In laws are picky eaters but act like they are not

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs too. And in their minds they are easy. Something like burgers and potato salad and pie is fine for them. As opposed to my father who can't have sugar or salt. Or my cousin who is allergic to garlic and onions. Theyre not easy at all.
But if I try to mix it up they are not happy. I have done completely normal stuff like a taco bar and ...no.

Well, taco bars are gross.

Well, no, they aren't. What do you even mean?

Greasy ground meat mixed with some spice mix, nasty taco shells…shudder.

Future picky in law?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Gosh this reminds me of my DH. He will also say "I'm easy," and says he will "happily eat anything."

Except he won't like it if there are mushrooms. And olives -- no olives. And anything "spicy." Even pickled jalapenos on nachos is too "spicy" for him. And "soup" (yes literally any soup -- except for French onion, he likes that one). And he won't eat carrots if they are cooked. Although he will eat a steak (orders a ribeye if we are at Capitol Grille or something), he will complain the whole time that he prefers "a hamburger." There's more that I'm forgetting.

I once dated a guy who said he wasn't picky then would pick out the purple salad leaves.

So let him get his own food, or tell him to not eat the jalapeños. I wouldn't have any patience for adults who act like babies.

Well, generally he does get his own food or pick off the jalapenos. I don't cook that much. But there are only two of us, and I don't really feel like cooking something elaborate if he isn't going to eat it because it has mushrooms or whatever. Which can be frustrating when I see a recipe in the NYT that looks good. And I don't really feel like spending hundreds at Morton's for Valentine's Day if he doesn't like steak, but then there's a big think about where else to go.

I think some of you are not getting how it can be frustrating to deal with people who are picky eaters, but don't own up to it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Gosh this reminds me of my DH. He will also say "I'm easy," and says he will "happily eat anything."

Except he won't like it if there are mushrooms. And olives -- no olives. And anything "spicy." Even pickled jalapenos on nachos is too "spicy" for him. And "soup" (yes literally any soup -- except for French onion, he likes that one). And he won't eat carrots if they are cooked. Although he will eat a steak (orders a ribeye if we are at Capitol Grille or something), he will complain the whole time that he prefers "a hamburger." There's more that I'm forgetting.

This would be grounds for divorce for me. A grown man who says he can't eat pickled jalapeños? If he doesn't like them, fine, but he should stfu and pick then out instead of being a drama queen about it.

You would divorce your husband because he doesn’t like jalapenos? And you think *he* is the drama queen? Doctor, heal thyself.

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs too. And in their minds they are easy. Something like burgers and potato salad and pie is fine for them. As opposed to my father who can't have sugar or salt. Or my cousin who is allergic to garlic and onions. Theyre not easy at all.
But if I try to mix it up they are not happy. I have done completely normal stuff like a taco bar and ...no.

Well, taco bars are gross.

Well, no, they aren't. What do you even mean?

Greasy ground meat mixed with some spice mix, nasty taco shells…shudder.

Future picky in law?

So the taco bar isn't really that amazing, is it?

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs too. And in their minds they are easy. Something like burgers and potato salad and pie is fine for them. As opposed to my father who can't have sugar or salt. Or my cousin who is allergic to garlic and onions. Theyre not easy at all.
But if I try to mix it up they are not happy. I have done completely normal stuff like a taco bar and ...no.

Well, taco bars are gross.

Well, no, they aren't. What do you even mean?

Greasy ground meat mixed with some spice mix, nasty taco shells…shudder.

Future picky in law?

If picky means discriminating, by all means.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs too. And in their minds they are easy. Something like burgers and potato salad and pie is fine for them. As opposed to my father who can't have sugar or salt. Or my cousin who is allergic to garlic and onions. Theyre not easy at all.
But if I try to mix it up they are not happy. I have done completely normal stuff like a taco bar and ...no.

Well, taco bars are gross.

Well, no, they aren't. What do you even mean?

Greasy ground meat mixed with some spice mix, nasty taco shells…shudder.

Future picky in law?

So the taco bar isn't really that amazing, is it?

Who said it was amazing? It's something we like to eat and I thought it would be good for guests. My own parents enjoyed it. Personally I'm never saying no to guacamole.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Gosh this reminds me of my DH. He will also say "I'm easy," and says he will "happily eat anything."

Except he won't like it if there are mushrooms. And olives -- no olives. And anything "spicy." Even pickled jalapenos on nachos is too "spicy" for him. And "soup" (yes literally any soup -- except for French onion, he likes that one). And he won't eat carrots if they are cooked. Although he will eat a steak (orders a ribeye if we are at Capitol Grille or something), he will complain the whole time that he prefers "a hamburger." There's more that I'm forgetting.

So let him get his own food, or tell him to not eat the jalapeños. I wouldn't have any patience for adults who act like babies.

Well, generally he does get his own food or pick off the jalapenos. I don't cook that much. But there are only two of us, and I don't really feel like cooking something elaborate if he isn't going to eat it because it has mushrooms or whatever. Which can be frustrating when I see a recipe in the NYT that looks good. And I don't really feel like spending hundreds at Morton's for Valentine's Day if he doesn't like steak, but then there's a big think about where else to go.

