Dad thinks DS17 is a loser

[Anonymous]

Well, better for your husband to admit he feels your son is a "loser" than to pretend he doesn't feel that way. Kudos to his honesty and not saying it to your son.

My two cents---it's f@#$% terrifying to have a son "that's a loser." We all know what that means for his future. I imagine your husband is devastated and his comment is coming from a sense of despair and inability to control your son's behaviors/choices.

If your son is not going through a phase and this is just who he is going to be, maybe it would ease your husband's distress/loss of control if you two created with your son a concrete, realistic plan for his future that mapped out a realistic career/vocation/trade that matched his interests and temperament and paid the most money.

Also, it's possible your son's lack of personality is just him being highly sensitive to the world around him.