Priority of what to do to look put together and wealthy

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Anonymous wrote:What is the order of importance to “look wealthy” without any brands or labels?

- be skinny
- great skin
- great teeth
- hair “done”
- nice clothes
- nice accessories (bag, shoes)
- fine jewelry, watch

Like, if I’m skinny and have great skin and teeth do I need the other things to “look wealthy”?

Can you explain why you need to look “wealthy,” as opposed to simply put together and attractive? And if you are not actually wealthy why do you need to fake it?

Not OP, but wealthy people get a lot of privileges and perks that make life easier and more pleasant. Sometimes those are handed out purely on the basis of appearing wealthy.

Ok, that I definitely get, but is it worth it to try and go beyond regular “pretty privilege” to be something that is clearly not authentic to you? It’s just very weird and not healthy or worth it.

I frequently travel to my parents’ home country and over the years I realized that people treat me with a certain degree of deference because I present as an attractive and wealthy woman of a certain class. I could not “fake” this- it comes with my education and mannerisms and health and access to the United States.

It sort of worries me that so many Americans concern themselves with this now. It suggests that being a regular middle class person no longer affords access to regular decent treatment by other people so you now want to be perceived in a certain way. More evidence that our society may be deteriorating instead of becoming more egalitarian.

So preferential treatment for me but not for thee?

What do you mean by this?

The poster said she gets preferential treatment due to her perceived attractiveness and wealth. She is concerned that so many Americans want to get the preferential treatment she says she receives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find the people who wear an obviously expensive timepiece or those instantly recognizable (and unvariably ugly) jewelry pieces from Cartier/Tiffany etc. to be try-hards. It’s gauche IMHO.

100%. Why wear an obsolete machine with only one feature of telling time when you've access to time on your phone? If you must then get a smart watch with capability to track your health and fitness and calling 911 and your next of kin in case you need help.

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Anonymous wrote:What is the order of importance to “look wealthy” without any brands or labels?

- be skinny
- great skin
- great teeth
- hair “done”
- nice clothes
- nice accessories (bag, shoes)
- fine jewelry, watch

Like, if I’m skinny and have great skin and teeth do I need the other things to “look wealthy”?

Can you explain why you need to look “wealthy,” as opposed to simply put together and attractive? And if you are not actually wealthy why do you need to fake it?

Not OP, but wealthy people get a lot of privileges and perks that make life easier and more pleasant. Sometimes those are handed out purely on the basis of appearing wealthy.

Ok, that I definitely get, but is it worth it to try and go beyond regular “pretty privilege” to be something that is clearly not authentic to you? It’s just very weird and not healthy or worth it.

I frequently travel to my parents’ home country and over the years I realized that people treat me with a certain degree of deference because I present as an attractive and wealthy woman of a certain class. I could not “fake” this- it comes with my education and mannerisms and health and access to the United States.

It sort of worries me that so many Americans concern themselves with this now. It suggests that being a regular middle class person no longer affords access to regular decent treatment by other people so you now want to be perceived in a certain way. More evidence that our society may be deteriorating instead of becoming more egalitarian.

So preferential treatment for me but not for thee?

What do you mean by this?

The poster said she gets preferential treatment due to her perceived attractiveness and wealth. She is concerned that so many Americans want to get the preferential treatment she says she receives.

That's not what she meant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Really depends on your starting point.

Clean, good condition, well fitting clothing in neutral or solid colors. Smooth even toned skin without visible makeup (but yes, makeup in a groomed and enhanced sense), good teeth (not blindingly white), clean nails that are NOT over-done. Smooth neat hair in any style but nothing too attention getting. Nothing too flashy.

I don't necessarily agree that fine jewelry or accessories are necessary. Sure, a budget purse from TJ Maxx is going to look decided NOT rich, but a $10 tote bag with the right brand (New Yorker, NPR, a museum, Trader Joe's maybe) is $0-$15 and absolutely could be part of the"rich" look.

Nothing you listed makes me think “rich”.

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Anonymous wrote:What is the order of importance to “look wealthy” without any brands or labels?

