Do You Miss the Lust?

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Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

They love to sleep with you, but never love you. Talk about fulfilling!

Why can’t they love overweight women ? Why all fat men want thin women?

The same reason women (allegedly) are posting about how they can't/won't do a dad bod. Porn conditioning and pettiness.

Some people like having sex. Some people like having fantasies.

It will be totally fine by me if all fat men wanted to have sex with fat women. No questions .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I got divorced last year then had a fling with a man who awakened this lust in me. It was incredible. But he was a bad boy in every sense of the word and not a suitable long term partner.

I’m now dating someone much more sensible and it’s been more challenging to awaken that lust. Interestingly, it seems to come back more when we get space and both operate as separate people, rather than one unit. More space always seems to help my lust come back.

A friend of mine forever bachelor is f**g a married woman. He is the kind of bad of boy you are describing. Women will give the best sex to a bad boy, but they will endlessly complain about the "regular" boring guy who is faithful.

PP. So, I have tried to give the "best" sex to the sensible, good guy. But good/regular guys usually lack the same inhibition, assertiveness, and risk-taking in bed that bad boys have.

As an example, the "bad boy" I had a fling with was very free and open with dirty talk. The "good guy" I'm dating feels awkward with dirty talk and worries it's disrespectful.

So like, I can say or do raunchy things, but when I'm met with silence, awkwardness, or he's obviously uncomfortable, there's not much else I can do to make sex better. I love exploring new things but the good guys generally just want vanilla. Often not even vanilla, it's more like....skim milk.

Feminism is partly to blame for this. The good guy works his mind to prioritize being respectful. He will want to ask permission for everything. He will be scared of being accused of assault. This is how society expects men to behave. This is creating more end that are in nature less assertive and less risk-taking.

Actually, it’s quite the opposite. He was raised very Christian and conservative. I think I’m the first feminist he’s ever really been around. And he’s definitely not afraid of being accused of anything, and is assertive in pursuing what he wants.

I think it’s more of the same problem women have when raised religiously. You think being “good” means having a very bland sexuality, that if you are interested in spicy things it means you’re too promiscuous or deviant.

Really sad that religion causes all these sexual hangups in people. I just want to be ravished, lol.

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Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

Enjoy your mediocre sex life. There's no amount of pretty that makes up for a lack of imagination and zero ability to turn oneself on.

But sure, keep waiting for the hot guy to tick your box(es). Boring!

Fit can mean a lot of more reasonable things, not just six pack abs. I am now picturing you and your fat slob of a man decked out in BDSM gear working your imagination. Thanks for the vomit.

So your imagination works, and this is what you use it for? Again, enjoy your mediocre sex life.

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Anonymous wrote:I got divorced last year then had a fling with a man who awakened this lust in me. It was incredible. But he was a bad boy in every sense of the word and not a suitable long term partner.

I’m now dating someone much more sensible and it’s been more challenging to awaken that lust. Interestingly, it seems to come back more when we get space and both operate as separate people, rather than one unit. More space always seems to help my lust come back.

A friend of mine forever bachelor is f**g a married woman. He is the kind of bad of boy you are describing. Women will give the best sex to a bad boy, but they will endlessly complain about the "regular" boring guy who is faithful.

PP. So, I have tried to give the "best" sex to the sensible, good guy. But good/regular guys usually lack the same inhibition, assertiveness, and risk-taking in bed that bad boys have.

As an example, the "bad boy" I had a fling with was very free and open with dirty talk. The "good guy" I'm dating feels awkward with dirty talk and worries it's disrespectful.

So like, I can say or do raunchy things, but when I'm met with silence, awkwardness, or he's obviously uncomfortable, there's not much else I can do to make sex better. I love exploring new things but the good guys generally just want vanilla. Often not even vanilla, it's more like....skim milk.

I think you are confusing autistic and good guys. Good guys talk dirty, they eat p**y, they are vocal. They may however not like to be spanked or other kind of BDSM activities. Autistic men on the other hand, they will freak out when you start squirting

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Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

I am 48. I am tall and thin. Perhaps much thinner than I want. But I am physically strong. I have been exercising since I was 16 and never stopped.

I can't sleep with fat women. And please don't hate me for saying that. In fact most fat women will find me too skinny anyways so the lack of attraction is mutual.

If a thin woman wants to sleep with attractive men I don't think she owes anyone an explanation.

[Anonymous]

God no.

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Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

I am 48. I am tall and thin. Perhaps much thinner than I want. But I am physically strong. I have been exercising since I was 16 and never stopped.

I can't sleep with fat women. And please don't hate me for saying that. In fact most fat women will find me too skinny anyways so the lack of attraction is mutual.

If a thin woman wants to sleep with attractive men I don't think she owes anyone an explanation.

Can you define what you mean by fat? Like show us links of a woman you find okay and a woman you find too fat to be sexually attractive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. It is an amazing feeling. But I recognize that you really can’t have both lust - which only happens in novel sexual situations - and a stable, long-term marriage. It’s a small price to pay. I have crushes instead, including on my super cute 21-year-old personal trainer. This helps add some spice when I’m in bed.

