have her gallbladder removed. She came back over 100 pounds lighter and attributes it to giving up red meat. The eye rolls are about the lie, not the weight loss.

[Anonymous]

I am a little overweight but work out and am in good shape --cardio and strength training. I never bring the subject up, but at a party when someone else asked me what I did for exercise, one of the neighborhood moms who is a personal trainer mocked me for working out at a gym. Not sure why she felt the need to put me down, but I figure there's more where that came from, so I try to limit contact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are they saying that could possibly be mean about becoming fit? That's a pretty awesome accomplishment in middle age, OP! I need to do that

OP: it’s more dirty looks. And checking me out up and down.

Get over yourself. Seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m 51 and got back into shape recently and have been truly shocked by how women respond to me now. I was lazy about my health and needed to make a change so I did. I really didn’t want to believe that it was a matter of jealousy, but holy cow. Do other people experience this? I know, I sound arrogant, but I promise I’m not making it up. It’s not my attitude… I am kind, generous, inclusive, not braggy, etc. It feels so unfair.

What is "unfair" about it? And how are these women responding to you other than the looks you think you're getting. Sounds your body got smaller and your head got bigger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a college athlete. I thought then and still think it’s kind of weird for people to exercise like they are getting ready for the Olympics when they are just bored and competing in nothing.

Huh? Some people love working out. I am one of those people. I have always been fit. My father ran until he was 91. He loved being fit. I work out 7 days a week. Some slower recover days. I'm 56. It helps me relieve stress and as a by product, I look great. It's my thing.

[Anonymous]

Some of the most misogynistic people in American society today tend to be other women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you striking a pose when you mention you lost weight? But really, everyone assumes you are on Ozempic and will roll their eyes when you say it's the gym. Just the way it is these days.

This.
I have a coworker who was out for months to supposedly have her gallbladder removed. She came back over 100 pounds lighter and attributes it to giving up red meat. The eye rolls are about the lie, not the weight loss.

She may very well have had her gallbladder removed, in addition to anything else she's done. People would be just as judgy if she admitted to weight loss surgery or drugs, so she can't win and deserves privacy. It's also perfectly possible the health scare made her get serious about her weight and changing how she eats, and she isn't lying about anything.

[Anonymous]

Food doesn't make you fit.

You do sound like a troll, and if this is how you are IRL I can see why people just generally don't like you. Women aren't "snarky" to other women getting fit.

Is this written by a man trying to sow division amongst women or something? It's so stereotypical and... bland. "Blah blah women are catty, blah blah women are jealous". Try a new narrative next time.