Priority of what to do to look put together and wealthy

[Anonymous]

The only real and consistent signifier is confidence that you belong in every room. Trying to mimic this with the right purse brand is just not going to get you anywhere

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only real and consistent signifier is confidence that you belong in every room. Trying to mimic this with the right purse brand is just not going to get you anywhere

I think it is so much more subtle than that. There are plenty of confident people that no one would mistake for wealthy.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it necessarily correlates. Many rich people do not care about looking wealthy, partly bc they don't care, and because they have nothing to prove. And some poorer people do look very put together. My mil is always the most stylish and beautiful woman in a room and she is a MC NYC woman who has always been obsessed with finding the coolest (not necessarily expensive) pieces and has collected fashion since the 60s. It helps that she is very beautiful and thin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only real and consistent signifier is confidence that you belong in every room. Trying to mimic this with the right purse brand is just not going to get you anywhere

I think it is so much more subtle than that. There are plenty of confident people that no one would mistake for wealthy.

Of course it’s more subtle than that, but it’s never clothes/appearance

I am personally acquainted with 3 billionaire heiresses of varying backgrounds and none of them put any particular effort into their daily appearance beyond being healthy and in good shape

Why would they, they don’t need to. It adds nothing to their life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it necessarily correlates. Many rich people do not care about looking wealthy, partly bc they don't care, and because they have nothing to prove. And some poorer people do look very put together. My mil is always the most stylish and beautiful woman in a room and she is a MC NYC woman who has always been obsessed with finding the coolest (not necessarily expensive) pieces and has collected fashion since the 60s. It helps that she is very beautiful and thin.

Your MIL has cultural capital. That's another kind of wealth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find the people who wear an obviously expensive timepiece or those instantly recognizable (and unvariably ugly) jewelry pieces from Cartier/Tiffany etc. to be try-hards. It’s gauche IMHO.

100%. Why wear an obsolete machine with only one feature of telling time when you've access to time on your phone? If you must then get a smart watch with capability to track your health and fitness and calling 911 and your next of kin in case you need help.

Because you hate being that connected to your phone all the time and want to distance yourself from it? Let's all have less screen time, not more.

Yep.

I am not rich, but have started wearing a watch for this reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's mainly a question of grooming. Some of the things you have listed, such as great skin and teeth, are necessary but not sufficient. There is a lot more to it than that. And some of what you list not related to grooming is on point, but not in the way most think it is (for example take watches: Cartier Tank = probably not, your grandmother's Patek Phillipe, yes).

But as far as looks go, it tends to be grooming that is above and beyond what most do. For example with men -- eyebrows are groomed, hands are groomed, nose and ear hairs are trimmed, haircuts more frequent, skin moisturized, spf, they swap their razors out frequently rather than stretching time between, etc. For women, obviously it gets more involved, but you have the added consideration of not going into over-the-top territory lest you look arguably vulgar with things like lashes that are caterpillar like or nails pointy and long, etc. I like long pointy nails with designs, but you aren't going to look "wealthy" with them (even if some very wealthy people, say, oh, Adele comes to mind, wear them).

I'll add -- what I've mentioned above refers to this "look wealthy" stuff the OP is asking about. Plenty of rich-as-hell folks, my grandfather comes to mind, do not necessarily look like this (although he probably comes closer rather than not).

There's not a single "rich girl" or "rich woman" look, but if I had to generally stereotype old money rich women's grooming and style habits, if they care to be stylish, they'd include:

- nice hair, often really expensive and pretty dimensional color and nicely styled
- nice clothes, hot usually with labels on them (that's typically more aspirational wealth, real wealth picks nice clothing and accessories and if you know, you know)
- neat nails, whether they are just buffed and shined, a french manicure, or a fun/pretty color
- groomed eyebrows, no facial hair, no nose hair
- clear skin with no sun damage, no bad plastic surgery, botox is subtle and undetectable, lips either are or at least look natural