100%. Of course I miss the lust and excitement that can only come with a new partner. I am married but I do a lot of daydreaming

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Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

They love to sleep with you, but never love you. Talk about fulfilling!

Why can’t they love overweight women ? Why all fat men want thin women?

The same reason women (allegedly) are posting about how they can't/won't do a dad bod. Porn conditioning and pettiness.

Some people like having sex. Some people like having fantasies.

It will be totally fine by me if all fat men wanted to have sex with fat women. No questions .

A fat woman is not equivalent to a fat man anyway. Women struggle with pregnancy, postpartum, peri and menopause. Men really have no excuse for middle age weight gain. It's just a reflection of laziness.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

I am 48. I am tall and thin. Perhaps much thinner than I want. But I am physically strong. I have been exercising since I was 16 and never stopped.

I can't sleep with fat women. And please don't hate me for saying that. In fact most fat women will find me too skinny anyways so the lack of attraction is mutual.

If a thin woman wants to sleep with attractive men I don't think she owes anyone an explanation.

Can you define what you mean by fat? Like show us links of a woman you find okay and a woman you find too fat to be sexually attractive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

Enjoy your mediocre sex life. There's no amount of pretty that makes up for a lack of imagination and zero ability to turn oneself on.

But sure, keep waiting for the hot guy to tick your box(es). Boring!

Fit can mean a lot of more reasonable things, not just six pack abs. I am now picturing you and your fat slob of a man decked out in BDSM gear working your imagination. Thanks for the vomit.

So your imagination works, and this is what you use it for? Again, enjoy your mediocre sex life.

LOL, as if that image could be helped. Enjoy your completely disgusting one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

Enjoy your mediocre sex life. There's no amount of pretty that makes up for a lack of imagination and zero ability to turn oneself on.

But sure, keep waiting for the hot guy to tick your box(es). Boring!

Fit can mean a lot of more reasonable things, not just six pack abs. I am now picturing you and your fat slob of a man decked out in BDSM gear working your imagination. Thanks for the vomit.

So your imagination works, and this is what you use it for? Again, enjoy your mediocre sex life.

LOL, as if that image could be helped. Enjoy your completely disgusting one.

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DP. You sound ugly - inside and out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. And novelty. Fortunately, I have a very active imagination.

+1

I think novelty has a lot to do with it and not just novelty as in different people. Different situations also bring novelty. I had a fling with a bartender and the physical chemistry was so high that we’d end up not being able to make it home first. He was tall, fit and enormous downstairs. We tried going on a movie date and couldn’t even finish the movie. We started kissing when he opened my car door for me and he ended up giving me the biggest O of my life up against my car before we could get in it. Like I don’t even think I wasn’t even able to speak on the drive home to his place.

Did anyone else have that level of chemistry with someone? I only had it with a few people.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I got divorced last year then had a fling with a man who awakened this lust in me. It was incredible. But he was a bad boy in every sense of the word and not a suitable long term partner.

I’m now dating someone much more sensible and it’s been more challenging to awaken that lust. Interestingly, it seems to come back more when we get space and both operate as separate people, rather than one unit. More space always seems to help my lust come back.

A friend of mine forever bachelor is f**g a married woman. He is the kind of bad of boy you are describing. Women will give the best sex to a bad boy, but they will endlessly complain about the "regular" boring guy who is faithful.

PP. So, I have tried to give the "best" sex to the sensible, good guy. But good/regular guys usually lack the same inhibition, assertiveness, and risk-taking in bed that bad boys have.

As an example, the "bad boy" I had a fling with was very free and open with dirty talk. The "good guy" I'm dating feels awkward with dirty talk and worries it's disrespectful.

So like, I can say or do raunchy things, but when I'm met with silence, awkwardness, or he's obviously uncomfortable, there's not much else I can do to make sex better. I love exploring new things but the good guys generally just want vanilla. Often not even vanilla, it's more like....skim milk.

Feminism is partly to blame for this. The good guy works his mind to prioritize being respectful. He will want to ask permission for everything. He will be scared of being accused of assault. This is how society expects men to behave. This is creating more end that are in nature less assertive and less risk-taking.

This is shockingly false and I can’t believe any grown people believe this. A “good guy” isn’t scared of being accused of assault because it would never cross his mind to assault someone. Anyone who says men are timid because women are fed up with being harassed, assaulted, etc is absolutely doing offensive and disgusting things constantly. They are not a “good guy”.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

Enjoy your mediocre sex life. There's no amount of pretty that makes up for a lack of imagination and zero ability to turn oneself on.

But sure, keep waiting for the hot guy to tick your box(es). Boring!

Fit can mean a lot of more reasonable things, not just six pack abs. I am now picturing you and your fat slob of a man decked out in BDSM gear working your imagination. Thanks for the vomit.

So your imagination works, and this is what you use it for? Again, enjoy your mediocre sex life.

LOL, as if that image could be helped. Enjoy your completely disgusting one.

It easily could've; you could be a less nasty, hateful person anytime you want, for free, even. I have a great sex life, no want for. partners, and zero trouble with lust/desire. You're posting hatescreeds at anons on the mommyboard.

We are not the same.