Do You Miss the Lust?

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Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

They love to sleep with you, but never love you. Talk about fulfilling!

Why can’t they love overweight women ? Why all fat men want thin women?

[Anonymous]

I’m dating a guy write now and I can’t stop fantasizing about them!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

Same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I miss this with my wife. She has gained a lot of weight and can't even do 1/2 of the positions we used to do. In addition, she's always complaining and doesn't exercise or eat less.

sorry, PP. are you divorcing her soon?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I got divorced last year then had a fling with a man who awakened this lust in me. It was incredible. But he was a bad boy in every sense of the word and not a suitable long term partner.

I’m now dating someone much more sensible and it’s been more challenging to awaken that lust. Interestingly, it seems to come back more when we get space and both operate as separate people, rather than one unit. More space always seems to help my lust come back.

A friend of mine forever bachelor is f**g a married woman. He is the kind of bad of boy you are describing. Women will give the best sex to a bad boy, but they will endlessly complain about the "regular" boring guy who is faithful.

PP. So, I have tried to give the "best" sex to the sensible, good guy. But good/regular guys usually lack the same inhibition, assertiveness, and risk-taking in bed that bad boys have.

As an example, the "bad boy" I had a fling with was very free and open with dirty talk. The "good guy" I'm dating feels awkward with dirty talk and worries it's disrespectful.

So like, I can say or do raunchy things, but when I'm met with silence, awkwardness, or he's obviously uncomfortable, there's not much else I can do to make sex better. I love exploring new things but the good guys generally just want vanilla. Often not even vanilla, it's more like....skim milk.

Feminism is partly to blame for this. The good guy works his mind to prioritize being respectful. He will want to ask permission for everything. He will be scared of being accused of assault. This is how society expects men to behave. This is creating more end that are in nature less assertive and less risk-taking.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I miss kissing.

Yes. The kissing was one of the most notable things about Heated Rivalry!

The kiss in the stairwell. 💋

[Anonymous]

Desperately!!! I now just hope for hot dreams. 🙁

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

I hate 6 pack abs. 🤮

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

Enjoy your mediocre sex life. There's no amount of pretty that makes up for a lack of imagination and zero ability to turn oneself on.

But sure, keep waiting for the hot guy to tick your box(es). Boring!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

They love to sleep with you, but never love you. Talk about fulfilling!

Why can’t they love overweight women ? Why all fat men want thin women?

The same reason women (allegedly) are posting about how they can't/won't do a dad bod. Porn conditioning and pettiness.

Some people like having sex. Some people like having fantasies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

They love to sleep with you, but never love you. Talk about fulfilling!

Why can’t they love overweight women ? Why all fat men want thin women?

If she has a discernible waist, I'll probably be interested! (Or, at least, it won't be her weight that is a deal breaker.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

Enjoy your mediocre sex life. There's no amount of pretty that makes up for a lack of imagination and zero ability to turn oneself on.

But sure, keep waiting for the hot guy to tick your box(es). Boring!

Fit can mean a lot of more reasonable things, not just six pack abs. I am now picturing you and your fat slob of a man decked out in BDSM gear working your imagination. Thanks for the vomit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

As an older man, tall and fit with a high sex drive, I tried a few times having sex with women that were overweight with a beautiful face and nice personality. It was impossible for me to get erect no matter her coaxing. It just wasn't happening. Out of avoiding embarrassment for both parties, I no longer flirt with beautiful overweight women. I'm under the impression that many overweight women think having bigger boobs make up for it. Not for me.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

They love to sleep with you, but never love you. Talk about fulfilling!

Why can’t they love overweight women ? Why all fat men want thin women?

The same reason women (allegedly) are posting about how they can't/won't do a dad bod. Porn conditioning and pettiness.

Some people like having sex. Some people like having fantasies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Finding lust with someone else is a lot of work and effort - and you spoil the fantasy the moment you actually interact with the hot looking hunk because you find out that they are thick as a brick.

Get a B.O.B... The person you are lusting after does not exist in real life. It is just a fantasy.

Ehhh, the older I get in life the more I realize personality is overrated. Ugly or mediocre guys with brains are everywhere. And even then, there is no guarantee an ugly or mediocre guy will actually turn out to be interesting. A tall, gorgeous guy with a six-pack is like an endangered species. If he also happens to have a brain, well it's like winning the lottery, but I am certainly not letting him go because he's not the brightest bulb in the socket.

Absolutely. Americans have all gone out of shape and ugly, but men especially are told women don’t care about looks. In mid-life, women absolutely care about looks. Think your drive is gone? Just find a fit, enthusiastic man. It will change your life.

As an older man, tall and fit with a high sex drive, I tried a few times having sex with women that were overweight with a beautiful face and nice personality. It was impossible for me to get erect no matter her coaxing. It just wasn't happening. Out of avoiding embarrassment for both parties, I no longer flirt with beautiful overweight women. I'm under the impression that many overweight women think having bigger boobs make up for it. Not for me.

So gross to see women continually told their sexuality depends on what's being done to them, and by whom, and not, you know, something they're responsible for and can control.

I just can't make myself want a fat guy with dad bod. Sorry not sorry. I'm thin and fit and want to sleep with fit men.

They love to sleep with you, but never love you. Talk about fulfilling!

Why can’t they love overweight women ? Why all fat men want thin women?

The same reason women (allegedly) are posting about how they can't/won't do a dad bod. Porn conditioning and pettiness.

Some people like having sex. Some people like having fantasies.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It is an amazing feeling. But I recognize that you really can’t have both lust - which only happens in novel sexual situations - and a stable, long-term marriage. It’s a small price to pay. I have crushes instead, including on my super cute 21-year-old personal trainer. This helps add some spice when I’m in bed.