Is your kid enjoying college?

[Anonymous]

My DS is loving his first autumn in Colorado and all the beautiful leaves changing color and "leaf peeping"!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pp here of a happy sophomore. DS is at a school where Greek life is big, but he thinks the whole process is stupid and so he’s never been interested. A lot of of his friends who have considered rushing either got fed up with it or just kind of put up with it and got through it just to experience Greek life.

That said, he still has lots of friends, goes to football games, play poker a lot, and works out a ton. Also plays a club sport.

I don’t think you have to have a Greek experience at a heavy Greek school, but you will have to get involved in other ways.

I also think freshman year is always the worst.

I went to UVA, and even though I looked back on my experience fondly enough now, it wasn’t really a great fit for me and I really struggled freshman year. It took until sophomore year until I met more good friends, and then by senior year, I had found a groove and I’m still close with a lot of those folks.

How does he do with the ladies on campus?

Just to let you know as someone with kids in a sorority, being in a frat isn't some flex that you think it is. A lot of girls don't want frat bros. Also, there is data that participation in Greek life as a whole is on the decline.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pp here of a happy sophomore. DS is at a school where Greek life is big, but he thinks the whole process is stupid and so he’s never been interested. A lot of of his friends who have considered rushing either got fed up with it or just kind of put up with it and got through it just to experience Greek life.

That said, he still has lots of friends, goes to football games, play poker a lot, and works out a ton. Also plays a club sport.

I don’t think you have to have a Greek experience at a heavy Greek school, but you will have to get involved in other ways.

I also think freshman year is always the worst.

I went to UVA, and even though I looked back on my experience fondly enough now, it wasn’t really a great fit for me and I really struggled freshman year. It took until sophomore year until I met more good friends, and then by senior year, I had found a groove and I’m still close with a lot of those folks.

How does he do with the ladies on campus?

Just to let you know as someone with kids in a sorority, being in a frat isn't some flex that you think it is. A lot of girls don't want frat bros. Also, there is data that participation in Greek life as a whole is on the decline.

Yeah. What I'm hearing from my DD is that being a frat bro is more likely to be considered a red flag than not.

[Anonymous]

My DC is having a wonderful time at a large state school where Greek life is only about 20%, so it definitely doesn’t dominate.

DC chose not to go Greek and is involved in lots of other activities instead and meeting all sorts of people. Great experience.

[Anonymous]

My child is in heaven at UChicago. Loves her classes, friends and the city. Weather does not bother her.

[Anonymous]

The only one my kid doesn't like is a 120 minute lecture course; not a good structure for ADHD. But the rest of the classes are a hit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not really. Overwhelmed by the party scene, thinks classes are easy (after attending a rigorous private but the college doesn’t take APs, so basically retaking the equivalent of AP Calc and AP Chem, which he aced the first time). Too much free time after being constantly busy in high school. A friend group and a job would fix a lot of his problems! I’m worried and even a little sad for him but have to just wait and see.

You sent your so called high achieving kid to a school that made him retake Calculcus LOL.

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Anonymous wrote:Pp here of a happy sophomore. DS is at a school where Greek life is big, but he thinks the whole process is stupid and so he’s never been interested. A lot of of his friends who have considered rushing either got fed up with it or just kind of put up with it and got through it just to experience Greek life.

That said, he still has lots of friends, goes to football games, play poker a lot, and works out a ton. Also plays a club sport.

I don’t think you have to have a Greek experience at a heavy Greek school, but you will have to get involved in other ways.

I also think freshman year is always the worst.

I went to UVA, and even though I looked back on my experience fondly enough now, it wasn’t really a great fit for me and I really struggled freshman year. It took until sophomore year until I met more good friends, and then by senior year, I had found a groove and I’m still close with a lot of those folks.

How does he do with the ladies on campus?

Just to let you know as someone with kids in a sorority, being in a frat isn't some flex that you think it is. A lot of girls don't want frat bros. Also, there is data that participation in Greek life as a whole is on the decline.

Yeah. What I'm hearing from my DD is that being a frat bro is more likely to be considered a red flag than not.

The data doesn't lie, and most schools publish it. Fraternity men have higher GPAs, higher graduation rates, higher starting salaries, and better dating opportunities than GDIs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pp here of a happy sophomore. DS is at a school where Greek life is big, but he thinks the whole process is stupid and so he’s never been interested. A lot of of his friends who have considered rushing either got fed up with it or just kind of put up with it and got through it just to experience Greek life.

That said, he still has lots of friends, goes to football games, play poker a lot, and works out a ton. Also plays a club sport.

I don’t think you have to have a Greek experience at a heavy Greek school, but you will have to get involved in other ways.

I also think freshman year is always the worst.

I went to UVA, and even though I looked back on my experience fondly enough now, it wasn’t really a great fit for me and I really struggled freshman year. It took until sophomore year until I met more good friends, and then by senior year, I had found a groove and I’m still close with a lot of those folks.

