Does a 6th or 7th grader with all A's warrant spoiling?

[Anonymous]

Geez, maybe he had to work really hard for his A's. Cool your jets and be gracious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think everyone has that annoying neighbor or family member who doesn't seem to grasp that a 4.0 or high SAT score now is not the same thing as it was 30 years ago. They're convinced that their ordinary kid is some super genius, and will brag at every opportunity.

OP, the only proper response is to nod, smile, and privately roll your eyes. Anything else will make you look like a jerk.

And some people think they know everything going on in someone else’s life.

Best thing is to smile and nod and move on. And not be so judgmental.

And sometimes you know full well that the kid is just ordinary. You can see them out on the field with your own eyes. Or they are close to you because they are in your family like, say, a nephew. Braggarts are annoying - I didn't think that was controversial. But, OP, of course you just keep quiet. It's not your circus. Smile, nod, privately roll your eyes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care? That's not spoiling.

What do you mean that's not spoiling? She called me while she was out shopping with him on Saturday buying him this, than and the other because she's spoiling him for his grades. Those were her words to me. The most expensive item he wanted were some special basketball sneakers. They repeatedly bring up his A's to the rest of the extended family.

Just MYOB.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The way you deal with this is to tell them that if he is getting all A's within breaking a sweat then the school isn't challenging his talents and he needs advancement or outside enrichment. If he is sweating for those A'S then he deserves a reward.

Nobody wants to hear this. These dopey parents convince themselves their lazy kid who hates school, never has homework, plays video games or scrolls on their phone from the time they get home from school to bed time, and still has all A's makes their genius that much more impressive! It's a losing battle trying to get such parents to wake up. If their kid isn't smart, why is every teacher giving them A's?! They can't wrap their head around systemic fraud to appease parents and administrators.

Wow, how rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think everyone has that annoying neighbor or family member who doesn't seem to grasp that a 4.0 or high SAT score now is not the same thing as it was 30 years ago. They're convinced that their ordinary kid is some super genius, and will brag at every opportunity.

OP, the only proper response is to nod, smile, and privately roll your eyes. Anything else will make you look like a jerk.

And some people think they know everything going on in someone else’s life.

Best thing is to smile and nod and move on. And not be so judgmental.

And sometimes you know full well that the kid is just ordinary. You can see them out on the field with your own eyes. Or they are close to you because they are in your family like, say, a nephew. Braggarts are annoying - I didn't think that was controversial. But, OP, of course you just keep quiet. It's not your circus. Smile, nod, privately roll your eyes.

And sometimes you think you know full well and you are wrong. Best to smile and nod rather than reveal your ignorance.

[Anonymous]

If you don’t want people to make assumptions or judge, then don’t be an obnoxious braggart. I can imagine many situations where I would spoil or treat my kids for good grades. I generally wouldn’t be broadcasting any if that to others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think everyone has that annoying neighbor or family member who doesn't seem to grasp that a 4.0 or high SAT score now is not the same thing as it was 30 years ago. They're convinced that their ordinary kid is some super genius, and will brag at every opportunity.

OP, the only proper response is to nod, smile, and privately roll your eyes. Anything else will make you look like a jerk.

And some people think they know everything going on in someone else’s life.

Best thing is to smile and nod and move on. And not be so judgmental.

And sometimes you know full well that the kid is just ordinary. You can see them out on the field with your own eyes. Or they are close to you because they are in your family like, say, a nephew. Braggarts are annoying - I didn't think that was controversial. But, OP, of course you just keep quiet. It's not your circus. Smile, nod, privately roll your eyes.

And sometimes you think you know full well and you are wrong. Best to smile and nod rather than reveal your ignorance.

I don't understand what point you think you are making. Whatever is going on behind the scenes doesn't merit bragging on the sidelines or incessantly to your extended family. The bragging is the problem. I roll my eyes at braggarts.

[Anonymous]

Nosy Aunts are worse.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Low information family member
Using that one . Ha!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think everyone has that annoying neighbor or family member who doesn't seem to grasp that a 4.0 or high SAT score now is not the same thing as it was 30 years ago. They're convinced that their ordinary kid is some super genius, and will brag at every opportunity.

OP, the only proper response is to nod, smile, and privately roll your eyes. Anything else will make you look like a jerk.

And some people think they know everything going on in someone else’s life.

Best thing is to smile and nod and move on. And not be so judgmental.

Yes. Even though he's your nephew, there's no way for you to know everything about his life. Mind your own business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think everyone has that annoying neighbor or family member who doesn't seem to grasp that a 4.0 or high SAT score now is not the same thing as it was 30 years ago. They're convinced that their ordinary kid is some super genius, and will brag at every opportunity.

OP, the only proper response is to nod, smile, and privately roll your eyes. Anything else will make you look like a jerk.

And some people think they know everything going on in someone else’s life.

Best thing is to smile and nod and move on. And not be so judgmental.

And sometimes you know full well that the kid is just ordinary. You can see them out on the field with your own eyes. Or they are close to you because they are in your family like, say, a nephew. Braggarts are annoying - I didn't think that was controversial. But, OP, of course you just keep quiet. It's not your circus. Smile, nod, privately roll your eyes.

And sometimes you think you know full well and you are wrong. Best to smile and nod rather than reveal your ignorance.

People can tell when your kid is a dullard, especially if they go to an average school with no rigor. Middle aged middle class Americans grew up in an era where dumb kids got Cs, Ds, and Fs. They don’t realize dumb kids in 2025 get Bs and the kids who simply show up every day get As. Any parent who monitors online grading can make their teen get all As at most public schools. It means nothing.

[Anonymous]

Neither of my kids has all As in 6 and 7th grade in FCPS. Not everyone does. We didn’t care and it wasn’t that important. Don’t fall over - one was even in AAP! They did much better in HS than middle and had more As then. HS has been easier than middle but they are more mature.

I can’t imagine discussing grades with my siblings or ILs. I don’t know how my nieces or nephews do in school.

But the only correct reply is congratulations. She’s proud and you should be too, of your family. Don’t rain on anyone’s parade. You sound awful. Let them have this.

[Anonymous]

Our middle school did assemblies where they recognize students with all As or all As and Bs. The first group was not huge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think everyone has that annoying neighbor or family member who doesn't seem to grasp that a 4.0 or high SAT score now is not the same thing as it was 30 years ago. They're convinced that their ordinary kid is some super genius, and will brag at every opportunity.

OP, the only proper response is to nod, smile, and privately roll your eyes. Anything else will make you look like a jerk.

And some people think they know everything going on in someone else’s life.

Best thing is to smile and nod and move on. And not be so judgmental.

And sometimes you know full well that the kid is just ordinary. You can see them out on the field with your own eyes. Or they are close to you because they are in your family like, say, a nephew. Braggarts are annoying - I didn't think that was controversial. But, OP, of course you just keep quiet. It's not your circus. Smile, nod, privately roll your eyes.

And sometimes you think you know full well and you are wrong. Best to smile and nod rather than reveal your ignorance.

I don't understand what point you think you are making. Whatever is going on behind the scenes doesn't merit bragging on the sidelines or incessantly to your extended family. The bragging is the problem. I roll my eyes at braggarts.

If your sister is your extended family, I don't know what in the mangrove your family tree looks like.