- be skinny
- great skin
- great teeth
- hair “done”
- nice clothes
- nice accessories (bag, shoes)
- fine jewelry, watch

Like, if I’m skinny and have great skin and teeth do I need the other things to “look wealthy”?

Can you explain why you need to look “wealthy,” as opposed to simply put together and attractive? And if you are not actually wealthy why do you need to fake it?

Not OP, but wealthy people get a lot of privileges and perks that make life easier and more pleasant. Sometimes those are handed out purely on the basis of appearing wealthy.

Ok, that I definitely get, but is it worth it to try and go beyond regular “pretty privilege” to be something that is clearly not authentic to you? It’s just very weird and not healthy or worth it.

I frequently travel to my parents’ home country and over the years I realized that people treat me with a certain degree of deference because I present as an attractive and wealthy woman of a certain class. I could not “fake” this- it comes with my education and mannerisms and health and access to the United States.

It sort of worries me that so many Americans concern themselves with this now. It suggests that being a regular middle class person no longer affords access to regular decent treatment by other people so you now want to be perceived in a certain way. More evidence that our society may be deteriorating instead of becoming more egalitarian.

So preferential treatment for me but not for thee?

What do you mean by this?

The poster said she gets preferential treatment due to her perceived attractiveness and wealth. She is concerned that so many Americans want to get the preferential treatment she says she receives.

That's not what she meant.

What did she mean by talking about the privilege she receives and her concern?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:May be OP is only trying to mimic something which opens doors.

As a society we need to stop giving rich, goodlooking and privileged undue influence and opportunities. None of these are acquired skills, just good luck.

Whiteness plays a role here as well.

I am Middle Eastern and find I need to appear as “white” as possible to get certain treatment. For example, if I go out with my hair curly instead of straight, people talk to me in Spanish. If I am not perfectly put together, people talk to me in Spanish. This is everywhere- the store, the bank, the doctor’s office. It’s deeply weird and very consistent.

What is deeply weird is that you think that people talking to you in Spanish means they assume you are poor.

Oh, it’s absolutely not weird. It’s just more outwardly obvious when they are speaking to you in Spanish. Even if I were Hispanic, why would non-native Spanish speakers think that they shouldn’t communicate with me in English? Isn’t it implied that they believe I don’t have the background or education to speak English fluently?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:May be OP is only trying to mimic something which opens doors.

As a society we need to stop giving rich, goodlooking and privileged undue influence and opportunities. None of these are acquired skills, just good luck.

Whiteness plays a role here as well.

I am Middle Eastern and find I need to appear as “white” as possible to get certain treatment. For example, if I go out with my hair curly instead of straight, people talk to me in Spanish. If I am not perfectly put together, people talk to me in Spanish. This is everywhere- the store, the bank, the doctor’s office. It’s deeply weird and very consistent.

What is deeply weird is that you think that people talking to you in Spanish means they assume you are poor.

Well, weird but sadly true.

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Anonymous wrote:What is the order of importance to “look wealthy” without any brands or labels?

- be skinny
- great skin
- great teeth
- hair “done”
- nice clothes
- nice accessories (bag, shoes)
- fine jewelry, watch

Like, if I’m skinny and have great skin and teeth do I need the other things to “look wealthy”?

Can you explain why you need to look “wealthy,” as opposed to simply put together and attractive? And if you are not actually wealthy why do you need to fake it?

Not OP, but wealthy people get a lot of privileges and perks that make life easier and more pleasant. Sometimes those are handed out purely on the basis of appearing wealthy.

Ok, that I definitely get, but is it worth it to try and go beyond regular “pretty privilege” to be something that is clearly not authentic to you? It’s just very weird and not healthy or worth it.

I frequently travel to my parents’ home country and over the years I realized that people treat me with a certain degree of deference because I present as an attractive and wealthy woman of a certain class. I could not “fake” this- it comes with my education and mannerisms and health and access to the United States.

It sort of worries me that so many Americans concern themselves with this now. It suggests that being a regular middle class person no longer affords access to regular decent treatment by other people so you now want to be perceived in a certain way. More evidence that our society may be deteriorating instead of becoming more egalitarian.