How does he do with the ladies on campus?

Just to let you know as someone with kids in a sorority, being in a frat isn't some flex that you think it is. A lot of girls don't want frat bros. Also, there is data that participation in Greek life as a whole is on the decline.

Yeah. What I'm hearing from my DD is that being a frat bro is more likely to be considered a red flag than not.

The data doesn't lie, and most schools publish it. Fraternity men have higher GPAs, higher graduation rates, higher starting salaries, and better dating opportunities than GDIs.

Lol, literally there's a frat at my kid's school that's known for getting girls drunk and one kid in that frat literally has an SA charge against him. No one wants to date these guys but sure, whatever you say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Notice the trend: Most of the "yes" answers are coming from parents of kids in Greek life. I saw the same thing when my own kid came home for Christmas break as a freshman and reconvened with his high school buddies. The fraternity men were dishing story after story about college life and what a great time they were having. The GDIs were still reminiscing about high school and longing for the good old days.

Huh, that has not been my takeaway from this thread so far. The mentions of Greek life thst I noted were kids being tired of it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pp here of a happy sophomore. DS is at a school where Greek life is big, but he thinks the whole process is stupid and so he’s never been interested. A lot of of his friends who have considered rushing either got fed up with it or just kind of put up with it and got through it just to experience Greek life.

That said, he still has lots of friends, goes to football games, play poker a lot, and works out a ton. Also plays a club sport.

I don’t think you have to have a Greek experience at a heavy Greek school, but you will have to get involved in other ways.

I also think freshman year is always the worst.

I went to UVA, and even though I looked back on my experience fondly enough now, it wasn’t really a great fit for me and I really struggled freshman year. It took until sophomore year until I met more good friends, and then by senior year, I had found a groove and I’m still close with a lot of those folks.

How does he do with the ladies on campus?

Just to let you know as someone with kids in a sorority, being in a frat isn't some flex that you think it is. A lot of girls don't want frat bros. Also, there is data that participation in Greek life as a whole is on the decline.

Yeah. What I'm hearing from my DD is that being a frat bro is more likely to be considered a red flag than not.

The data doesn't lie, and most schools publish it. Fraternity men have higher GPAs, higher graduation rates, higher starting salaries, and better dating opportunities than GDIs.

Lol, literally there's a frat at my kid's school that's known for getting girls drunk and one kid in that frat literally has an SA charge against him. No one wants to date these guys but sure, whatever you say.

Yes, it is no surprise that the alcoholic rapist sociopaths are having a great time in their frats. What you don’t see is the damage left in their wakes, and that they are slowly turning into empty shells. Sorry, but frat life is not the best life.

[Anonymous]

This is not the OP but can we please get back on topic here? I know many aren't comfortable sharing the names of schools and the experience is so specific but I'm following as I have a current senior and really want him to be happy so am looking for trends in this thread. Other than the back and forth on frats it has been helpful - thank you!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pp here of a happy sophomore. DS is at a school where Greek life is big, but he thinks the whole process is stupid and so he’s never been interested. A lot of of his friends who have considered rushing either got fed up with it or just kind of put up with it and got through it just to experience Greek life.

That said, he still has lots of friends, goes to football games, play poker a lot, and works out a ton. Also plays a club sport.

I don’t think you have to have a Greek experience at a heavy Greek school, but you will have to get involved in other ways.

I also think freshman year is always the worst.

I went to UVA, and even though I looked back on my experience fondly enough now, it wasn’t really a great fit for me and I really struggled freshman year. It took until sophomore year until I met more good friends, and then by senior year, I had found a groove and I’m still close with a lot of those folks.

How does he do with the ladies on campus?

Just to let you know as someone with kids in a sorority, being in a frat isn't some flex that you think it is. A lot of girls don't want frat bros. Also, there is data that participation in Greek life as a whole is on the decline.

Yeah. What I'm hearing from my DD is that being a frat bro is more likely to be considered a red flag than not.

The data doesn't lie, and most schools publish it. Fraternity men have higher GPAs, higher graduation rates, higher starting salaries, and better dating opportunities than GDIs.

Lol, literally there's a frat at my kid's school that's known for getting girls drunk and one kid in that frat literally has an SA charge against him. No one wants to date these guys but sure, whatever you say.

Yes, it is no surprise that the alcoholic rapist sociopaths are having a great time in their frats. What you don’t see is the damage left in their wakes, and that they are slowly turning into empty shells. Sorry, but frat life is not the best life.

np

At U of O the football team were all on scholarship and were strictly prohibited from joining a frat. They still had active social lives, threw and went to lots of parties, were popular with girls, and lots of fun! But they also suffered a few SA charges.

[Anonymous]

HYPSM.

Living the dream!

[Anonymous]

Could folks simply post schools where their freshman seemed to find their way more quickly? I appreciate that many kids find their place later on, but interested in schools that really lean into the freshman experience to get kids involved early on. Just names, no need for more description so as to stay anonymous!