Fwb said 18-30 yr olds are most sexually attractive

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Anonymous wrote:I am turning 31 in a couple weeks. I am a single parent and not dating seriously. I have had a 43 yr old male companion for the past 3 years who I have a good friendship with. We go on dates and hook up, sometimes going a few months without seeing one another and other times hanging out fairly consistently. I hang out with him when my ex has the kids (roughly 50% of the time). I am bisexual.

Yesterday I mentioned that a couple guys I worked with were hot. They aren't people that I work with regularly. I asked him if he had any hot coworkers. He said only the students at his work (a university) were hot. I then asked him what age he finds most sexually attractive, and he said 18-30.

I work with 18-year-olds (high school students) and told him that I can't see them that way. I know their bodies are similar to 20 somethings, but the fact that their brains are 18 year olds I find them to be baby-like. I said that personally I find women in their 30s or even 40s to be most attractive. I said "don't you think so?" And he said "yeah, if you're into milfs" and laughed.

Should I stop seeing him? I let him know that his comments made me feel insecure. I know that men like younger women etc etc, but I guess I prefer to have sex with a man who is at least also into women in the same age decade as I am. Of course he's just a fwb so it shouldn't matter to me so much, but it hurt.

So he honestly answered your question and now you are too insecure (and stupid) to accept his honest answer? Sounds like you have the 18 (or less) year old brain.

Ignoring your awful tone, I have accepted his answer. I just wonder if I would be better off hooking up with a man who is more into women my age as I am getting older. If I'm going to be with a man 12 yrs my senior, I want him to appreciate the fact that I'm much younger.

Grow up and be more confident. Saying that he finds younger women more attractive doesn't mean he doesn't like you.
He is just stating a fact.
My wife and I are 60. If she asks me that question I would say that I find women in their 30s more attractive. Everyone knows I would be lying if I said that I find 60 yo more attractive than 30 yo. Come on.
Does that I mean I don't love my wife. Hell no. I love her to death. But that's not a reason to pretend that 60 yo women are more attractive than 30 yo.

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Anonymous wrote:So you're telling him about hot guys you work with and then getting offended when he is similarly candid with you? It sounds like he accidentally touched a nerve without realizing that you're probably sensitive about your age. Not worth breaking up.

What OP said about guys at work carried no negative connotation just a pure statement of fact. His statement carries a negative statement with an attitude that nobody in their right mind would want a MILF. OP is not even a "MILF" she's very young!

OP - he's telling that because he's sleeping with many other, much younger women and this is where his passions are. Drop him.

I had a very bad experience with a man like that he hurt my self esteem and left me suddenly

He never said anything negative. She asked what age he finds most attractive. He said 18-30. That's true for most men. He never said that women 30 and older are not attractive at all. He said 18-30 are MOST attractive. There is nothing negative there.

Err no. Pervy pedos are attracted to "barely legal" and those are the people that say "well 18 is legal!". That just means they'd go younger if it were legally allowed. Sorry, but no, that's not *most* men. That is creepy, predatory men.

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Why did you talk about the hot guys at work? Maybe that stung and he wanted to hurt you back.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am turning 31 in a couple weeks. I am a single parent and not dating seriously. I have had a 43 yr old male companion for the past 3 years who I have a good friendship with. We go on dates and hook up, sometimes going a few months without seeing one another and other times hanging out fairly consistently. I hang out with him when my ex has the kids (roughly 50% of the time). I am bisexual.

Yesterday I mentioned that a couple guys I worked with were hot. They aren't people that I work with regularly. I asked him if he had any hot coworkers. He said only the students at his work (a university) were hot. I then asked him what age he finds most sexually attractive, and he said 18-30.

I work with 18-year-olds (high school students) and told him that I can't see them that way. I know their bodies are similar to 20 somethings, but the fact that their brains are 18 year olds I find them to be baby-like. I said that personally I find women in their 30s or even 40s to be most attractive. I said "don't you think so?" And he said "yeah, if you're into milfs" and laughed.

Should I stop seeing him? I let him know that his comments made me feel insecure. I know that men like younger women etc etc, but I guess I prefer to have sex with a man who is at least also into women in the same age decade as I am. Of course he's just a fwb so it shouldn't matter to me so much, but it hurt.

So he honestly answered your question and now you are too insecure (and stupid) to accept his honest answer? Sounds like you have the 18 (or less) year old brain.

Ignoring your awful tone, I have accepted his answer. I just wonder if I would be better off hooking up with a man who is more into women my age as I am getting older. If I'm going to be with a man 12 yrs my senior, I want him to appreciate the fact that I'm much younger.

What is wrong with you, op?

