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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious, OP, would it be fine with you if your daughter never married? I feel like that’s the natural endpoint of decentering men. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with that, just wondering if people are mostly ok with the prospect of just remaining single.

OP here. I will absolutely be fine with that. One of the reason I asked this was because my niece chose not go to law school because her boyfriend threatened to break up with her if she moved across the country to attend law school. And he is not even a fiance crazy....Of course some will argue it's a "her" problem. But is it really a "her only" problem? In my opinion, of course I could be totally wrong, more women will, for example, opt to say with their bf over going to law school in that scenario. How many men do you think will make a similar sacrifice? Most men first instinct will be that another woman will be waiting for them when they are done.

That is so unfortunate. Your niece would be so much better off being educated as a lawyer and not tied down with an insecure manchild.

How is he an insecure manchild? He doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship. That is a choice that many men and women make. Especially when they are young and college aged. There are also many women who break up with boyfriends who move away - does it make them all insecure womenchilds?

Your own daughter might consider breaking up with her boyfriend in college if he says oh hey, I am moving to the otherside of the country for a few years. See ya. Would you really call her names and think badly of her because she decides to end that relationship?

I would say that both OPS niece and your hypothetical daughter's boyfriend should still leave and go to law school, even if they know this means the end of their relationship. And I hold nothing against OPs niece's boyfriend or your daughter if they choose to end the relationship because they don't want a long term long distance relationship when they are young.

He's an insecure manchild because someone actually worth marrying and spending your life with would support your dreams. He won't support her in a career that potentially makes more money than him. He won't support her in schooling where she isn't under his thumb. She literally gave up a career because a boy threatened her. That's pathetic and I'd actually be so disappointed if that was my daughter.

Women don't need to kneel so men can feel tall.

It's none of your business what she does or doesn't do. You don't know what sacrifices he made in his life to accomodate her and you certainly don't know the depth and dynamic of their relationship to be making these absurd allegations. It's literally none of your business.

What sacrifices a ... high school child... had to make to accomodate his... highschool girlfriend? Are you drunk already? Midnight is still a ways away here.

They're not in high school anymore so stop trying to miscontrue the facts and trivialize his journey to bolster hers. They are on the same playing field and if she wants to sacrifice college for the time being to be with someone she has known since childhood, it is a completely acceptable decision.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious, OP, would it be fine with you if your daughter never married? I feel like that’s the natural endpoint of decentering men. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with that, just wondering if people are mostly ok with the prospect of just remaining single.

OP here. I will absolutely be fine with that. One of the reason I asked this was because my niece chose not go to law school because her boyfriend threatened to break up with her if she moved across the country to attend law school. And he is not even a fiance crazy....Of course some will argue it's a "her" problem. But is it really a "her only" problem? In my opinion, of course I could be totally wrong, more women will, for example, opt to say with their bf over going to law school in that scenario. How many men do you think will make a similar sacrifice? Most men first instinct will be that another woman will be waiting for them when they are done.

That is so unfortunate. Your niece would be so much better off being educated as a lawyer and not tied down with an insecure manchild.

How is he an insecure manchild? He doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship. That is a choice that many men and women make. Especially when they are young and college aged. There are also many women who break up with boyfriends who move away - does it make them all insecure womenchilds?

Your own daughter might consider breaking up with her boyfriend in college if he says oh hey, I am moving to the otherside of the country for a few years. See ya. Would you really call her names and think badly of her because she decides to end that relationship?

I would say that both OPS niece and your hypothetical daughter's boyfriend should still leave and go to law school, even if they know this means the end of their relationship. And I hold nothing against OPs niece's boyfriend or your daughter if they choose to end the relationship because they don't want a long term long distance relationship when they are young.

He's an insecure manchild because someone actually worth marrying and spending your life with would support your dreams. He won't support her in a career that potentially makes more money than him. He won't support her in schooling where she isn't under his thumb. She literally gave up a career because a boy threatened her. That's pathetic and I'd actually be so disappointed if that was my daughter.

Women don't need to kneel so men can feel tall.

