Snark from other women for being fit

[Anonymous]

I’m 51 and got back into shape recently and have been truly shocked by how women respond to me now. I was lazy about my health and needed to make a change so I did. I really didn’t want to believe that it was a matter of jealousy, but holy cow. Do other people experience this? I know, I sound arrogant, but I promise I’m not making it up. It’s not my attitude… I am kind, generous, inclusive, not braggy, etc. It feels so unfair.

[Anonymous]

Don’t make it your whole personality and this won’t happen.

[Anonymous]

What are they saying that could possibly be mean about becoming fit? That's a pretty awesome accomplishment in middle age, OP! I need to do that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t make it your whole personality and this won’t happen.

OP: Not sure what you mean. I’m literally just existing.

[Anonymous]

I went from being heavy to being incredibly fit. When other women asked how I did it I said I went to the gym 5 to 7 days a week. (Was single). They all kind of got this look on their face like ohhhhh. They were going about three days a week… Which I think is awesome. I’m not faulting at all.

The shift was about their own perceptions, there was a little bit of a culture shift in the way they perceived me. They saw me as someone that was forever fat and would never be like them. And then I rolled up athletic and more fit. It took them time to adjust the box they’d put me in. It got better over time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are they saying that could possibly be mean about becoming fit? That's a pretty awesome accomplishment in middle age, OP! I need to do that

OP: it’s more dirty looks. And checking me out up and down.

[Anonymous]

Which women, OP? What are you even talking about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are they saying that could possibly be mean about becoming fit? That's a pretty awesome accomplishment in middle age, OP! I need to do that

OP: it’s more dirty looks. And checking me out up and down.

Are these your friends or strangers?

[Anonymous]

Mostly women at work. I work in healthcare and my workplace is mostly female

[Anonymous]

They think you’re on ozempic

[Anonymous]

They know you are in GLP-1 and you deny it.

[Anonymous]

I was a college athlete. I thought then and still think it’s kind of weird for people to exercise like they are getting ready for the Olympics when they are just bored and competing in nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are they saying that could possibly be mean about becoming fit? That's a pretty awesome accomplishment in middle age, OP! I need to do that

OP: it’s more dirty looks. And checking me out up and down.

... are you sure you aren't misinterpreting? They can be envious and still be your friends. Dirty looks? That's surprising.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What are they saying that could possibly be mean about becoming fit? That's a pretty awesome accomplishment in middle age, OP! I need to do that

OP: it’s more dirty looks. And checking me out up and down.

Are these your friends or strangers?

OP: mostly acquaintances

[Anonymous]

Really? you are 51 y/o.