The destination wedding comes for us all eventually, doesn't it?

[Anonymous]

I don't think you are under any obligation to go since this is a party for her family mainly. My sister did this, a wedding in the US where she lived and a party in our home country in South America for all of the family who couldn't attend the first wedding, including elderly grandparents.

That said, if you decline but then go on a different international vacation at the same time (point 3), you're simply rude, bad people. If it works for you to be traveling at that time, why not make a trip that includes spending a few days in Spain for this fun party?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You already went to their wedding. Obligation satisfied. This is just a party.

This is destination wedding adjacent given already was a wedding 5 years ago. This is more do you want to go to a family event and sounds like nope! How many came from Spain for wedding? If not many, then even more of free pass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think you are under any obligation to go since this is a party for her family mainly. My sister did this, a wedding in the US where she lived and a party in our home country in South America for all of the family who couldn't attend the first wedding, including elderly grandparents.

That said, if you decline but then go on a different international vacation at the same time (point 3), you're simply rude, bad people. If it works for you to be traveling at that time, why not make a trip that includes spending a few days in Spain for this fun party?

Agree first paragraph. Fully disagree with second. No requirement to give up another planned vacation to attend another wedding of same couple.

[Anonymous]

You're not obligated to do anything for this if you attended the other wedding. It sounds like it's for her family and you aren't even expected to show up.

[Anonymous]

They got married 4 years ago?!? What the what??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You already went to their wedding. Obligation satisfied. This is just a party.

This is destination wedding adjacent given already was a wedding 5 years ago. This is more do you want to go to a family event and sounds like nope! How many came from Spain for wedding? If not many, then even more of free pass.

Idiot. The wedding in NH was at the beginning of COVID. Nobody from Spain was gonna come to that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You already went to their wedding. Obligation satisfied. This is just a party.

This is destination wedding adjacent given already was a wedding 5 years ago. This is more do you want to go to a family event and sounds like nope! How many came from Spain for wedding? If not many, then even more of free pass.

Idiot. The wedding in NH was at the beginning of COVID. Nobody from Spain was gonna come to that.

All the more reason to have wedding be for just the family in Spain without ugly Americans. Don’t go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're not obligated to do anything for this if you attended the other wedding. It sounds like it's for her family and you aren't even expected to show up.

Agree, not wanted.

[Anonymous]

Wait for their third wedding to each other and go to that.

[Anonymous]

The bigger question is if OP going to give another wedding gift?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You already went to their wedding. Obligation satisfied. This is just a party.

This is destination wedding adjacent given already was a wedding 5 years ago. This is more do you want to go to a family event and sounds like nope! How many came from Spain for wedding? If not many, then even more of free pass.

Idiot. The wedding in NH was at the beginning of COVID. Nobody from Spain was gonna come to that.

Sure. Unique times. But this couple has been formally married for about five years now.

I think it's kind of obnoxious to ask people to drop thousands and use their vacation time to attend a wedding - that already occurred five years ago. Go do your duty with the Spanish part of the family. But it is not unreasonable for friends to say no to that kind of expenditure and time for a five year anniversary ceremony.

[Anonymous]

OP doesn’t sound very bright. This is neither a destination wedding nor a wedding.

[Anonymous]

I didn't notice this the first time I read the OP: "Thoughts (and prayers) are welcome."
I think OP is trolling us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP doesn’t sound very bright. This is neither a destination wedding nor a wedding.

Agree, odd to call it a wedding now and not vow renewal 5 years later. OP should save $ by skipping this one as assume baby shower will be somewhere else shortly after. Would think in most families it would be an invite that is a we’d love to have you but realize this is really for Abuelo and Abuela who couldn’t come but didn’t want you to think you couldn’t come if wanted to- the not really an invite invite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP doesn’t sound very bright. This is neither a destination wedding nor a wedding.

She just wanted to talk sh*t about her sister