It's none of your business what she does or doesn't do. You don't know what sacrifices he made in his life to accomodate her and you certainly don't know the depth and dynamic of their relationship to be making these absurd allegations. It's literally none of your business.

Lol. What sacrifices do men make to accommodate a woman lol?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious, OP, would it be fine with you if your daughter never married? I feel like that’s the natural endpoint of decentering men. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with that, just wondering if people are mostly ok with the prospect of just remaining single.

OP here. I will absolutely be fine with that. One of the reason I asked this was because my niece chose not go to law school because her boyfriend threatened to break up with her if she moved across the country to attend law school. And he is not even a fiance crazy....Of course some will argue it's a "her" problem. But is it really a "her only" problem? In my opinion, of course I could be totally wrong, more women will, for example, opt to say with their bf over going to law school in that scenario. How many men do you think will make a similar sacrifice? Most men first instinct will be that another woman will be waiting for them when they are done.

That is so unfortunate. Your niece would be so much better off being educated as a lawyer and not tied down with an insecure manchild.

How is he an insecure manchild? He doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship. That is a choice that many men and women make. Especially when they are young and college aged. There are also many women who break up with boyfriends who move away - does it make them all insecure womenchilds?

Your own daughter might consider breaking up with her boyfriend in college if he says oh hey, I am moving to the otherside of the country for a few years. See ya. Would you really call her names and think badly of her because she decides to end that relationship?

I would say that both OPS niece and your hypothetical daughter's boyfriend should still leave and go to law school, even if they know this means the end of their relationship. And I hold nothing against OPs niece's boyfriend or your daughter if they choose to end the relationship because they don't want a long term long distance relationship when they are young.

He's an insecure manchild because someone actually worth marrying and spending your life with would support your dreams. He won't support her in a career that potentially makes more money than him. He won't support her in schooling where she isn't under his thumb. She literally gave up a career because a boy threatened her. That's pathetic and I'd actually be so disappointed if that was my daughter.

Women don't need to kneel so men can feel tall.

It's none of your business what she does or doesn't do. You don't know what sacrifices he made in his life to accomodate her and you certainly don't know the depth and dynamic of their relationship to be making these absurd allegations. It's literally none of your business.

What sacrifices a ... high school child... had to make to accomodate his... highschool girlfriend? Are you drunk already? Midnight is still a ways away here.

They're not in high school anymore so stop trying to miscontrue the facts and trivialize his journey to bolster hers. They are on the same playing field and if she wants to sacrifice college for the time being to be with someone she has known since childhood, it is a completely acceptable decision.

Where did you get that from?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious, OP, would it be fine with you if your daughter never married? I feel like that’s the natural endpoint of decentering men. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with that, just wondering if people are mostly ok with the prospect of just remaining single.

OP here. I will absolutely be fine with that. One of the reason I asked this was because my niece chose not go to law school because her boyfriend threatened to break up with her if she moved across the country to attend law school. And he is not even a fiance crazy....Of course some will argue it's a "her" problem. But is it really a "her only" problem? In my opinion, of course I could be totally wrong, more women will, for example, opt to say with their bf over going to law school in that scenario. How many men do you think will make a similar sacrifice? Most men first instinct will be that another woman will be waiting for them when they are done.

That is so unfortunate. Your niece would be so much better off being educated as a lawyer and not tied down with an insecure manchild.

How is he an insecure manchild? He doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship. That is a choice that many men and women make. Especially when they are young and college aged. There are also many women who break up with boyfriends who move away - does it make them all insecure womenchilds?

Your own daughter might consider breaking up with her boyfriend in college if he says oh hey, I am moving to the otherside of the country for a few years. See ya. Would you really call her names and think badly of her because she decides to end that relationship?

I would say that both OPS niece and your hypothetical daughter's boyfriend should still leave and go to law school, even if they know this means the end of their relationship. And I hold nothing against OPs niece's boyfriend or your daughter if they choose to end the relationship because they don't want a long term long distance relationship when they are young.