I think some of you are not getting how it can be frustrating to deal with people who are picky eaters, but don't own up to it.

Having three or four or even five food preferences does not make someone a "picky eater". You also have preferences, but seem to be in charge of meals, so you already accommodate your preferences when reading through the NYT for recipes that "sound good". It sounds like your DH "has" owned up to them, if you can rattle off the preferences. Are there really no nights when he is out of town when you could eat mushrooms?

To me a picky eater is someone who will only eat five or six foods. So yes, that would be a problem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs too. And in their minds they are easy. Something like burgers and potato salad and pie is fine for them. As opposed to my father who can't have sugar or salt. Or my cousin who is allergic to garlic and onions. Theyre not easy at all.
But if I try to mix it up they are not happy. I have done completely normal stuff like a taco bar and ...no.

Well, taco bars are gross.

Well, no, they aren't. What do you even mean?

Greasy ground meat mixed with some spice mix, nasty taco shells…shudder.

Future picky in law?

So the taco bar isn't really that amazing, is it?

My taco bar has a lot more choices than what you described, but you sound like a drama queen, so won't be invited anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gosh this reminds me of my DH. He will also say "I'm easy," and says he will "happily eat anything."

Except he won't like it if there are mushrooms. And olives -- no olives. And anything "spicy." Even pickled jalapenos on nachos is too "spicy" for him. And "soup" (yes literally any soup -- except for French onion, he likes that one). And he won't eat carrots if they are cooked. Although he will eat a steak (orders a ribeye if we are at Capitol Grille or something), he will complain the whole time that he prefers "a hamburger." There's more that I'm forgetting.

Mushrooms, olives and jalapeños spice are three of the most frequently disliked foods, so you either picked really bad examples or you are refusing to acknowledge some fairly basic preferences.

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs too. And in their minds they are easy. Something like burgers and potato salad and pie is fine for them. As opposed to my father who can't have sugar or salt. Or my cousin who is allergic to garlic and onions. Theyre not easy at all.
But if I try to mix it up they are not happy. I have done completely normal stuff like a taco bar and ...no.

Well, taco bars are gross.

Well, no, they aren't. What do you even mean?

Greasy ground meat mixed with some spice mix, nasty taco shells…shudder.

Future picky in law?

So the taco bar isn't really that amazing, is it?

My taco bar has a lot more choices than what you described, but you sound like a drama queen, so won't be invited anyway.

It’s a taco bar. Get over yourself with your school cafeteria food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is “easy” to host people who like “normal” American things so I’m sure that’s what they mean. It’s easy to find TGIFridays, Applebee’s, a diner, a burger joint…

I’m not a picky eater but those would not be places I’d choose. If I go out to eat it’s to places where the food tastes better than I make at home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gosh this reminds me of my DH. He will also say "I'm easy," and says he will "happily eat anything."

Except he won't like it if there are mushrooms. And olives -- no olives. And anything "spicy." Even pickled jalapenos on nachos is too "spicy" for him. And "soup" (yes literally any soup -- except for French onion, he likes that one). And he won't eat carrots if they are cooked. Although he will eat a steak (orders a ribeye if we are at Capitol Grille or something), he will complain the whole time that he prefers "a hamburger." There's more that I'm forgetting.

So let him get his own food, or tell him to not eat the jalapeños. I wouldn't have any patience for adults who act like babies.

Well, generally he does get his own food or pick off the jalapenos. I don't cook that much. But there are only two of us, and I don't really feel like cooking something elaborate if he isn't going to eat it because it has mushrooms or whatever. Which can be frustrating when I see a recipe in the NYT that looks good. And I don't really feel like spending hundreds at Morton's for Valentine's Day if he doesn't like steak, but then there's a big think about where else to go.

I think some of you are not getting how it can be frustrating to deal with people who are picky eaters, but don't own up to it.

NP. I get it—my Dad is practically a toddler. But after I dropped the rope, we’re all happier during visits, even if he’s eating PBJ while the rest of us enjoy risotto.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It is “easy” to host people who like “normal” American things so I’m sure that’s what they mean. It’s easy to find TGIFridays, Applebee’s, a diner, a burger joint…

I’m not a picky eater but those would not be places I’d choose. If I go out to eat it’s to places where the food tastes better than I make at home.

So you are picky. If you can't find anything to eat then it's you. All those places have salads, sandwiches, soups, etc. It doesn't have to better than your home cooking.

[Anonymous]

Omg - my mom is like that. She will not tell me what she can or cannot eat beforehand and then will loudly whisper to everyone about why she cannot eat anything. Any how she cannot believe I did not serve “x”, even though she never said I should serve “x”. Over the years it has gotten a little better, as at least her diet has gotten more consistent, so I can prepare stuff she will eat. So now she loudly whispers to everyone how I didn’t have to make “x’ just for her.

[Anonymous]

Just tell your DH to pick up a rotisserie chicken or two, a bag salad, and some garlic bread. The end.