How does a child deal with getting into a college for Greek life only to get denied from all the chapters?

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Anonymous wrote:You accept the fact that Greek life is for losers anyway and move on.

The "losers" in Greek life have higher GPAs, higher graduation rates, and higher starting salaries than the "winners" who stay independent (often, as evidenced by this very thread, because no one gave them a bid). Greeks also tend to hold most of the leadership positions on campus and date the most desirable members of the opposite sex. But sure, keep telling yourself they're losers.

Sounds like from this response that they're also more obnoxious and have higher superiority complexes than non-Greeks as well.

Sounds like from this response you've never darkened the door of a top-tier house.

Aside from these rather dispiriting threads, I don’t think about “Greeks” at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You accept the fact that Greek life is for losers anyway and move on.

The "losers" in Greek life have higher GPAs, higher graduation rates, and higher starting salaries than the "winners" who stay independent (often, as evidenced by this very thread, because no one gave them a bid). Greeks also tend to hold most of the leadership positions on campus and date the most desirable members of the opposite sex. But sure, keep telling yourself they're losers.

As someone who was scholarship chairman in his fraternity, I can assure you this is not true in the slightest.

Every Greek life thread on this forum has numerous posts that start with "I was [insert lofty title] of my fraternity/sorority" and immediately shifts to say something negative about the Greek system. And every one of those posts was written by a geed who never actually got a bid to a top-tier house.

Lol. PP here. Only a geed would think scholarship chairman (or any other chair within a house) is a lofty title. If you want lofty, you are either president/VP of your house or something on the Interfraternity Council. You should know this but you are the one that is a massive f’ing geed, pretending not to be.

Are you the poster who is obsessed with “cute coeds” crowding the stadium to cheer on their team? And think that this is the pinnacle of college life?

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Anonymous wrote:You accept the fact that Greek life is for losers anyway and move on.

The "losers" in Greek life have higher GPAs, higher graduation rates, and higher starting salaries than the "winners" who stay independent (often, as evidenced by this very thread, because no one gave them a bid). Greeks also tend to hold most of the leadership positions on campus and date the most desirable members of the opposite sex. But sure, keep telling yourself they're losers.

As someone who was scholarship chairman in his fraternity, I can assure you this is not true in the slightest.

Every Greek life thread on this forum has numerous posts that start with "I was [insert lofty title] of my fraternity/sorority" and immediately shifts to say something negative about the Greek system. And every one of those posts was written by a geed who never actually got a bid to a top-tier house.

Lol. PP here. Only a geed would think scholarship chairman (or any other chair within a house) is a lofty title. If you want lofty, you are either president/VP of your house or something on the Interfraternity Council. You should know this but you are the one that is a massive f’ing geed, pretending not to be.

Are you the poster who is obsessed with “cute coeds” crowding the stadium to cheer on their team? And think that this is the pinnacle of college life?

No, that’s the person I was responding to and I was making fun of him and his notorious use of geed.

[Anonymous]

This is a TROLL.
Rush is either in Aug/Sept or January.

This is not a real parent or child trying to process what to do, it's a TROLL.

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Anonymous wrote:How would someone process that?

Mine had a lot of tears for a few days, but then recovered. If your child is female, she can still go to all the frat parties. Mine really wanted to try again the next semester, but most of her friends who were in sororities turned out to be jerks. She found other things to do, better friends, and a part-time job. The whole process was traumatic for her at first, but I think it all worked out in the end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is an air of desperation coming from the parents. What in God's name did you tell your kid? You could've spent those 18 years cultivating a well-rounded person, but somehow came to this singular plan and when it fell through - you're lost. This is why your kid(s) lack grit and resilience, parents don't have it either.
Please for everything holy, raise your kids! Stop looking for a magic bullet to combat mediocrity. Then you don't need 'hacks'.

Sometimes kids have their own ideas, you know? I never joined a sorority (nor did I try) — it’s just not my thing, but my DD wanted to join one. Maybe it’s because she never fit in in HS and thought college would be different - who knows? I tried to prepare her for whatever decisions would be made, but she was still disappointed when she didn’t get in. It’s OK to be disappointed. She grew from it.