What makes you feel like you have it together?

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Anonymous wrote:I went on a trip this weekend and forgot to pack any underwear so i had to wear my husband's so I'm not really in the position to be giving any advice right now, but I generally like the feeling of being moisturized head to toe with expensive lotion.

You got to wear men's underwear for a whole weekend?! I call that winning. They're so much more comfortable than ours. But they look like diapers under most women's clothing, so

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I feel most together when I outperform myself. For example, I dedicated all day Saturday to writing a paper for class. By 12:55, I had finished the paper, washed two loads of clothes, and had enough time to get the oil changed.

Outperforming is how I measure success.

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The person above sounds incredible. I don’t know that I have ever outperformed in that level. Go you!

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Anonymous wrote:I’m always quite proud of being the family quartermaster. Kids/dh run out of toothpaste? Next one is under the counter. Kids needs next size up in shoes? Already bought and in a bin on the shelf. Unexpected snow tubing trip? I have it all. Funeral to go to? Kids have the correct clothes already. I have 3 kids and both genders so it’s a bit of a challenge. Especially changing them over to winter gear and making sure they have all the stuff they need.

I also am always on top of laundry. I get it all done, folded and put away multiple times a week.

My house is also very well decorated.

Can’t stay on top of kid clutter. I’ll have their playroom sparkling and then they trash it in one afternoon. Dhs tools are also everywhere. Dh also uses a million pans every night for dinner and I can’t keep up. Water bottles everywhere too! Grr

I love this

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Anonymous wrote:this is not going to make sense to any of you but what makes me feel like I have it together is going for a walk on my own / with my dog and being able to see the cracks in the sidewalk and not fall over

I have lost some of my sight and I've got inoperable brain tumors which may leave me paralysed, eventually But for now, I can walk fast and appear completely able bodied and that feels amazing.

Wow. I am so sorry you're going through this - and also very happy that you are still able to do these things. Wishing you the very best.

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I make decisions based on my moral values and not current norms.

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Anonymous wrote:bit of a spinoff from the what will you never get on top of thread.

For me, flowers and clean surfaces. A vase of flowers somewhere central, and no food smears or crumbs on surfaces feel like a enough of a win to go on with.

Just enjoying things already set up way earlier.

And reading book on the weekend.

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My kids ped sent an email that they finally got flu shots are in and I got my kids scheduled within the next 20 minutes.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m always quite proud of being the family quartermaster. Kids/dh run out of toothpaste? Next one is under the counter. Kids needs next size up in shoes? Already bought and in a bin on the shelf. Unexpected snow tubing trip? I have it all. Funeral to go to? Kids have the correct clothes already. I have 3 kids and both genders so it’s a bit of a challenge. Especially changing them over to winter gear and making sure they have all the stuff they need.

I also am always on top of laundry. I get it all done, folded and put away multiple times a week.

My house is also very well decorated.

Can’t stay on top of kid clutter. I’ll have their playroom sparkling and then they trash it in one afternoon. Dhs tools are also everywhere. Dh also uses a million pans every night for dinner and I can’t keep up. Water bottles everywhere too! Grr

I love this

I do a version of this for all the camp gear that you pack once a year for sleepaway camp. It all lives in the basement so it can be readied quickly without a whole lot of thought. Each kid also has a couple of dress shirts ironed and ready to go for picture day. I have picked these up at Goodwill and enjoy knowing I didn't pay full price for something that will only be worn a few times. I have a bag going at all times for a work colleague who is a foster parent who happily takes clothes that have become too small for my kids. I will feel like I have it together when I get all the plastic little kid toys out of the basement without many going to the landfill but that is going to take some work.

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Anonymous wrote:You ladies are better people than me! I was going to post about what I do to fake being put together in front of other people, and here this thread is about finding your own internal sense of peace. I have tears, seriously.

I think it's important for kids to see you NOT have it together. They need to know burnout is real. That people get stressed and aren't 100%. And that it's OKAY when that happens. No one is put together 100% of the time and trying to act like you are isn't good for your mental health. So have those days where you have a movie marathon with your kids and make popcorn and order pizza for delivery because you just don't have it in you to drive and pick it up. Your kids won't remember that you looked like a mess and had no energy. They'll just remember the fun day they had with you.

When DS was 5 I was going through a really stressful time with work and an extremely sick parent. It was a weekend and DH was away helping my sick parent and I remember spending half the day on the couch with DS doing nothing before I forced myself to take him to an arcade and then to pick up take out. I was almost in tears putting him to bed because I felt like such a failure for wasting nearly an entire day with him. And so I apologized for us having such a bad day and he looked at me like I had 3 heads. I'll never forget him telling me how much FUN he had with me all day.

Love this !