He's an insecure manchild because someone actually worth marrying and spending your life with would support your dreams. He won't support her in a career that potentially makes more money than him. He won't support her in schooling where she isn't under his thumb. She literally gave up a career because a boy threatened her. That's pathetic and I'd actually be so disappointed if that was my daughter.

Women don't need to kneel so men can feel tall.

Oh please, this is absolute garbage. You made all of that up. You don't know them at all. Your sexist bias is pretty strong here.

So you would expect your daughter to stay with a guy who moves across the country for school. That she can't break up with him - she has to stay in a long term long distance realtionship indefinitely because otherwise she isn't supporting his dreams and his career? And that is she did break up with him, you would name call her and see her as a horrible person and partner for ending the relationship? Your poor daughter.

It's not about breaking up. It's the manipulation. "Stay or I'll break up with you" instead of "Follow your dreams and let's see where life takes us".

You actually think it's acceptable for a woman to give up college because her HIGH SCHOOL BOYFRIEND said so? You are the dim one here if you actually think that's reasonable.

Go back and read my post. You are just continually making things up that I say, that the Ops niece's boyfriend said. Mine was actually in black and white for you to read. The OPs niece's boyfriend is a 4th party paraphrased reported line in a discussion post.
Your inability to understand what is in front of you and just project sexist nonsense is unfortunate. You are no different from a misogynistic man.

What sexist nonsense? That women shouldn't give up educational opportunities for high school boys? Sooo sexist! Gah why can't my silly female fingers stop typing such sexist nonsense! Help meeee

Are you drunk or just incapable of contributing anything meaningful or worthwhile?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious, OP, would it be fine with you if your daughter never married? I feel like that’s the natural endpoint of decentering men. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with that, just wondering if people are mostly ok with the prospect of just remaining single.

OP here. I will absolutely be fine with that. One of the reason I asked this was because my niece chose not go to law school because her boyfriend threatened to break up with her if she moved across the country to attend law school. And he is not even a fiance crazy....Of course some will argue it's a "her" problem. But is it really a "her only" problem? In my opinion, of course I could be totally wrong, more women will, for example, opt to say with their bf over going to law school in that scenario. How many men do you think will make a similar sacrifice? Most men first instinct will be that another woman will be waiting for them when they are done.

That is so unfortunate. Your niece would be so much better off being educated as a lawyer and not tied down with an insecure manchild.

How is he an insecure manchild? He doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship. That is a choice that many men and women make. Especially when they are young and college aged. There are also many women who break up with boyfriends who move away - does it make them all insecure womenchilds?

Your own daughter might consider breaking up with her boyfriend in college if he says oh hey, I am moving to the otherside of the country for a few years. See ya. Would you really call her names and think badly of her because she decides to end that relationship?

I would say that both OPS niece and your hypothetical daughter's boyfriend should still leave and go to law school, even if they know this means the end of their relationship. And I hold nothing against OPs niece's boyfriend or your daughter if they choose to end the relationship because they don't want a long term long distance relationship when they are young.

He's an insecure manchild because someone actually worth marrying and spending your life with would support your dreams. He won't support her in a career that potentially makes more money than him. He won't support her in schooling where she isn't under his thumb. She literally gave up a career because a boy threatened her. That's pathetic and I'd actually be so disappointed if that was my daughter.

Women don't need to kneel so men can feel tall.

It's none of your business what she does or doesn't do. You don't know what sacrifices he made in his life to accomodate her and you certainly don't know the depth and dynamic of their relationship to be making these absurd allegations. It's literally none of your business.

What sacrifices a ... high school child... had to make to accomodate his... highschool girlfriend? Are you drunk already? Midnight is still a ways away here.

They're not in high school anymore so stop trying to miscontrue the facts and trivialize his journey to bolster hers. They are on the same playing field and if she wants to sacrifice college for the time being to be with someone she has known since childhood, it is a completely acceptable decision.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious, OP, would it be fine with you if your daughter never married? I feel like that’s the natural endpoint of decentering men. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with that, just wondering if people are mostly ok with the prospect of just remaining single.

