Fwb said 18-30 yr olds are most sexually attractive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am turning 31 in a couple weeks. I am a single parent and not dating seriously. I have had a 43 yr old male companion for the past 3 years who I have a good friendship with. We go on dates and hook up, sometimes going a few months without seeing one another and other times hanging out fairly consistently. I hang out with him when my ex has the kids (roughly 50% of the time). I am bisexual.

Yesterday I mentioned that a couple guys I worked with were hot. They aren't people that I work with regularly. I asked him if he had any hot coworkers. He said only the students at his work (a university) were hot. I then asked him what age he finds most sexually attractive, and he said 18-30.

I work with 18-year-olds (high school students) and told him that I can't see them that way. I know their bodies are similar to 20 somethings, but the fact that their brains are 18 year olds I find them to be baby-like. I said that personally I find women in their 30s or even 40s to be most attractive. I said "don't you think so?" And he said "yeah, if you're into milfs" and laughed.

Should I stop seeing him? I let him know that his comments made me feel insecure. I know that men like younger women etc etc, but I guess I prefer to have sex with a man who is at least also into women in the same age decade as I am. Of course he's just a fwb so it shouldn't matter to me so much, but it hurt.

So he honestly answered your question and now you are too insecure (and stupid) to accept his honest answer? Sounds like you have the 18 (or less) year old brain.

Ignoring your awful tone, I have accepted his answer. I just wonder if I would be better off hooking up with a man who is more into women my age as I am getting older. If I'm going to be with a man 12 yrs my senior, I want him to appreciate the fact that I'm much younger.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was fairly common? There's always a "teen" (I presume 18) genre link front and center at porn sites.

I'm aware, just wish he didn't put the cutoff at 30 knowing damn well I turn 31 soon.

Really? You’re a mom and the MILF thing didn’t trigger anything?

He’s just not that into you.

Oh yes, the milf thing def triggered me. That's why I mentioned it. And I agree, it seems he's not that into me. He says he has feelings, that he cares for me etc. But he's never had a long term relationship. Longest relationship was around 6-9 months, his child's mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am turning 31 in a couple weeks. I am a single parent and not dating seriously. I have had a 43 yr old male companion for the past 3 years who I have a good friendship with. We go on dates and hook up, sometimes going a few months without seeing one another and other times hanging out fairly consistently. I hang out with him when my ex has the kids (roughly 50% of the time). I am bisexual.

Yesterday I mentioned that a couple guys I worked with were hot. They aren't people that I work with regularly. I asked him if he had any hot coworkers. He said only the students at his work (a university) were hot. I then asked him what age he finds most sexually attractive, and he said 18-30.

I work with 18-year-olds (high school students) and told him that I can't see them that way. I know their bodies are similar to 20 somethings, but the fact that their brains are 18 year olds I find them to be baby-like. I said that personally I find women in their 30s or even 40s to be most attractive. I said "don't you think so?" And he said "yeah, if you're into milfs" and laughed.

Should I stop seeing him? I let him know that his comments made me feel insecure. I know that men like younger women etc etc, but I guess I prefer to have sex with a man who is at least also into women in the same age decade as I am. Of course he's just a fwb so it shouldn't matter to me so much, but it hurt.

So he honestly answered your question and now you are too insecure (and stupid) to accept his honest answer? Sounds like you have the 18 (or less) year old brain.

Ignoring your awful tone, I have accepted his answer. I just wonder if I would be better off hooking up with a man who is more into women my age as I am getting older. If I'm going to be with a man 12 yrs my senior, I want him to appreciate the fact that I'm much younger.

Don't you know the obvious answer?! Jeez.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am turning 31 in a couple weeks. I am a single parent and not dating seriously. I have had a 43 yr old male companion for the past 3 years who I have a good friendship with. We go on dates and hook up, sometimes going a few months without seeing one another and other times hanging out fairly consistently. I hang out with him when my ex has the kids (roughly 50% of the time). I am bisexual.

Yesterday I mentioned that a couple guys I worked with were hot. They aren't people that I work with regularly. I asked him if he had any hot coworkers. He said only the students at his work (a university) were hot. I then asked him what age he finds most sexually attractive, and he said 18-30.

I work with 18-year-olds (high school students) and told him that I can't see them that way. I know their bodies are similar to 20 somethings, but the fact that their brains are 18 year olds I find them to be baby-like. I said that personally I find women in their 30s or even 40s to be most attractive. I said "don't you think so?" And he said "yeah, if you're into milfs" and laughed.

Should I stop seeing him? I let him know that his comments made me feel insecure. I know that men like younger women etc etc, but I guess I prefer to have sex with a man who is at least also into women in the same age decade as I am. Of course he's just a fwb so it shouldn't matter to me so much, but it hurt.

