Fwb said 18-30 yr olds are most sexually attractive

[Anonymous]

I am turning 31 in a couple weeks. I am a single parent and not dating seriously. I have had a 43 yr old male companion for the past 3 years who I have a good friendship with. We go on dates and hook up, sometimes going a few months without seeing one another and other times hanging out fairly consistently. I hang out with him when my ex has the kids (roughly 50% of the time). I am bisexual.

Yesterday I mentioned that a couple guys I worked with were hot. They aren't people that I work with regularly. I asked him if he had any hot coworkers. He said only the students at his work (a university) were hot. I then asked him what age he finds most sexually attractive, and he said 18-30.

I work with 18-year-olds (high school students) and told him that I can't see them that way. I know their bodies are similar to 20 somethings, but the fact that their brains are 18 year olds I find them to be baby-like. I said that personally I find women in their 30s or even 40s to be most attractive. I said "don't you think so?" And he said "yeah, if you're into milfs" and laughed.

Should I stop seeing him? I let him know that his comments made me feel insecure. I know that men like younger women etc etc, but I guess I prefer to have sex with a man who is at least also into women in the same age decade as I am. Of course he's just a fwb so it shouldn't matter to me so much, but it hurt.

[Anonymous]

He should be grateful you're even spending time with him. Move on.

[Anonymous]

Troll.

[Anonymous]

Drop him. I am 48 and the last man I slept with was 30. He would never say such a thing.

At your age, you have no reason you need to sleep with a 40+ man. I don’t.

[Anonymous]

Gross. Any attraction I had would die when he said he was attracted to 18-year-olds.

[Anonymous]

i think plenty of men find that age group most sexually attractive if they are talking purely about physical attraction. He was probably foolish to admit this, but there is nothing surprising about here. If you enjoy sleeping with him then you should continue. If you are hurt, maybe you are developing feelings for him? In that case you should move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:i think plenty of men find that age group most sexually attractive if they are talking purely about physical attraction. He was probably foolish to admit this, but there is nothing surprising about here. If you enjoy sleeping with him then you should continue. If you are hurt, maybe you are developing feelings for him? In that case you should move on.

I agree that this is not an uncommon belief in terms of physical attraction. As a man, I'd probably say more like 22-35, but that's quibbling.

I do think he's a moron for saying it to you and dumping him for that isn't out of line.

[Anonymous]

I think most men think this but wouldn't say it at least not to a woman they are involved with. But it sounds like you talk about this stuff.

"Find attractive" is not the same as he's actively pursuing them. Who cares. I am mid-40s and recognize I was more attractive at that age range as well.

[Anonymous]

I thought this was fairly common? There's always a "teen" (I presume 18) genre link front and center at porn sites.

[Anonymous]

It’s better to dislike your FWB in some way, so if the sex is good, this is perfect.

[Anonymous]

This must be a troll. It's an obviously true statement, but one everyone knows not to say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This must be a troll. It's an obviously true statement, but one everyone knows not to say.

Jeff can probably vouch for me that I am not a troll. I have made multiple posts with information similar to this (my age, having kids, being bisexual, etc).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was fairly common? There's always a "teen" (I presume 18) genre link front and center at porn sites.

I'm aware, just wish he didn't put the cutoff at 30 knowing damn well I turn 31 soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am turning 31 in a couple weeks. I am a single parent and not dating seriously. I have had a 43 yr old male companion for the past 3 years who I have a good friendship with. We go on dates and hook up, sometimes going a few months without seeing one another and other times hanging out fairly consistently. I hang out with him when my ex has the kids (roughly 50% of the time). I am bisexual.

Yesterday I mentioned that a couple guys I worked with were hot. They aren't people that I work with regularly. I asked him if he had any hot coworkers. He said only the students at his work (a university) were hot. I then asked him what age he finds most sexually attractive, and he said 18-30.

I work with 18-year-olds (high school students) and told him that I can't see them that way. I know their bodies are similar to 20 somethings, but the fact that their brains are 18 year olds I find them to be baby-like. I said that personally I find women in their 30s or even 40s to be most attractive. I said "don't you think so?" And he said "yeah, if you're into milfs" and laughed.

Should I stop seeing him? I let him know that his comments made me feel insecure. I know that men like younger women etc etc, but I guess I prefer to have sex with a man who is at least also into women in the same age decade as I am. Of course he's just a fwb so it shouldn't matter to me so much, but it hurt.

So he honestly answered your question and now you are too insecure (and stupid) to accept his honest answer? Sounds like you have the 18 (or less) year old brain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought this was fairly common? There's always a "teen" (I presume 18) genre link front and center at porn sites.

I'm aware, just wish he didn't put the cutoff at 30 knowing damn well I turn 31 soon.

Really? You’re a mom and the MILF thing didn’t trigger anything?

He’s just not that into you.