OP here. I will absolutely be fine with that. One of the reason I asked this was because my niece chose not go to law school because her boyfriend threatened to break up with her if she moved across the country to attend law school. And he is not even a fiance crazy....Of course some will argue it's a "her" problem. But is it really a "her only" problem? In my opinion, of course I could be totally wrong, more women will, for example, opt to say with their bf over going to law school in that scenario. How many men do you think will make a similar sacrifice? Most men first instinct will be that another woman will be waiting for them when they are done.

That is so unfortunate. Your niece would be so much better off being educated as a lawyer and not tied down with an insecure manchild.

How is he an insecure manchild? He doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship. That is a choice that many men and women make. Especially when they are young and college aged. There are also many women who break up with boyfriends who move away - does it make them all insecure womenchilds?

Your own daughter might consider breaking up with her boyfriend in college if he says oh hey, I am moving to the otherside of the country for a few years. See ya. Would you really call her names and think badly of her because she decides to end that relationship?

I would say that both OPS niece and your hypothetical daughter's boyfriend should still leave and go to law school, even if they know this means the end of their relationship. And I hold nothing against OPs niece's boyfriend or your daughter if they choose to end the relationship because they don't want a long term long distance relationship when they are young.

He's an insecure manchild because someone actually worth marrying and spending your life with would support your dreams. He won't support her in a career that potentially makes more money than him. He won't support her in schooling where she isn't under his thumb. She literally gave up a career because a boy threatened her. That's pathetic and I'd actually be so disappointed if that was my daughter.

Women don't need to kneel so men can feel tall.

Oh please, this is absolute garbage. You made all of that up. You don't know them at all. Your sexist bias is pretty strong here.

So you would expect your daughter to stay with a guy who moves across the country for school. That she can't break up with him - she has to stay in a long term long distance realtionship indefinitely because otherwise she isn't supporting his dreams and his career? And that is she did break up with him, you would name call her and see her as a horrible person and partner for ending the relationship? Your poor daughter.

It's not about breaking up. It's the manipulation. "Stay or I'll break up with you" instead of "Follow your dreams and let's see where life takes us".

You actually think it's acceptable for a woman to give up college because her HIGH SCHOOL BOYFRIEND said so? You are the dim one here if you actually think that's reasonable.

Go back and read my post. You are just continually making things up that I say, that the Ops niece's boyfriend said. Mine was actually in black and white for you to read. The OPs niece's boyfriend is a 4th party paraphrased reported line in a discussion post.
Your inability to understand what is in front of you and just project sexist nonsense is unfortunate. You are no different from a misogynistic man.

What sexist nonsense? That women shouldn't give up educational opportunities for high school boys? Sooo sexist! Gah why can't my silly female fingers stop typing such sexist nonsense! Help meeee

Are you drunk or just incapable of contributing anything meaningful or worthwhile?

Using the drunk dig after seeing someone else already use it is an interesting choice. Good try though.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious, OP, would it be fine with you if your daughter never married? I feel like that’s the natural endpoint of decentering men. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with that, just wondering if people are mostly ok with the prospect of just remaining single.

OP here. I will absolutely be fine with that. One of the reason I asked this was because my niece chose not go to law school because her boyfriend threatened to break up with her if she moved across the country to attend law school. And he is not even a fiance crazy....Of course some will argue it's a "her" problem. But is it really a "her only" problem? In my opinion, of course I could be totally wrong, more women will, for example, opt to say with their bf over going to law school in that scenario. How many men do you think will make a similar sacrifice? Most men first instinct will be that another woman will be waiting for them when they are done.

That is so unfortunate. Your niece would be so much better off being educated as a lawyer and not tied down with an insecure manchild.

How is he an insecure manchild? He doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship. That is a choice that many men and women make. Especially when they are young and college aged. There are also many women who break up with boyfriends who move away - does it make them all insecure womenchilds?

Your own daughter might consider breaking up with her boyfriend in college if he says oh hey, I am moving to the otherside of the country for a few years. See ya. Would you really call her names and think badly of her because she decides to end that relationship?

