Would you feel bad if your kid was added late to an invitation?

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Just hide the guest list.

Done.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I would decline. I would not be annoyed about my child not making the “A” list, like “boo hoo,” but I would be annoyed that you, like most people, are not aware of general standards of manners that dictate that you do not do this. Or maybe you are, but you are letting your emotion for YOUR child (“Not many people are coming so Larla will be sad at her party!”) override your common sense.

We actually have a full party. All girls invited are coming except one who has a sporting event conflict.

My daughter and my friend’s daughter will probably never be good friends. They have friends in common. I believe the girl may be on the spectrum or have some sort of other special needs. I say this to explain why her personality is difficult. Most of my daughter’s friends are very calm. Friend’s daughter tends to make situations dramatic leaving people upset.

Maybe she is difficult because you and your daughter makes it obvious she isn't really welcome.

No, the child always has to have her way. She throws tantrums. DD doesn’t like her.

Ok we will just leave guest list as is. DD didn’t want to invite her initially and still doesn’t want to invite her.

I was going to be nice and invite the new girl. We don’t have to.

Spare your "friend's" kid from your nasty, judgemental attitude.

I tried to make my child invite her when we sent out the initial invitations. DD was adamant that she not come so I didn’t invite her. We have seen the family at school and holiday parties including their holiday party. I really like the mom. DD still doesn’t like their daughter.

I tried to convince DD to invite her and she said yes. DD still doesn’t want her to come not no longer objecting.

We have a full party. We don’t need to invite more people.

Your kid doesn't like this kid. You clearly don't like the kid. Why invite her especially late? To hurt your "friend?"

I have nothing against the kid. I sympathize for the mother because i know it is a daily struggle for small things like even going to school.

You clearly don't like the kid. We can all read what you wrote.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I would decline. I would not be annoyed about my child not making the “A” list, like “boo hoo,” but I would be annoyed that you, like most people, are not aware of general standards of manners that dictate that you do not do this. Or maybe you are, but you are letting your emotion for YOUR child (“Not many people are coming so Larla will be sad at her party!”) override your common sense.

We actually have a full party. All girls invited are coming except one who has a sporting event conflict.

My daughter and my friend’s daughter will probably never be good friends. They have friends in common. I believe the girl may be on the spectrum or have some sort of other special needs. I say this to explain why her personality is difficult. Most of my daughter’s friends are very calm. Friend’s daughter tends to make situations dramatic leaving people upset.

Maybe she is difficult because you and your daughter makes it obvious she isn't really welcome.

No, the child always has to have her way. She throws tantrums. DD doesn’t like her.

Ok we will just leave guest list as is. DD didn’t want to invite her initially and still doesn’t want to invite her.

I was going to be nice and invite the new girl. We don’t have to.

OP's daughter is the mean girl

Yep.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, I would decline. I would not be annoyed about my child not making the “A” list, like “boo hoo,” but I would be annoyed that you, like most people, are not aware of general standards of manners that dictate that you do not do this. Or maybe you are, but you are letting your emotion for YOUR child (“Not many people are coming so Larla will be sad at her party!”) override your common sense.

We actually have a full party. All girls invited are coming except one who has a sporting event conflict.

My daughter and my friend’s daughter will probably never be good friends. They have friends in common. I believe the girl may be on the spectrum or have some sort of other special needs. I say this to explain why her personality is difficult. Most of my daughter’s friends are very calm. Friend’s daughter tends to make situations dramatic leaving people upset.

Maybe she is difficult because you and your daughter makes it obvious she isn't really welcome.

No, the child always has to have her way. She throws tantrums. DD doesn’t like her.

Ok we will just leave guest list as is. DD didn’t want to invite her initially and still doesn’t want to invite her.

I was going to be nice and invite the new girl. We don’t have to.

OP's daughter is the mean girl

No, I’m the one trying to make a kid invite a girl who she doesn’t like and isn’t in her class only because i like the mom.

Is your kid going to be a mean girl to her because she doesn't want her there?

[Anonymous]

Nah. I've hosted enough to no not to overthink this.

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Anonymous wrote:It is a B list so I wouldn't pretend otherwise - but I wouldn't really care.

I would be annoyed if you pretended it wasn't a B list and made up a bunch of lies.

Yeah we moved to the area last year and a lot of bday invites were clearly last minute. The parents were like “I know it’s last minute but would love if your kid would come.” But my kids wanted to go and they did and they had fun and I grew closer to other parents and they’re A list now for at least a few kids. No use having a big ego about kid bday parties.

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Just hide the guest list.

Done.

So easy to do on paperless post. Or just text the e-invite directly to the b list parent. They will likely know they’re b list but it won’t be as blatant

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be offended because they’re probably not close friends but it’s a bit tacky and desperate.

+1. Get the guest list correct before it’s sent. Once it’s sent, you’re stuck.

DD wanted to invite someone who was in her class last year. Then there is a new girl. Last girl is daughter of friend of mine who DD did not originally want to invite but I convinced her to.

Shitty of you to force her to invite your friends kid. Shouldn’t have taken you two WEEKS to send invite to new girl and last year girl.

Question was if you would feel offended. I guess so. New girl is not in her same class. The daughter of friend is still a classmate. DD and her are not close but I like the mom. Girls are turning 9.

None of these are reasons why it took you weeks to invite them after you invited everyone else.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be offended because they’re probably not close friends but it’s a bit tacky and desperate.

+1. Get the guest list correct before it’s sent. Once it’s sent, you’re stuck.

DD wanted to invite someone who was in her class last year. Then there is a new girl. Last girl is daughter of friend of mine who DD did not originally want to invite but I convinced her to.

Shitty of you to force her to invite your friends kid. Shouldn’t have taken you two WEEKS to send invite to new girl and last year girl.

Question was if you would feel offended. I guess so. New girl is not in her same class. The daughter of friend is still a classmate. DD and her are not close but I like the mom. Girls are turning 9.

None of these are reasons why it took you weeks to invite them after you invited everyone else.

I’m going to keep the guest list as is and not invite any more guests.

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I hate when I can see that other people have had the invitation for longer. It makes me feel rushed. They’ve had three weeks, I get two days.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate when I can see that other people have had the invitation for longer. It makes me feel rushed. They’ve had three weeks, I get two days.

How many days do you need? Your kid is either available or not. You have more information that close to the date than you would have had 3 weeks ago.

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Evites don't show date it was originally sent or date of individual rsvps or comments right? How would a late invitee know how much time had elapsed?

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Make your guest list private.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't be offended, but as you can see from other people, some people would be.

Just hide the guest list or send the info by email or text.

This. I think it’s NBD. I certainly wouldn’t “take note” as others are saying and then hold a grudge; not invite this kid or B list him something next time out of spite. That’s pathological. It’s just a party. It doesn’t matter when you get the invitation. But clearly there are a lot of highly sensitive, borderline psycho mothers out there. Therefore, I’d just send an individual email to this mother.

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Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t be offended because they’re probably not close friends but it’s a bit tacky and desperate.

+1