What makes you feel like you have it together?

[Anonymous]

Everything put away and all laundry done. I love it when the only articles of clothing that aren't clean are the ones we're wearing.

Also, having my bed made. For some reason that brings me a big sense of calm and accomplishment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No laundry bins stuffed to the top. Or on a similar note, DS not digging through his laundry the night before a game because he can't find his kit.

A stocked fridge with colorful items. Means I have my stuff together enough to do a full shop and have a meal plan.

This! I'm a very visual person so I love seeing the fridge full and organized and the pantry full with lots of colorful fruits and vegetables. I actually arrange them in rainbow order on the shelf and it makes me smile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We have a fuzzy throw blanket on the sofa in in our family room. The house is a total mess but whenever a kid uses the throw and bundles it up in a ball or drapes it across the floor, I fold it up neatly and lay across the back of the sofa. Every. Friggin. Time. It makes the mess go away, in my head.

I love it when the pillows and throws on our family room couches are all neatly in place. Unfortunately, I have a dog whose mission in life is to knock all pillows of all surfaces (he does this to our bed as well if we forget to shut the door).

[Anonymous]

Hitting the pillow sober, again, with all my bills paid and my business taken care of. Being the sort of person who apologizes when I'm wrong. Recognizing ways I've evolved and grown, ways that previous versions of myself would've responded poorly but today's version had more grace and/or maturity. Having money budgeted for donations and gifts instead of living paycheck-to-paycheck. Checking myself when I start to get angry and choosing to walk it off or use a coping skill instead of blowing up.

Basically anytime I catch myself being mature and not a total gobshite.

[Anonymous]

I start each day with my devotional practice. Centers me and gets my priorities straight, reminds me of my mortality. Then exercise, walk, bike or yoga. Try to read a book about zen or other calming non electronic material right before bed.

Regular exercise and sex. Keep in touch with my closest friends. Devote money and time to charity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hitting the pillow sober, again, with all my bills paid and my business taken care of. Being the sort of person who apologizes when I'm wrong. Recognizing ways I've evolved and grown, ways that previous versions of myself would've responded poorly but today's version had more grace and/or maturity. Having money budgeted for donations and gifts instead of living paycheck-to-paycheck. Checking myself when I start to get angry and choosing to walk it off or use a coping skill instead of blowing up.

Basically anytime I catch myself being mature and not a total gobshite.

This bolded one, this is big. I assume a lot of us GenXers grew up with parents who were always right, because I said so goddamnit, and I'll give you something to cry about. So examining my own behavior, even in small ways, and taking responsibility, feels like a giant leap forward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No laundry bins stuffed to the top. Or on a similar note, DS not digging through his laundry the night before a game because he can't find his kit.

A stocked fridge with colorful items. Means I have my stuff together enough to do a full shop and have a meal plan.

This! I'm a very visual person so I love seeing the fridge full and organized and the pantry full with lots of colorful fruits and vegetables. I actually arrange them in rainbow order on the shelf and it makes me smile.

You need a life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No laundry bins stuffed to the top. Or on a similar note, DS not digging through his laundry the night before a game because he can't find his kit.

A stocked fridge with colorful items. Means I have my stuff together enough to do a full shop and have a meal plan.

This! I'm a very visual person so I love seeing the fridge full and organized and the pantry full with lots of colorful fruits and vegetables. I actually arrange them in rainbow order on the shelf and it makes me smile.

You need a life

Says the person criticizing others' small pleasures on a mommy board

[Anonymous]

I can still wiggle my ass at the ripe old age of 52

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can still wiggle my ass at the ripe old age of 52

Me too, but it kind of just wiggles on its own... that's what you mean, right?

[Anonymous]

I’m always quite proud of being the family quartermaster. Kids/dh run out of toothpaste? Next one is under the counter. Kids needs next size up in shoes? Already bought and in a bin on the shelf. Unexpected snow tubing trip? I have it all. Funeral to go to? Kids have the correct clothes already. I have 3 kids and both genders so it’s a bit of a challenge. Especially changing them over to winter gear and making sure they have all the stuff they need.

I also am always on top of laundry. I get it all done, folded and put away multiple times a week.

My house is also very well decorated.

Can’t stay on top of kid clutter. I’ll have their playroom sparkling and then they trash it in one afternoon. Dhs tools are also everywhere. Dh also uses a million pans every night for dinner and I can’t keep up. Water bottles everywhere too! Grr

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m always quite proud of being the family quartermaster. Kids/dh run out of toothpaste? Next one is under the counter. Kids needs next size up in shoes? Already bought and in a bin on the shelf. Unexpected snow tubing trip? I have it all. Funeral to go to? Kids have the correct clothes already. I have 3 kids and both genders so it’s a bit of a challenge. Especially changing them over to winter gear and making sure they have all the stuff they need.

I also am always on top of laundry. I get it all done, folded and put away multiple times a week.

My house is also very well decorated.

Can’t stay on top of kid clutter. I’ll have their playroom sparkling and then they trash it in one afternoon. Dhs tools are also everywhere. Dh also uses a million pans every night for dinner and I can’t keep up. Water bottles everywhere too! Grr

My guy is a gadget guy, and I have a box just for him, on the landing to the basement where his toys belong. If he leaves a soldering iron on the dining room table, he will find it in the box. "Have you seen a USB-a to HDMI cable??" IN THE BOX.

Same on the well-decorated house. I've spent years getting it just the way I want it, and it gives me real pleasure just to sit and BE in my space. The correct clothes for a funeral, though... that's where I'd fall down. That would be a panicked target run.

[Anonymous]

Fresh pedicure, threaded eyebrows, fresh color/no roots, bikini wax.

When one of those is out of whack I feel gross.

Getting a pedicure right now, need a haircut and color (next week). Brows later today.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No laundry bins stuffed to the top. Or on a similar note, DS not digging through his laundry the night before a game because he can't find his kit.

A stocked fridge with colorful items. Means I have my stuff together enough to do a full shop and have a meal plan.

This! I'm a very visual person so I love seeing the fridge full and organized and the pantry full with lots of colorful fruits and vegetables. I actually arrange them in rainbow order on the shelf and it makes me smile.

You need a life

Ok, thank you for your insight. I'll quit working, cancel my early afternoon plans to hang out with friends in this nice weather, cancel my dinner plans for tonight, cancel my plans with my children tomorrow morning, cancel my plans with friends to watch college football and have dinner at their house tomorrow, stay home from church on Sunday, and then cancel plans with friends to watch NFL and have dinner at their house on Sunday so I can ponder what else I should be doing in order to "get a life."

[Anonymous]

Right after the cleaning lady leaves