I would say that both OPS niece and your hypothetical daughter's boyfriend should still leave and go to law school, even if they know this means the end of their relationship. And I hold nothing against OPs niece's boyfriend or your daughter if they choose to end the relationship because they don't want a long term long distance relationship when they are young.

He's an insecure manchild because someone actually worth marrying and spending your life with would support your dreams. He won't support her in a career that potentially makes more money than him. He won't support her in schooling where she isn't under his thumb. She literally gave up a career because a boy threatened her. That's pathetic and I'd actually be so disappointed if that was my daughter.

Women don't need to kneel so men can feel tall.

It's none of your business what she does or doesn't do. You don't know what sacrifices he made in his life to accomodate her and you certainly don't know the depth and dynamic of their relationship to be making these absurd allegations. It's literally none of your business.

Lol. What sacrifices do men make to accommodate a woman lol?

Absolutely none of course. Men have always put themselves first, at the extreme detriment to others.

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If a woman who is a CEO with a husband who is plumber both walk into a fancy restaurant, we know who the buttler will be quick to greet lol.

Men don't care about a woman's professional success or money. They don't. Women on the other hand care a lot about who their husband is. If he is a CEO she will be proud and brag about it.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious, OP, would it be fine with you if your daughter never married? I feel like that’s the natural endpoint of decentering men. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with that, just wondering if people are mostly ok with the prospect of just remaining single.

OP here. I will absolutely be fine with that. One of the reason I asked this was because my niece chose not go to law school because her boyfriend threatened to break up with her if she moved across the country to attend law school. And he is not even a fiance crazy....Of course some will argue it's a "her" problem. But is it really a "her only" problem? In my opinion, of course I could be totally wrong, more women will, for example, opt to say with their bf over going to law school in that scenario. How many men do you think will make a similar sacrifice? Most men first instinct will be that another woman will be waiting for them when they are done.

That is so unfortunate. Your niece would be so much better off being educated as a lawyer and not tied down with an insecure manchild.

How is he an insecure manchild? He doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship. That is a choice that many men and women make. Especially when they are young and college aged. There are also many women who break up with boyfriends who move away - does it make them all insecure womenchilds?

Your own daughter might consider breaking up with her boyfriend in college if he says oh hey, I am moving to the otherside of the country for a few years. See ya. Would you really call her names and think badly of her because she decides to end that relationship?

I would say that both OPS niece and your hypothetical daughter's boyfriend should still leave and go to law school, even if they know this means the end of their relationship. And I hold nothing against OPs niece's boyfriend or your daughter if they choose to end the relationship because they don't want a long term long distance relationship when they are young.

He's an insecure manchild because someone actually worth marrying and spending your life with would support your dreams. He won't support her in a career that potentially makes more money than him. He won't support her in schooling where she isn't under his thumb. She literally gave up a career because a boy threatened her. That's pathetic and I'd actually be so disappointed if that was my daughter.

Women don't need to kneel so men can feel tall.

It's none of your business what she does or doesn't do. You don't know what sacrifices he made in his life to accomodate her and you certainly don't know the depth and dynamic of their relationship to be making these absurd allegations. It's literally none of your business.

Lol. What sacrifices do men make to accommodate a woman lol?

What she is wants to be a SAHM? No point in really in going to law school if that’s your ultimate aim. My cousin gave up an acceptance for a PhD at Columbia because her fiance got accepted for residency in Ohio and she knew she didn’t want to work after kids anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious, OP, would it be fine with you if your daughter never married? I feel like that’s the natural endpoint of decentering men. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with that, just wondering if people are mostly ok with the prospect of just remaining single.

OP here. I will absolutely be fine with that. One of the reason I asked this was because my niece chose not go to law school because her boyfriend threatened to break up with her if she moved across the country to attend law school. And he is not even a fiance crazy....Of course some will argue it's a "her" problem. But is it really a "her only" problem? In my opinion, of course I could be totally wrong, more women will, for example, opt to say with their bf over going to law school in that scenario. How many men do you think will make a similar sacrifice? Most men first instinct will be that another woman will be waiting for them when they are done.

