Divorced girl friends are more attractive than married ones

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Anonymous wrote:Pretty white women really suffer post menopause. They go from being on top of the world to being almost invisible. In terms of physical attraction, aging is easier for Asian, black, Latinaz middle Eastern women.

Not even close to true, but keep telling yourself that.

It's about genetics overall, but not just "race". You are just trolling for racism.

NP. I would have said it’s about overall care and lifestyle- it starts to catch up. But if you are going to say genetics than PP has a point. We are used to seeing aging on white people. Non-white people age too but since it’s not as commonly understood, people don’t focus on those details as much. (Eg, melasma versus wrinkles).

White is not a homogenous group genetically speaking, racist.
Hispanic is not a homogenious group genetically speaking, racist.
Black is not a homogenous group genetically speaking, racist.

NP. Chill. The more melanated you are, the more youthful you look compared to lighter skinned people as you age. But I will say I don’t know how pale Asians do it. Not that much melanin but they also stay out of the sun their whole lives whereas whites in western society tan purposely all the time. Genes are a thing.
Signed, middle aged white lady who knows I don’t look as youthful as my Black and Asian friends.

NP. Just STFU and stop supporting this misogynistic sh!t. You’re not cooler or more progressive for shitting on white women. You’re just a loser. I live in a diverse UMC city neighborhood and see plenty of busted East Asian and Black women, but I won’t go out of my way to gin up nasty stuff about that.

How is it misogynistic? It applies to men too. It’s not nasty. It’s really weird this is a sore point for you. White people simply do not have any natural protection from the sun. We show age spots early and wrinkles. Big whoop. Maybe you need to unpack why you think aging skin is so disgusting. I’d rather look old than be dead.

Read some theory, you self-hating idiot. When you make the patriarchal valuation on their behalf, it’s misogynistic FFS.

PP is also correct. If we ranted about traction alopecia, morbid obesity rates, melasma, cystic acne, dark circles, and other “afflictions” more common with other complexions, that wouldn’t be smiled at.

Hmmm
Didn’t know that about cystic acne ..
thanks for sharing

[Anonymous]

I'll also add to everything discussed here...attractive people tend to get jobs in certain industries/types of jobs that encourage a lifestyle where you are constantly traveling around or putting yourself out there in front of people that is not conducive to staying married. Entertainment-industry related jobs, modeling, sales related jobs, flight attendants, investor relations, events industry, etc.

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Anonymous wrote:Women divorce when they can afford to so they have more money and more money means better clothes, care, etc.

This! Most divorces are initiated by women who have planned it for a long time and can afford to divorce. They have also been planning said divorce for a long time, so they probably have been working on themselves, too.

This is the answer.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 45 and divorcing. People keep telling me I'm glowing. Interesting, because I'm still wearing jeans and a tee-shirt and no make-up.

Part of it is primal. Your inner cavewoman is like, "Oh no, you might starve to death, put out attractive vibes and see if a caveman will come protect you."

Part of it is depression . . . I didn't choose to lose 40 pounds, I just couldn't eat. Now I'm not depressed but 40 pounds lighter.

Honestly part of it is just the stunning realization that I don't have to smile and nod at anyone if I don't want to. I have lifetime alimony and I don't need to please some fool just to be OK. In fact, some fool is paying me not to please him! So I am free. And naturally, that kind of attitude draws people to you.

I'm in a divorce support group of 6 women and 1 man. I made the mistake of telling the group how the first thing I cried about when he left me was how much I like having sex, and how I guess I'll have to get a part-time boyfriend to solve that problem. The one man (at least 20 years older than me, not in my league at all) was falling over himself to tell me that I will have no problem on the dating market. Here is a woman who just wants sex, and no fuss, and she has money . . . line up gentlemen.

I was like, um sir, obviously I know this already. It's pretty obvious. I never said I had a self-esteem problem. My problem will be picking a worthy man.

Just make sure you get your alimony as a lump sum. You never know what happens in 10 years

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 45 and divorcing. People keep telling me I'm glowing. Interesting, because I'm still wearing jeans and a tee-shirt and no make-up.

Part of it is primal. Your inner cavewoman is like, "Oh no, you might starve to death, put out attractive vibes and see if a caveman will come protect you."

Part of it is depression . . . I didn't choose to lose 40 pounds, I just couldn't eat. Now I'm not depressed but 40 pounds lighter.