So preferential treatment for me but not for thee?

What do you mean by this?

The poster said she gets preferential treatment due to her perceived attractiveness and wealth. She is concerned that so many Americans want to get the preferential treatment she says she receives.

I am the poster you are talking about. I am solidly middle class in America, but in my parents’ home country, having straight white teeth, knowing English, and wearing Puma sneakers from Costco signifies major wealth. So I get that preferential treatment- only because the country is so incredibly poor. I don’t want to be a rich person in a poor place. I want to be a middle class woman in a middle class place.

[Anonymous]

Whiteness is a factor only because white race has been collectively more affluent since several generations. Its not a factor for underprivileged white folks. Even as VP and Yale degree, JD Vance is still seen as a hillbilly minion of Trump and Theil.

[Anonymous]

Well, real question is why do people judge each other for such things?

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Anonymous wrote:What is the order of importance to “look wealthy” without any brands or labels?

- be skinny
- great skin
- great teeth
- hair “done”
- nice clothes
- nice accessories (bag, shoes)
- fine jewelry, watch

Like, if I’m skinny and have great skin and teeth do I need the other things to “look wealthy”?

Can you explain why you need to look “wealthy,” as opposed to simply put together and attractive? And if you are not actually wealthy why do you need to fake it?

Not OP, but wealthy people get a lot of privileges and perks that make life easier and more pleasant. Sometimes those are handed out purely on the basis of appearing wealthy.

Ok, that I definitely get, but is it worth it to try and go beyond regular “pretty privilege” to be something that is clearly not authentic to you? It’s just very weird and not healthy or worth it.

I frequently travel to my parents’ home country and over the years I realized that people treat me with a certain degree of deference because I present as an attractive and wealthy woman of a certain class. I could not “fake” this- it comes with my education and mannerisms and health and access to the United States.

It sort of worries me that so many Americans concern themselves with this now. It suggests that being a regular middle class person no longer affords access to regular decent treatment by other people so you now want to be perceived in a certain way. More evidence that our society may be deteriorating instead of becoming more egalitarian.

So preferential treatment for me but not for thee?

What do you mean by this?

The poster said she gets preferential treatment due to her perceived attractiveness and wealth. She is concerned that so many Americans want to get the preferential treatment she says she receives.

I am the poster you are talking about. I am solidly middle class in America, but in my parents’ home country, having straight white teeth, knowing English, and wearing Puma sneakers from Costco signifies major wealth. So I get that preferential treatment- only because the country is so incredibly poor. I don’t want to be a rich person in a poor place. I want to be a middle class woman in a middle class place.

Great, you still get preferential treatment somewhere. It's easy to say you don't want it or that you are concerned other people want it when you get to experience it at least some of the time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is the order of importance to “look wealthy” without any brands or labels?

- be skinny
- great skin
- great teeth
- hair “done”
- nice clothes
- nice accessories (bag, shoes)
- fine jewelry, watch

Like, if I’m skinny and have great skin and teeth do I need the other things to “look wealthy”?

Can you explain why you need to look “wealthy,” as opposed to simply put together and attractive? And if you are not actually wealthy why do you need to fake it?

Not OP, but wealthy people get a lot of privileges and perks that make life easier and more pleasant. Sometimes those are handed out purely on the basis of appearing wealthy.

Ok, that I definitely get, but is it worth it to try and go beyond regular “pretty privilege” to be something that is clearly not authentic to you? It’s just very weird and not healthy or worth it.

I frequently travel to my parents’ home country and over the years I realized that people treat me with a certain degree of deference because I present as an attractive and wealthy woman of a certain class. I could not “fake” this- it comes with my education and mannerisms and health and access to the United States.

It sort of worries me that so many Americans concern themselves with this now. It suggests that being a regular middle class person no longer affords access to regular decent treatment by other people so you now want to be perceived in a certain way. More evidence that our society may be deteriorating instead of becoming more egalitarian.

Oh, are we maybe in decline? Thank you so much for the observation, wannabe princess.

[Anonymous]

This is AI's answer.