That is so unfortunate. Your niece would be so much better off being educated as a lawyer and not tied down with an insecure manchild.

How is he an insecure manchild? He doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship. That is a choice that many men and women make. Especially when they are young and college aged. There are also many women who break up with boyfriends who move away - does it make them all insecure womenchilds?

Your own daughter might consider breaking up with her boyfriend in college if he says oh hey, I am moving to the otherside of the country for a few years. See ya. Would you really call her names and think badly of her because she decides to end that relationship?

I would say that both OPS niece and your hypothetical daughter's boyfriend should still leave and go to law school, even if they know this means the end of their relationship. And I hold nothing against OPs niece's boyfriend or your daughter if they choose to end the relationship because they don't want a long term long distance relationship when they are young.

He's an insecure manchild because someone actually worth marrying and spending your life with would support your dreams. He won't support her in a career that potentially makes more money than him. He won't support her in schooling where she isn't under his thumb. She literally gave up a career because a boy threatened her. That's pathetic and I'd actually be so disappointed if that was my daughter.

Women don't need to kneel so men can feel tall.

It's none of your business what she does or doesn't do. You don't know what sacrifices he made in his life to accomodate her and you certainly don't know the depth and dynamic of their relationship to be making these absurd allegations. It's literally none of your business.

What sacrifices a ... high school child... had to make to accomodate his... highschool girlfriend? Are you drunk already? Midnight is still a ways away here.

They're not in high school anymore so stop trying to miscontrue the facts and trivialize his journey to bolster hers. They are on the same playing field and if she wants to sacrifice college for the time being to be with someone she has known since childhood, it is a completely acceptable decision.

This is so sad! They are on the same playing field now, because she turned down law school? What a gross comment. And "sacrificing college" for a HS relationship is absolutely crazy. I hope you don't have children.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious, OP, would it be fine with you if your daughter never married? I feel like that’s the natural endpoint of decentering men. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with that, just wondering if people are mostly ok with the prospect of just remaining single.

OP here. I will absolutely be fine with that. One of the reason I asked this was because my niece chose not go to law school because her boyfriend threatened to break up with her if she moved across the country to attend law school. And he is not even a fiance crazy....Of course some will argue it's a "her" problem. But is it really a "her only" problem? In my opinion, of course I could be totally wrong, more women will, for example, opt to say with their bf over going to law school in that scenario. How many men do you think will make a similar sacrifice? Most men first instinct will be that another woman will be waiting for them when they are done.

That is so unfortunate. Your niece would be so much better off being educated as a lawyer and not tied down with an insecure manchild.

How is he an insecure manchild? He doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship. That is a choice that many men and women make. Especially when they are young and college aged. There are also many women who break up with boyfriends who move away - does it make them all insecure womenchilds?

Your own daughter might consider breaking up with her boyfriend in college if he says oh hey, I am moving to the otherside of the country for a few years. See ya. Would you really call her names and think badly of her because she decides to end that relationship?

I would say that both OPS niece and your hypothetical daughter's boyfriend should still leave and go to law school, even if they know this means the end of their relationship. And I hold nothing against OPs niece's boyfriend or your daughter if they choose to end the relationship because they don't want a long term long distance relationship when they are young.

He's an insecure manchild because someone actually worth marrying and spending your life with would support your dreams. He won't support her in a career that potentially makes more money than him. He won't support her in schooling where she isn't under his thumb. She literally gave up a career because a boy threatened her. That's pathetic and I'd actually be so disappointed if that was my daughter.

Women don't need to kneel so men can feel tall.

It's none of your business what she does or doesn't do. You don't know what sacrifices he made in his life to accomodate her and you certainly don't know the depth and dynamic of their relationship to be making these absurd allegations. It's literally none of your business.

Lol. What sacrifices do men make to accommodate a woman lol?

What she is wants to be a SAHM? No point in really in going to law school if that’s your ultimate aim. My cousin gave up an acceptance for a PhD at Columbia because her fiance got accepted for residency in Ohio and she knew she didn’t want to work after kids anyway.