Honestly part of it is just the stunning realization that I don't have to smile and nod at anyone if I don't want to. I have lifetime alimony and I don't need to please some fool just to be OK. In fact, some fool is paying me not to please him! So I am free. And naturally, that kind of attitude draws people to you.

I'm in a divorce support group of 6 women and 1 man. I made the mistake of telling the group how the first thing I cried about when he left me was how much I like having sex, and how I guess I'll have to get a part-time boyfriend to solve that problem. The one man (at least 20 years older than me, not in my league at all) was falling over himself to tell me that I will have no problem on the dating market. Here is a woman who just wants sex, and no fuss, and she has money . . . line up gentlemen.

I was like, um sir, obviously I know this already. It's pretty obvious. I never said I had a self-esteem problem. My problem will be picking a worthy man.

Just make sure you get your alimony as a lump sum. You never know what happens in 10 years

Yeah, and stbx drinks too much and does not look good these days.

It's not a lump sum. He earns almost 7 figures but spends it all and is cash poor.

But I have protections in place:

I received several rental units which are highly leveraged (eye roll) in the divorce. If I have to, I can sell my home (equity of $1 million), pay off those loans, and move into one of the units, living off the rents from the others.

I remain the beneficiary of his life insurances policies.

So worst case scenario, he is unable to work and the payments stop. I'll be OK with the real estate assets that I have retained. But as long as the alimony continues, I have a pretty sweet deal.

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Anonymous wrote:Pretty white women really suffer post menopause. They go from being on top of the world to being almost invisible. In terms of physical attraction, aging is easier for Asian, black, Latinaz middle Eastern women.

Not even close to true, but keep telling yourself that.

It's about genetics overall, but not just "race". You are just trolling for racism.

NP. I would have said it’s about overall care and lifestyle- it starts to catch up. But if you are going to say genetics than PP has a point. We are used to seeing aging on white people. Non-white people age too but since it’s not as commonly understood, people don’t focus on those details as much. (Eg, melasma versus wrinkles).

White is not a homogenous group genetically speaking, racist.
Hispanic is not a homogenious group genetically speaking, racist.
Black is not a homogenous group genetically speaking, racist.

NP. Chill. The more melanated you are, the more youthful you look compared to lighter skinned people as you age. But I will say I don’t know how pale Asians do it. Not that much melanin but they also stay out of the sun their whole lives whereas whites in western society tan purposely all the time. Genes are a thing.
Signed, middle aged white lady who knows I don’t look as youthful as my Black and Asian friends.

NP. Just STFU and stop supporting this misogynistic sh!t. You’re not cooler or more progressive for shitting on white women. You’re just a loser. I live in a diverse UMC city neighborhood and see plenty of busted East Asian and Black women, but I won’t go out of my way to gin up nasty stuff about that.

How is it misogynistic? It applies to men too. It’s not nasty. It’s really weird this is a sore point for you. White people simply do not have any natural protection from the sun. We show age spots early and wrinkles. Big whoop. Maybe you need to unpack why you think aging skin is so disgusting. I’d rather look old than be dead.

Read some theory, you self-hating idiot. When you make the patriarchal valuation on their behalf, it’s misogynistic FFS.

PP is also correct. If we ranted about traction alopecia, morbid obesity rates, melasma, cystic acne, dark circles, and other “afflictions” more common with other complexions, that wouldn’t be smiled at.

You don’t seem to understand the difference between punching up and kicking down.

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I live in an affluent area and there are lots of attractive married women. Our country club is full of good looking families.

I don’t necessarily think more attractive people get divorced. I do think if the marriage was based on mostly physical attraction, the marriage could fail.

It does seem like strong attractive women leave their weaker men. Or men cheat and they get divorced or also stay married.

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This may not be a popular opinion but I personally feel that it is much easier for attractive people to leave bad marriages vs. ones who are not.

Reason being is that attractive people have many more options in their lives - - both personal as well as professional.
People who aren’t very attractive may choose to remain complacent in certain situations due not only to less options available but for low self-esteem issues as well.

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Anonymous wrote:Pretty white women really suffer post menopause. They go from being on top of the world to being almost invisible. In terms of physical attraction, aging is easier for Asian, black, Latinaz middle Eastern women.

Not even close to true, but keep telling yourself that.

It's about genetics overall, but not just "race". You are just trolling for racism.