[Anonymous]

"I'm out of his league"
"He's clueless in bed"
"I have tons of options [and I make sure to point that out to him]"
"I don't even like him for sex"
"I think he only gets sex if he pays for it"

But yeah, the guy saying he finds 18-30 age group most attractive to his still-30-but-soon-31 FWB is SUPER TOXIC!

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Anonymous wrote:Gross. Any attraction I had would die when he said he was attracted to 18-year-olds.

Smart. It's better to be with men who will lie to you.

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Isn't the whole point of a FWB the no-strings, low-energy investment sex? Why are you asking him what he likes/dislikes, let alone caring about the response? Get what you need/want from this person and move on with your day.

If his answer gave you "the ick", get a new FWB and be smarter next time: casual chat and bedroom activities only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am turning 31 in a couple weeks. I am a single parent and not dating seriously. I have had a 43 yr old male companion for the past 3 years who I have a good friendship with. We go on dates and hook up, sometimes going a few months without seeing one another and other times hanging out fairly consistently. I hang out with him when my ex has the kids (roughly 50% of the time). I am bisexual.

Yesterday I mentioned that a couple guys I worked with were hot. They aren't people that I work with regularly. I asked him if he had any hot coworkers. He said only the students at his work (a university) were hot. I then asked him what age he finds most sexually attractive, and he said 18-30.

I work with 18-year-olds (high school students) and told him that I can't see them that way. I know their bodies are similar to 20 somethings, but the fact that their brains are 18 year olds I find them to be baby-like. I said that personally I find women in their 30s or even 40s to be most attractive. I said "don't you think so?" And he said "yeah, if you're into milfs" and laughed.

Should I stop seeing him? I let him know that his comments made me feel insecure. I know that men like younger women etc etc, but I guess I prefer to have sex with a man who is at least also into women in the same age decade as I am. Of course he's just a fwb so it shouldn't matter to me so much, but it hurt.

So he honestly answered your question and now you are too insecure (and stupid) to accept his honest answer? Sounds like you have the 18 (or less) year old brain.

Ignoring your awful tone, I have accepted his answer. I just wonder if I would be better off hooking up with a man who is more into women my age as I am getting older. If I'm going to be with a man 12 yrs my senior, I want him to appreciate the fact that I'm much younger.

Sounds like you want the upper hand in the relationship and now your ego is bruised because your fwb (shockingly!) isn't that invested in you.

[Anonymous]

Women slam into the wall around age 30. It is an unfortunate truth.

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Anonymous wrote:Drop him. I am 48 and the last man I slept with was 30. He would never say such a thing.

At your age, you have no reason you need to sleep with a 40+ man. I don’t.

Why on earth would a 30 years old man sleep with a a 48 years old woman, whose coochie is probably starting to get wrinkly....

I guess he can't find any woman his age.

Please sleep with men your age, you are way too old to sleep with men in their 30s

I don't know but people sometime do it for ego boost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I'm out of his league"
"He's clueless in bed"
"I have tons of options [and I make sure to point that out to him]"
"I don't even like him for sex"
"I think he only gets sex if he pays for it"

But yeah, the guy saying he finds 18-30 age group most attractive to his still-30-but-soon-31 FWB is SUPER TOXIC!

all this matters when they are dating or in a relationship otherwise it is a FWB situation and there is no point of getting your feelings hurt.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He should be grateful you're even spending time with him. Move on.

Actually, as a divorcee with baggage, she should be grateful he gives her the time he does.

[Anonymous]

I would drop him. He sounds like an immature pig and by the time he matures he will probably be in his '60s if ever. Yeah

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Anonymous wrote:They watch porn. How is this a surprise to you, OP?

Men peak in college and their attractiveness falls off precipitously after that.

They bald, they get pregnant bellies without gestating anything except excess food, they wrinkle and crease, their penises lose hardness, and their personalities become bitter and nasty as their testosterone plummets. Sometimes I look at DH's college photos and I can hardly believe he was ever so attractive.

Anyone with eyes knows a college hunk craps on a 30+ man looks-wise. No need to watch porn.

HOWEVER, only an a--hole would say this to an older man.

It's about judgment, which you clearly lack, since you don't seem to get the importance of judgment.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Drop him. I am 48 and the last man I slept with was 30. He would never say such a thing.

At your age, you have no reason you need to sleep with a 40+ man. I don’t.

Why on earth would a 30 years old man sleep with a a 48 years old woman, whose coochie is probably starting to get wrinkly....

I guess he can't find any woman his age.

Please sleep with men your age, you are way too old to sleep with men in their 30s

I don't know but people sometime do it for ego boost.

I'm 44 And I have less lines then a 30-year-old and my cooch isn't baggy or wrinkly or whatever. Actually, I haven't towed by my 30-year-old boyfriend's that it's very pretty actually.