Do we not want educated women raising children? What is wrong with encouraging education, even if your ultimate goal is not to work?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious, OP, would it be fine with you if your daughter never married? I feel like that’s the natural endpoint of decentering men. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with that, just wondering if people are mostly ok with the prospect of just remaining single.

OP here. I will absolutely be fine with that. One of the reason I asked this was because my niece chose not go to law school because her boyfriend threatened to break up with her if she moved across the country to attend law school. And he is not even a fiance crazy....Of course some will argue it's a "her" problem. But is it really a "her only" problem? In my opinion, of course I could be totally wrong, more women will, for example, opt to say with their bf over going to law school in that scenario. How many men do you think will make a similar sacrifice? Most men first instinct will be that another woman will be waiting for them when they are done.

That is so unfortunate. Your niece would be so much better off being educated as a lawyer and not tied down with an insecure manchild.

How is he an insecure manchild? He doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship. That is a choice that many men and women make. Especially when they are young and college aged. There are also many women who break up with boyfriends who move away - does it make them all insecure womenchilds?

Your own daughter might consider breaking up with her boyfriend in college if he says oh hey, I am moving to the otherside of the country for a few years. See ya. Would you really call her names and think badly of her because she decides to end that relationship?

I would say that both OPS niece and your hypothetical daughter's boyfriend should still leave and go to law school, even if they know this means the end of their relationship. And I hold nothing against OPs niece's boyfriend or your daughter if they choose to end the relationship because they don't want a long term long distance relationship when they are young.

He's an insecure manchild because someone actually worth marrying and spending your life with would support your dreams. He won't support her in a career that potentially makes more money than him. He won't support her in schooling where she isn't under his thumb. She literally gave up a career because a boy threatened her. That's pathetic and I'd actually be so disappointed if that was my daughter.

Women don't need to kneel so men can feel tall.

It's none of your business what she does or doesn't do. You don't know what sacrifices he made in his life to accomodate her and you certainly don't know the depth and dynamic of their relationship to be making these absurd allegations. It's literally none of your business.

Lol. What sacrifices do men make to accommodate a woman lol?

What she is wants to be a SAHM? No point in really in going to law school if that’s your ultimate aim. My cousin gave up an acceptance for a PhD at Columbia because her fiance got accepted for residency in Ohio and she knew she didn’t want to work after kids anyway.

Do we not want educated women raising children? What is wrong with encouraging education, even if your ultimate goal is not to work?

Paying hundreds of thousands of dollars for law school when you know you don’t want to work? That’s funny.

My mother raised a lawyer, a civil engineer, and a bioinformatics scientist with a high school education.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious, OP, would it be fine with you if your daughter never married? I feel like that’s the natural endpoint of decentering men. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with that, just wondering if people are mostly ok with the prospect of just remaining single.

OP here. I will absolutely be fine with that. One of the reason I asked this was because my niece chose not go to law school because her boyfriend threatened to break up with her if she moved across the country to attend law school. And he is not even a fiance crazy....Of course some will argue it's a "her" problem. But is it really a "her only" problem? In my opinion, of course I could be totally wrong, more women will, for example, opt to say with their bf over going to law school in that scenario. How many men do you think will make a similar sacrifice? Most men first instinct will be that another woman will be waiting for them when they are done.

That is so unfortunate. Your niece would be so much better off being educated as a lawyer and not tied down with an insecure manchild.

How is he an insecure manchild? He doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship. That is a choice that many men and women make. Especially when they are young and college aged. There are also many women who break up with boyfriends who move away - does it make them all insecure womenchilds?

Your own daughter might consider breaking up with her boyfriend in college if he says oh hey, I am moving to the otherside of the country for a few years. See ya. Would you really call her names and think badly of her because she decides to end that relationship?

I would say that both OPS niece and your hypothetical daughter's boyfriend should still leave and go to law school, even if they know this means the end of their relationship. And I hold nothing against OPs niece's boyfriend or your daughter if they choose to end the relationship because they don't want a long term long distance relationship when they are young.