And they conduct themselves differently:

- they are confident, sometimes subtly or not subtly entitled to be treated well by people in their orbit
- they make eye contact easily
- they have good posture

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you notice when assessing other women’s appearances? I see their:
1. Hair - well cared for, doesn’t need to be bone straight but curls need to have frizz controlled, a nice cut, shine, subtle color enhancements
2. Clothing - well tailored, mostly neutrals, classic styles
3. Accessories - I personally judge shoes harshly - leather, never “vegan”, clean and/or shined, classic choices like the Gucci loafer (slim profile not the chunky Steve Madden that’s popular), Hermes sandals, Chanel sling back flats, etc. A quality, well shaped bag with minimal logos. Nice belt that coordinates. Simple, quality jewelry - likely pieces they wear daily with maybe one piece for flair that changes with the outfit/occasion.
4. Overall confidence - the way their hold themselves, the way they move.

After that, you get into the close up details
1. Makeup - again, classic. Not flashy, not trendy, just well done and enhances their features.
2. Teeth - white but not blinding, straight but not veneers or overly corrected with orthodontics (think of those perfectly flat smiles). A little character is fine.
3. Skin - you can hide a lot with good makeup so this is lower on the list.
4. Nails - natural looking enhancements of a signature bold color, especially if their wardrobe is mostly neutrals.

I think the goal with makeup/teeth/skin is to look natural and effortless. As if your genes are so good you don’t have to work for it.

You’re stupid. The Hermes Oran is an influencer, yacht hooker shoe. You don’t know anything about aesthetics, economics, semiotics.

NP. Ok, you’re fascinating. I don’t like that you called someone stupid, but I love that you’re talking about semiotics.

[Anonymous]

My FIL was old money, boarding school, raised by nannies, and he was the most disheveled mess. But he had perfect manners.

[Anonymous]

Your list is a good start.
Comportment, vocabulary, mien, accent matter too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:May be OP is only trying to mimic something which opens doors.

As a society we need to stop giving rich, goodlooking and privileged undue influence and opportunities. None of these are acquired skills, just good luck.

OP - yes I know wealthy people come in all shapes and colors and sizes. But I am in a new position which puts me in contact with people across the spectrum. I need to look normal and not flashy for the regular folks but want to look decent enough for the uber-wealthy. I don’t have endless money to maintain myself so want to prioritize what is most important. I am “enough” (attractive, thin, educated) of some of these things but want to take it to the next level looks-wise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the order of importance to “look wealthy” without any brands or labels?

- be skinny
- great skin
- great teeth
- hair “done”
- nice clothes
- nice accessories (bag, shoes)
- fine jewelry, watch

Like, if I’m skinny and have great skin and teeth do I need the other things to “look wealthy”?

Skinny must be fit skinny, not ED skinny. I’d say having hair “done” can go both ways. Many wealthy people tie it back messily as a style. If you got those things you can rock cheap target clothes or fake jewelry like you just robbed the louvre.

Honestly your body is the biggest indicator of wealth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dress expensive but with no obnoxious branding, neat nails, makeup and hair, good posture, confident, articulate communication skills.

That's middle class/upper middle class corporate drone style, not upper class.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even AI thinks every rich women has special style, taste, poise and confidence. This is beyond sad

AI is just regurgitating the stereotypes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only real and consistent signifier is confidence that you belong in every room. Trying to mimic this with the right purse brand is just not going to get you anywhere

I think it is so much more subtle than that. There are plenty of confident people that no one would mistake for wealthy.

Of course it’s more subtle than that, but it’s never clothes/appearance

I am personally acquainted with 3 billionaire heiresses of varying backgrounds and none of them put any particular effort into their daily appearance beyond being healthy and in good shape

Why would they, they don’t need to. It adds nothing to their life

Exactly, it adds nothing for them. The obsession with careful grooming and the "quiet luxury" look is actually for the middle and upper middle class corporate drones where it adds something.