The signs of a wealthy woman often revolve around quiet quality, understated confidence, and prioritizing time and well-being over flashy, obvious displays of wealth.
Here are some commonly cited signs:
1. Focus on Quality, Not Logos (Quiet Luxury):
• Impeccable Fit and Fabric: Clothes fit perfectly, often due to tailoring. They favor high-quality, timeless materials (cashmere, silk, fine wool) over trendy or cheaply made items.
• Understated Accessories: They may wear luxury brands, but they tend to be subtle, without loud logos. Their style is polished, neat, and classic.
• High-Quality Maintenance: Their belongings, including shoes and bags, are well-cared for, not necessarily brand new.
2. Focus on Health and Personal Maintenance:
• Immaculate Grooming: Hair, skin, and nails are consistently healthy and polished, suggesting regular investment in high-end care, good nutrition, and fitness.
• "Looks Better Than Their Age": This is often a result of excellent, long-term self-care, including good healthcare and non-stressful living.
3. Behavior and Demeanor:
• Subtle Confidence and Poise: They move calmly and are rarely hurried or stressed. They have excellent manners and treat service staff with respect.
• Financial Calm: They don't stress over small expenses, sales, or bills. They pay without hesitation or performance.
• Discretion and Privacy: They generally avoid talking about their finances or showing off their possessions on social media. They value privacy.
• Education and Culture: They are often lifelong learners, well-read, and knowledgeable about art, finance, and global affairs, showing "cultural capital."
4. Priorities and Spending:
• Valuing Experiences over Things: They invest in things that buy freedom, like travel, wellness retreats, and time with family, rather than just material goods.
• Generosity: Their generosity is often discreet and non-transactional, such as quietly covering the bill or supporting a cause.
• Valuing Time: They meticulously manage and protect their time, often outsourcing mundane tasks (like cleaning, cooking, or admin) to maintain efficiency and focus.

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Anonymous wrote:What is the order of importance to “look wealthy” without any brands or labels?

- be skinny
- great skin
- great teeth
- hair “done”
- nice clothes
- nice accessories (bag, shoes)
- fine jewelry, watch

Like, if I’m skinny and have great skin and teeth do I need the other things to “look wealthy”?

Can you explain why you need to look “wealthy,” as opposed to simply put together and attractive? And if you are not actually wealthy why do you need to fake it?

Not OP, but wealthy people get a lot of privileges and perks that make life easier and more pleasant. Sometimes those are handed out purely on the basis of appearing wealthy.

Ok, that I definitely get, but is it worth it to try and go beyond regular “pretty privilege” to be something that is clearly not authentic to you? It’s just very weird and not healthy or worth it.

I frequently travel to my parents’ home country and over the years I realized that people treat me with a certain degree of deference because I present as an attractive and wealthy woman of a certain class. I could not “fake” this- it comes with my education and mannerisms and health and access to the United States.

It sort of worries me that so many Americans concern themselves with this now. It suggests that being a regular middle class person no longer affords access to regular decent treatment by other people so you now want to be perceived in a certain way. More evidence that our society may be deteriorating instead of becoming more egalitarian.

So preferential treatment for me but not for thee?

What do you mean by this?

The poster said she gets preferential treatment due to her perceived attractiveness and wealth. She is concerned that so many Americans want to get the preferential treatment she says she receives.

I am the poster you are talking about. I am solidly middle class in America, but in my parents’ home country, having straight white teeth, knowing English, and wearing Puma sneakers from Costco signifies major wealth. So I get that preferential treatment- only because the country is so incredibly poor. I don’t want to be a rich person in a poor place. I want to be a middle class woman in a middle class place.

Great, you still get preferential treatment somewhere. It's easy to say you don't want it or that you are concerned other people want it when you get to experience it at least some of the time.

If I actually wanted that treatment, I could live in that country full time. You can also easily get that treatment pp- go live in a third world country where a US Passport gives you access to the best lifestyle possible, made possible by the exploitation and poverty of the native population.

[Anonymous]

Even AI thinks every rich women has special style, taste, poise and confidence. This is beyond sad