So he honestly answered your question and now you are too insecure (and stupid) to accept his honest answer? Sounds like you have the 18 (or less) year old brain.

Ignoring your awful tone, I have accepted his answer. I just wonder if I would be better off hooking up with a man who is more into women my age as I am getting older. If I'm going to be with a man 12 yrs my senior, I want him to appreciate the fact that I'm much younger.

Don't you know the obvious answer?! Jeez.

I mean how is it obvious when plenty of people are saying things like this is normal etc?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am turning 31 in a couple weeks. I am a single parent and not dating seriously. I have had a 43 yr old male companion for the past 3 years who I have a good friendship with. We go on dates and hook up, sometimes going a few months without seeing one another and other times hanging out fairly consistently. I hang out with him when my ex has the kids (roughly 50% of the time). I am bisexual.

Yesterday I mentioned that a couple guys I worked with were hot. They aren't people that I work with regularly. I asked him if he had any hot coworkers. He said only the students at his work (a university) were hot. I then asked him what age he finds most sexually attractive, and he said 18-30.

I work with 18-year-olds (high school students) and told him that I can't see them that way. I know their bodies are similar to 20 somethings, but the fact that their brains are 18 year olds I find them to be baby-like. I said that personally I find women in their 30s or even 40s to be most attractive. I said "don't you think so?" And he said "yeah, if you're into milfs" and laughed.

Should I stop seeing him? I let him know that his comments made me feel insecure. I know that men like younger women etc etc, but I guess I prefer to have sex with a man who is at least also into women in the same age decade as I am. Of course he's just a fwb so it shouldn't matter to me so much, but it hurt.

So he honestly answered your question and now you are too insecure (and stupid) to accept his honest answer? Sounds like you have the 18 (or less) year old brain.

Ignoring your awful tone, I have accepted his answer. I just wonder if I would be better off hooking up with a man who is more into women my age as I am getting older. If I'm going to be with a man 12 yrs my senior, I want him to appreciate the fact that I'm much younger.

Don't you know the obvious answer?! Jeez.

I mean how is it obvious when plenty of people are saying things like this is normal etc?

If he is that much older than you and is that insensitive? C'mon!
Don't listen to dense "plenty of people".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am turning 31 in a couple weeks. I am a single parent and not dating seriously. I have had a 43 yr old male companion for the past 3 years who I have a good friendship with. We go on dates and hook up, sometimes going a few months without seeing one another and other times hanging out fairly consistently. I hang out with him when my ex has the kids (roughly 50% of the time). I am bisexual.

Yesterday I mentioned that a couple guys I worked with were hot. They aren't people that I work with regularly. I asked him if he had any hot coworkers. He said only the students at his work (a university) were hot. I then asked him what age he finds most sexually attractive, and he said 18-30.

I work with 18-year-olds (high school students) and told him that I can't see them that way. I know their bodies are similar to 20 somethings, but the fact that their brains are 18 year olds I find them to be baby-like. I said that personally I find women in their 30s or even 40s to be most attractive. I said "don't you think so?" And he said "yeah, if you're into milfs" and laughed.

Should I stop seeing him? I let him know that his comments made me feel insecure. I know that men like younger women etc etc, but I guess I prefer to have sex with a man who is at least also into women in the same age decade as I am. Of course he's just a fwb so it shouldn't matter to me so much, but it hurt.

So he honestly answered your question and now you are too insecure (and stupid) to accept his honest answer? Sounds like you have the 18 (or less) year old brain.

Ignoring your awful tone, I have accepted his answer. I just wonder if I would be better off hooking up with a man who is more into women my age as I am getting older. If I'm going to be with a man 12 yrs my senior, I want him to appreciate the fact that I'm much younger.

Don't you know the obvious answer?! Jeez.

I mean how is it obvious when plenty of people are saying things like this is normal etc?

And you need to work on your self esteem.
Big time.

[Anonymous]

So you're telling him about hot guys you work with and then getting offended when he is similarly candid with you? It sounds like he accidentally touched a nerve without realizing that you're probably sensitive about your age. Not worth breaking up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you're telling him about hot guys you work with and then getting offended when he is similarly candid with you? It sounds like he accidentally touched a nerve without realizing that you're probably sensitive about your age. Not worth breaking up.

What OP said about guys at work carried no negative connotation just a pure statement of fact. His statement carries a negative statement with an attitude that nobody in their right mind would want a MILF. OP is not even a "MILF" she's very young!

OP - he's telling that because he's sleeping with many other, much younger women and this is where his passions are. Drop him.