He's an insecure manchild because someone actually worth marrying and spending your life with would support your dreams. He won't support her in a career that potentially makes more money than him. He won't support her in schooling where she isn't under his thumb. She literally gave up a career because a boy threatened her. That's pathetic and I'd actually be so disappointed if that was my daughter.

Women don't need to kneel so men can feel tall.

It's none of your business what she does or doesn't do. You don't know what sacrifices he made in his life to accomodate her and you certainly don't know the depth and dynamic of their relationship to be making these absurd allegations. It's literally none of your business.

Lol. What sacrifices do men make to accommodate a woman lol?

What she is wants to be a SAHM? No point in really in going to law school if that’s your ultimate aim. My cousin gave up an acceptance for a PhD at Columbia because her fiance got accepted for residency in Ohio and she knew she didn’t want to work after kids anyway.

Do we not want educated women raising children? What is wrong with encouraging education, even if your ultimate goal is not to work?

Paying hundreds of thousands of dollars for law school when you know you don’t want to work? That’s funny.

My mother raised a lawyer, a civil engineer, and a bioinformatics scientist with a high school education.

Sounds like she encouraged your education - what any great parent would do. Congrats to her, you and your other educated siblings. I feel like you are making the point here.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m curious, OP, would it be fine with you if your daughter never married? I feel like that’s the natural endpoint of decentering men. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with that, just wondering if people are mostly ok with the prospect of just remaining single.

OP here. I will absolutely be fine with that. One of the reason I asked this was because my niece chose not go to law school because her boyfriend threatened to break up with her if she moved across the country to attend law school. And he is not even a fiance crazy....Of course some will argue it's a "her" problem. But is it really a "her only" problem? In my opinion, of course I could be totally wrong, more women will, for example, opt to say with their bf over going to law school in that scenario. How many men do you think will make a similar sacrifice? Most men first instinct will be that another woman will be waiting for them when they are done.

That is so unfortunate. Your niece would be so much better off being educated as a lawyer and not tied down with an insecure manchild.

How is he an insecure manchild? He doesn't want to be in a long distance relationship. That is a choice that many men and women make. Especially when they are young and college aged. There are also many women who break up with boyfriends who move away - does it make them all insecure womenchilds?

Your own daughter might consider breaking up with her boyfriend in college if he says oh hey, I am moving to the otherside of the country for a few years. See ya. Would you really call her names and think badly of her because she decides to end that relationship?

I would say that both OPS niece and your hypothetical daughter's boyfriend should still leave and go to law school, even if they know this means the end of their relationship. And I hold nothing against OPs niece's boyfriend or your daughter if they choose to end the relationship because they don't want a long term long distance relationship when they are young.

He's an insecure manchild because someone actually worth marrying and spending your life with would support your dreams. He won't support her in a career that potentially makes more money than him. He won't support her in schooling where she isn't under his thumb. She literally gave up a career because a boy threatened her. That's pathetic and I'd actually be so disappointed if that was my daughter.

Women don't need to kneel so men can feel tall.

It's none of your business what she does or doesn't do. You don't know what sacrifices he made in his life to accomodate her and you certainly don't know the depth and dynamic of their relationship to be making these absurd allegations. It's literally none of your business.

Lol. What sacrifices do men make to accommodate a woman lol?

What she is wants to be a SAHM? No point in really in going to law school if that’s your ultimate aim. My cousin gave up an acceptance for a PhD at Columbia because her fiance got accepted for residency in Ohio and she knew she didn’t want to work after kids anyway.

Do we not want educated women raising children? What is wrong with encouraging education, even if your ultimate goal is not to work?

Paying hundreds of thousands of dollars for law school when you know you don’t want to work? That’s funny.

My mother raised a lawyer, a civil engineer, and a bioinformatics scientist with a high school education.

Sounds like she encouraged your education - what any great parent would do. Congrats to her, you and your other educated siblings. I feel like you are making the point here.

Yes, but we knew we wanted to work. And we do (to be fair the engineer is a boy though).

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Exactly this