Guy I was dating sent me a crude meme

[Anonymous]

I haven’t seen the meme so cannot decide but what I CAN decipher from your post is that it is highly likely that you and him just may not be a suitable match for each other. 🙅🏻‍♂️🙅🏻‍♀️

[Anonymous]

His reaction is a red flag for future abusive behavior. Dump him and be glad he did this after wasting only hours of your time.

[Anonymous]

He should have sent a meme with a man on his knees. Send him a meme about men pleasing a woman and block him.
His respond to it all was more of a turnoff than the meme.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know if you're uptight or not, but I do know that "you're too easily offended" is not the right response when the person you're dating/in a relationship with says they're offended. He should care that he offended you, at least enough to understand why and avoid doing it again. You don't have to pretend to be one of his bros in the locker room.

Op here.

It was a locker room bro joke type of meme. A girl sticking her tongue out like a dog I guess to represent interest in oral sex?

When I told him it was offensive he said I’m easily offensive and called me a princess.

It’s hard to say without seeing it. A girl sticking her tongue out like a dog doesn’t immediately make me think oral sex.

What offends one person doesn't offend another. His response is the problem.

IDK. I could honestly see this from either side. If someone is offended by a meme that was funny and not intended as offensive, I would honestly wonder what is wrong with them.
The guy may or may not be showing red flags, but only 2 dates and this reaction to a meme makes it not compatible to go on date 3.

The ONLY response to someone being offended by a dumb meme is "I'm sorry. I didn't intend to offend you."

That's it.

Op here. I’m surprised he was upset that I was offended. Then he said I sent o easily be offended.

We have been texting and shared that we find each other attractive. I was surprised by the crude meme and didn’t find it sexy or cute. Instead of saying oh just kidding, im sorry, he is turning it into a me problem, then calls me a princess.

He negged you and it's working. It's crazy that you didn't already block and move on.. but he's hot or you are desperate and responding to his insult by trying to earn his respect. That's exactly the intent of negging.

[Anonymous]

1. Learn to use I statements I don't find that type of humor funny it feels de meaning to me.

Or I don't get the joke sort of forces them to be plain their stance.


Though I also wouldn't find it funny there are many women who do. For example many women thought huctua lady was hilarious and empowering I didn't. You aren't required to find someone else's humor funny or to hide your feelings.

2. The real issue is his response to you. If he had genuinely made a poor choice but cared about you he would have acted with concern and apologized . He didn't he chose to call you names and brush off your feelings very big red flags.

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Let this one go. You aren't compatible and that's okay.
But more importantly he isn't kind.

[Anonymous]

It's never "just a joke". It's an exploratory mission - how far can he push your boundaries? How much will you accept? When is it safe for him to show his true colours and let the mask drop?

Be glad you found out after only 2 dates. No need to waste any more of your precious time on this loser. Block and move on. Block and ditch any man who makes crude jokes, jokes at your expense, displays controlling or misogynistic behaviour, or shows any inkling of anger issues. You may want to check out the burned haystack method.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We don't know if you are overly sensitive or if he's an a-hole. We need to know what the meme is.

No, because if YOU wouldn't find it offensive, that doesn't mean OP didn't. OP is entitled to your opinion, as are you. I'm pretty hard to offend so it may not bother me, but if it bothers OP and the guy she is dating thinks she shouldn't be offended, then they shouldn't be dating.

If anyone is wondering how you end up on those threads bashing your husband 10+ years in - this is it - ignore the red flags in your relationship and have kids with him anyway.

Yes! It's always "Ladies, pick better" until these men aren't the ones getting picked. Stay picky!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's never "just a joke". It's an exploratory mission - how far can he push your boundaries? How much will you accept? When is it safe for him to show his true colours and let the mask drop?

Be glad you found out after only 2 dates. No need to waste any more of your precious time on this loser. Block and move on. Block and ditch any man who makes crude jokes, jokes at your expense, displays controlling or misogynistic behaviour, or shows any inkling of anger issues. You may want to check out the burned haystack method.

This.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don't know if you're uptight or not, but I do know that "you're too easily offended" is not the right response when the person you're dating/in a relationship with says they're offended. He should care that he offended you, at least enough to understand why and avoid doing it again. You don't have to pretend to be one of his bros in the locker room.

Op here.

It was a locker room bro joke type of meme. A girl sticking her tongue out like a dog I guess to represent interest in oral sex?

When I told him it was offensive he said I’m easily offensive and called me a princess.

That’s a deal-breaker. Obviously! And this is his best behavior. Geez.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's never "just a joke". It's an exploratory mission - how far can he push your boundaries? How much will you accept? When is it safe for him to show his true colours and let the mask drop?

Be glad you found out after only 2 dates. No need to waste any more of your precious time on this loser. Block and move on. Block and ditch any man who makes crude jokes, jokes at your expense, displays controlling or misogynistic behaviour, or shows any inkling of anger issues. You may want to check out the burned haystack method.

That's my impression too. He was trying to move you to a more sexual place in the conversation and missed the mark. His response was to blame you for your standards. He's not the guy for you.

[Anonymous]

You are NOT uptight. Delete this guy.

[Anonymous]

His lack of creativity is so boring. For that reason alone, next!