I had a very bad experience with a man like that he hurt my self esteem and left me suddenly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you're telling him about hot guys you work with and then getting offended when he is similarly candid with you? It sounds like he accidentally touched a nerve without realizing that you're probably sensitive about your age. Not worth breaking up.

Any man who is incapable of lying to the woman he is sleeping with deserves to be left alone with his hands.

A woman feeling desired is part of foreplay. If a man dies not know that at 40, he is pretty lucky that he gets any play.

FWB for women OP's age are abundant. Why should she settle for an idiot?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am turning 31 in a couple weeks. I am a single parent and not dating seriously. I have had a 43 yr old male companion for the past 3 years who I have a good friendship with. We go on dates and hook up, sometimes going a few months without seeing one another and other times hanging out fairly consistently. I hang out with him when my ex has the kids (roughly 50% of the time). I am bisexual.

Yesterday I mentioned that a couple guys I worked with were hot. They aren't people that I work with regularly. I asked him if he had any hot coworkers. He said only the students at his work (a university) were hot. I then asked him what age he finds most sexually attractive, and he said 18-30.

I work with 18-year-olds (high school students) and told him that I can't see them that way. I know their bodies are similar to 20 somethings, but the fact that their brains are 18 year olds I find them to be baby-like. I said that personally I find women in their 30s or even 40s to be most attractive. I said "don't you think so?" And he said "yeah, if you're into milfs" and laughed.

Should I stop seeing him? I let him know that his comments made me feel insecure. I know that men like younger women etc etc, but I guess I prefer to have sex with a man who is at least also into women in the same age decade as I am. Of course he's just a fwb so it shouldn't matter to me so much, but it hurt.

So he honestly answered your question and now you are too insecure (and stupid) to accept his honest answer? Sounds like you have the 18 (or less) year old brain.

Ignoring your awful tone, I have accepted his answer. I just wonder if I would be better off hooking up with a man who is more into women my age as I am getting older. If I'm going to be with a man 12 yrs my senior, I want him to appreciate the fact that I'm much younger.

Don't you know the obvious answer?! Jeez.

I mean how is it obvious when plenty of people are saying things like this is normal etc?

If he is that much older than you and is that insensitive? C'mon!
Don't listen to dense "plenty of people".

He's her friend who she occasionally sleeps with, not her boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Dump him. He isn't worth it. Not if you are questioning it. Listen to your gut.

[Anonymous]

You've made it clear that the nature of your relationship is FWB, so obviously he's not serious about you. He's not your emotional support buddy or your boyfriend, he's there out of convenience. The real question is, were you hoping for something more from this relationship?

[Anonymous]

I would stop seeing him. I wouldn't want to see anyone who makes me feel bad for any reason. You don't need him, so why keep him around?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am turning 31 in a couple weeks. I am a single parent and not dating seriously. I have had a 43 yr old male companion for the past 3 years who I have a good friendship with. We go on dates and hook up, sometimes going a few months without seeing one another and other times hanging out fairly consistently. I hang out with him when my ex has the kids (roughly 50% of the time). I am bisexual.

Yesterday I mentioned that a couple guys I worked with were hot. They aren't people that I work with regularly. I asked him if he had any hot coworkers. He said only the students at his work (a university) were hot. I then asked him what age he finds most sexually attractive, and he said 18-30.

I work with 18-year-olds (high school students) and told him that I can't see them that way. I know their bodies are similar to 20 somethings, but the fact that their brains are 18 year olds I find them to be baby-like. I said that personally I find women in their 30s or even 40s to be most attractive. I said "don't you think so?" And he said "yeah, if you're into milfs" and laughed.

Should I stop seeing him? I let him know that his comments made me feel insecure. I know that men like younger women etc etc, but I guess I prefer to have sex with a man who is at least also into women in the same age decade as I am. Of course he's just a fwb so it shouldn't matter to me so much, but it hurt.

So he honestly answered your question and now you are too insecure (and stupid) to accept his honest answer? Sounds like you have the 18 (or less) year old brain.

Ignoring your awful tone, I have accepted his answer. I just wonder if I would be better off hooking up with a man who is more into women my age as I am getting older. If I'm going to be with a man 12 yrs my senior, I want him to appreciate the fact that I'm much younger.

Regardless, you're going to be going downhill for whoever you're having "benefits" with. The nature of those relationships allows people to trade in for newer models once they get a little rusty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was fairly common? There's always a "teen" (I presume 18) genre link front and center at porn sites.

I'm aware, just wish he didn't put the cutoff at 30 knowing damn well I turn 31 soon.

He was trying to neg you so you will feel insecure and continue hanging out with him. Don't fall for it.