NP. I would have said it’s about overall care and lifestyle- it starts to catch up. But if you are going to say genetics than PP has a point. We are used to seeing aging on white people. Non-white people age too but since it’s not as commonly understood, people don’t focus on those details as much. (Eg, melasma versus wrinkles).

White is not a homogenous group genetically speaking, racist.
Hispanic is not a homogenious group genetically speaking, racist.
Black is not a homogenous group genetically speaking, racist.

NP. Chill. The more melanated you are, the more youthful you look compared to lighter skinned people as you age. But I will say I don’t know how pale Asians do it. Not that much melanin but they also stay out of the sun their whole lives whereas whites in western society tan purposely all the time. Genes are a thing.
Signed, middle aged white lady who knows I don’t look as youthful as my Black and Asian friends.

NP. Just STFU and stop supporting this misogynistic sh!t. You’re not cooler or more progressive for shitting on white women. You’re just a loser. I live in a diverse UMC city neighborhood and see plenty of busted East Asian and Black women, but I won’t go out of my way to gin up nasty stuff about that.

How is it misogynistic? It applies to men too. It’s not nasty. It’s really weird this is a sore point for you. White people simply do not have any natural protection from the sun. We show age spots early and wrinkles. Big whoop. Maybe you need to unpack why you think aging skin is so disgusting. I’d rather look old than be dead.

Read some theory, you self-hating idiot. When you make the patriarchal valuation on their behalf, it’s misogynistic FFS.

PP is also correct. If we ranted about traction alopecia, morbid obesity rates, melasma, cystic acne, dark circles, and other “afflictions” more common with other complexions, that wouldn’t be smiled at.

You don’t seem to understand the difference between punching up and kicking down.

You aren’t engaging in something protective or political by okaying nastiness to only one group of women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 45 and divorcing. People keep telling me I'm glowing. Interesting, because I'm still wearing jeans and a tee-shirt and no make-up.

Part of it is primal. Your inner cavewoman is like, "Oh no, you might starve to death, put out attractive vibes and see if a caveman will come protect you."

Part of it is depression . . . I didn't choose to lose 40 pounds, I just couldn't eat. Now I'm not depressed but 40 pounds lighter.

Honestly part of it is just the stunning realization that I don't have to smile and nod at anyone if I don't want to. I have lifetime alimony and I don't need to please some fool just to be OK. In fact, some fool is paying me not to please him! So I am free. And naturally, that kind of attitude draws people to you.

I'm in a divorce support group of 6 women and 1 man. I made the mistake of telling the group how the first thing I cried about when he left me was how much I like having sex, and how I guess I'll have to get a part-time boyfriend to solve that problem. The one man (at least 20 years older than me, not in my league at all) was falling over himself to tell me that I will have no problem on the dating market. Here is a woman who just wants sex, and no fuss, and she has money . . . line up gentlemen.

I was like, um sir, obviously I know this already. It's pretty obvious. I never said I had a self-esteem problem. My problem will be picking a worthy man.

Just make sure you get your alimony as a lump sum. You never know what happens in 10 years

Yeah, and stbx drinks too much and does not look good these days.

It's not a lump sum. He earns almost 7 figures but spends it all and is cash poor.

But I have protections in place:

I received several rental units which are highly leveraged (eye roll) in the divorce. If I have to, I can sell my home (equity of $1 million), pay off those loans, and move into one of the units, living off the rents from the others.

I remain the beneficiary of his life insurances policies.

So worst case scenario, he is unable to work and the payments stop. I'll be OK with the real estate assets that I have retained. But as long as the alimony continues, I have a pretty sweet deal.

1. Consider RE a storage - it takes more time and effort to manage vs just investing in a total market ETF. Particular leveraged RE is a liability and high risk
2. Insurance beneficiary is easy to change, once he remarries/has a new baby
3. Better to ask him to refinance the RE, and give you a lumsum

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Anonymous wrote:This may not be a popular opinion but I personally feel that it is much easier for attractive people to leave bad marriages vs. ones who are not.

Reason being is that attractive people have many more options in their lives - - both personal as well as professional.
People who aren’t very attractive may choose to remain complacent in certain situations due not only to less options available but for low self-esteem issues as well.

This is very true. I'm fit and pretty it comes with confidence. This confidence gives powers in dating and career. I had no issues growing up the corporate ladder in mid 40s and into early 50s, and finding a new BF