Guy I was dating sent me a crude meme

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You didn't sleep with him, did you, OP?

No I did not.

That’s good. Only sleep after marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We had been out on 2 dates. He sent me a crude meme that was supposed to be a sex joke but was demeaning to women. I told him I found it offensive and confirmed if it was directed at me. He said it seems I’m easily offended and it was a joke.

Am I being too uptight?

It doesn't matter - you two are not a match.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We had been out on 2 dates. He sent me a crude meme that was supposed to be a sex joke but was demeaning to women. I told him I found it offensive and confirmed if it was directed at me. He said it seems I’m easily offended and it was a joke.

Am I being too uptight?

It doesn't matter - you two are not a match.

This ..I have a dark sense of humor and often find crude things funny. That doesn't mean your reaction is wrong. At the end of the day, the only thing wrong here is how HE reacted to it. He should have apologized. You're not a good fit and that's fine. End it now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We don't know if you are overly sensitive or if he's an a-hole. We need to know what the meme is.

No, because if YOU wouldn't find it offensive, that doesn't mean OP didn't. OP is entitled to your opinion, as are you. I'm pretty hard to offend so it may not bother me, but if it bothers OP and the guy she is dating thinks she shouldn't be offended, then they shouldn't be dating.

If anyone is wondering how you end up on those threads bashing your husband 10+ years in - this is it - ignore the red flags in your relationship and have kids with him anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if you're uptight or not, but I do know that "you're too easily offended" is not the right response when the person you're dating/in a relationship with says they're offended. He should care that he offended you, at least enough to understand why and avoid doing it again. You don't have to pretend to be one of his bros in the locker room.

Op here.

It was a locker room bro joke type of meme. A girl sticking her tongue out like a dog I guess to represent interest in oral sex?

When I told him it was offensive he said I’m easily offensive and called me a princess.

Is that how you would like to be treated by the person you're dating? If the answer to that is no, then break up. This isn't hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of you are being silly and short sided in your responses
She's the one that drew first blood. Why didn't you just ask him his meaning and interpretation in the meme because you don't get it
Instead of being so offensive to him as to say "I'm offended". You're the Quilty one with no social clue.

Because she didn't misunderstand anything. He is history.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if you're uptight or not, but I do know that "you're too easily offended" is not the right response when the person you're dating/in a relationship with says they're offended. He should care that he offended you, at least enough to understand why and avoid doing it again. You don't have to pretend to be one of his bros in the locker room.

Op here.

It was a locker room bro joke type of meme. A girl sticking her tongue out like a dog I guess to represent interest in oral sex?

When I told him it was offensive he said I’m easily offensive and called me a princess.

This tells you on many levels who he is, none of which are good. Definitely move on.

Op here. He is a dad to teenage girls too. So bizarre.

And? Trump's wife isn't American and he has daughters as well. I don't know why you think this matters.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We don't know if you are overly sensitive or if he's an a-hole. We need to know what the meme is.

No, because if YOU wouldn't find it offensive, that doesn't mean OP didn't. OP is entitled to your opinion, as are you. I'm pretty hard to offend so it may not bother me, but if it bothers OP and the guy she is dating thinks she shouldn't be offended, then they shouldn't be dating.

If anyone is wondering how you end up on those threads bashing your husband 10+ years in - this is it - ignore the red flags in your relationship and have kids with him anyway.

I give a lot of leeway to the people I know and trust. Strangers have no business sending me offensive jokes. I would have been put off too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if you're uptight or not, but I do know that "you're too easily offended" is not the right response when the person you're dating/in a relationship with says they're offended. He should care that he offended you, at least enough to understand why and avoid doing it again. You don't have to pretend to be one of his bros in the locker room.

Op here.

It was a locker room bro joke type of meme. A girl sticking her tongue out like a dog I guess to represent interest in oral sex?

When I told him it was offensive he said I’m easily offensive and called me a princess.

This tells you on many levels who he is, none of which are good. Definitely move on.

Op here. He is a dad to teenage girls too. So bizarre.

And? Trump's wife isn't American and he has daughters as well. I don't know why you think this matters.

Why do you think a pedophile is a bar setter?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if you're uptight or not, but I do know that "you're too easily offended" is not the right response when the person you're dating/in a relationship with says they're offended. He should care that he offended you, at least enough to understand why and avoid doing it again. You don't have to pretend to be one of his bros in the locker room.

Op here.

It was a locker room bro joke type of meme. A girl sticking her tongue out like a dog I guess to represent interest in oral sex?

When I told him it was offensive he said I’m easily offensive and called me a princess.

This tells you on many levels who he is, none of which are good. Definitely move on.

Op here. He is a dad to teenage girls too. So bizarre.

And? Trump's wife isn't American and he has daughters as well. I don't know why you think this matters.

Why do you think a pedophile is a bar setter?

This sailed right over your head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We don't know if you are overly sensitive or if he's an a-hole. We need to know what the meme is.

No, because if YOU wouldn't find it offensive, that doesn't mean OP didn't. OP is entitled to your opinion, as are you. I'm pretty hard to offend so it may not bother me, but if it bothers OP and the guy she is dating thinks she shouldn't be offended, then they shouldn't be dating.

If anyone is wondering how you end up on those threads bashing your husband 10+ years in - this is it - ignore the red flags in your relationship and have kids with him anyway.

I give a lot of leeway to the people I know and trust. Strangers have no business sending me offensive jokes. I would have been put off too.

You missed the point

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of you are being silly and short sided in your responses
She's the one that drew first blood. Why didn't you just ask him his meaning and interpretation in the meme because you don't get it
Instead of being so offensive to him as to say "I'm offended". You're the Quilty one with no social clue.

I'd love to be Quilty! But all joking aside, you seem like the clueless one. The meme was vulgar, and his response was tone-deaf. OP is right to get rid of him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We don't know if you are overly sensitive or if he's an a-hole. We need to know what the meme is.

No, because if YOU wouldn't find it offensive, that doesn't mean OP didn't. OP is entitled to your opinion, as are you. I'm pretty hard to offend so it may not bother me, but if it bothers OP and the guy she is dating thinks she shouldn't be offended, then they shouldn't be dating.

If anyone is wondering how you end up on those threads bashing your husband 10+ years in - this is it - ignore the red flags in your relationship and have kids with him anyway.

I give a lot of leeway to the people I know and trust. Strangers have no business sending me offensive jokes. I would have been put off too.

You missed the point

How? I basically agreed with you and just added that I have a different threshold for crude jokes based on my familiarity with the person.

[Anonymous]

You need to be clear who you are so that when trash like this tries to undermine your confidence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't know if you're uptight or not, but I do know that "you're too easily offended" is not the right response when the person you're dating/in a relationship with says they're offended. He should care that he offended you, at least enough to understand why and avoid doing it again. You don't have to pretend to be one of his bros in the locker room.

Op here.

It was a locker room bro joke type of meme. A girl sticking her tongue out like a dog I guess to represent interest in oral sex?

When I told him it was offensive he said I’m easily offensive and called me a princess.

This tells you on many levels who he is, none of which are good. Definitely move on.

Op here. He is a dad to teenage girls too. So bizarre.

And? Trump's wife isn't American and he has daughters as well. I don't know why you think this matters.

Why do you think a pedophile is a bar setter?

This sailed right over your head.

Perhaps. What did you MEAN to say?