What's your unusual attraction?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m attracted to brown men weirdly - Indian , Middle East, Hispanic. It’s specifically smooth silky skin that gets me wet. And little hair on chest.
I tried to sleep with blonde men but their skin grosses me out - all these hair, papillomas, spots, acne…

Indian men are crazy hot

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m attracted to brown men weirdly - Indian , Middle East, Hispanic. It’s specifically smooth silky skin that gets me wet. And little hair on chest.
I tried to sleep with blonde men but their skin grosses me out - all these hair, papillomas, spots, acne…

Indian men are crazy hot

Jay shetty with his green eyes and British accent? Swoon!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like short men who are lithe and muscular.

Short elf like men with small feet. I just want to put them in my pocket.

[Anonymous]

Like some big butz and I cannot lie.

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Anonymous wrote:My unusual attraction: Men with long hair, but only two specific types— 80s hair band style/ David Bowie in Labyrinth, and American Indian/darker skinned South American men with long hair.

Not unusual attraction: dark hair/light eyes combo.

So does the oft-mentioned Momoa meet the requirements of your first attraction?

I did like him as Drogo, but don’t really find him that attractive without the darker hair and eye makeup! Leaner men with shiny, straight hair are more the vibe I like.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I like short men who are lithe and muscular.

Short elf like men with small feet. I just want to put them in my pocket.

Little men are cute but the idea of some wee man trying to spoon me makes me grossed out.
You keep the short kings I like men 6’2 or more.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think this is necessarily unusual, but as I’ve gotten older (I’m a 40F), I’m basically only attracted to 6/6/6/8+ men. At least 6 feet, 6 pack, 6 figures, and 8 inches. And they need to have a muscular 6 pack, not deathly skinny 6 pack.

I don’t know why. In my 20s and 30s I was attracted to a wide range of men, short, fat, broke, etc. But now I can’t do it.

It’s an unfortunate attraction, because you’re less and less likely to attract this type of man yourself.

I’ve actually been attracting more of them. When I was younger I was too intimidated by them, despite being very attractive myself. Now I see myself as their equal, I make just as much money as they do, and I get a lot of interest from attractive men who don’t want their own kids and would prefer stepkids (which there are a surprising number of). Also helps that I’m a lot of fun and plan good dates! I have a date with a cute one tonight.

A “man who prefers step kids”- honestly this might be a phrase that’s never been spoken. Is that what they tell you?

PP. Usually they say they’re open to step kids, adoption, etc. Obviously there’s some self-selection going on; men who want bio kids aren’t swiping right on me.

But overall they’re great guys, many were raised by stepfathers or adopted. One guy I dated recently was raised by his stepfather and said for him, love isn’t based on biology. His stepdad was a great guy, a judge, and his mom was a single mom with 4 kids, they married and he raised them like his own kids. They were still all very close and spent lots of time together, vacations, etc.

The other type of man I’ve dated who wants stepkids are guys who either grew up in massive families and cared for younger siblings/cousins/etc, or they worked with kids (such as teachers) and they know kids and especially the early years aren’t for them. So stepkids are more ideal, they get the fun later years and not all the responsibilities.

[Anonymous]

Oh you mean they will tolerate your kids.

Sounds dreamy.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think this is necessarily unusual, but as I’ve gotten older (I’m a 40F), I’m basically only attracted to 6/6/6/8+ men. At least 6 feet, 6 pack, 6 figures, and 8 inches. And they need to have a muscular 6 pack, not deathly skinny 6 pack.

I don’t know why. In my 20s and 30s I was attracted to a wide range of men, short, fat, broke, etc. But now I can’t do it.

I have seen the numbers on this stupid viral standard and just the 6/6/6/ standard in less half a percent of men. Throw in the 8" requirement and you probably have better odds of walking through a random forest and spotting a unicorn.

Ironically, in this area the 6' and 6 figure income probably aren't that hard to find. The six pack is where it starts to get tricky, there are more millionaires in the US than men with 6 packs.

PP. That tracks, of the men on dating apps who swipe right on me, I swipe right on way less than 1% of them. But I get at least 100 men a date swiping right on me, so I still get around a match a day who fits my criteria (well, except the 8” since I can’t see that, but I just ask for nudes early on). That’s 7-10 matches a week and I go out with around 2 of them. Plus I meet men in public and exchange numbers, too (usually at places like the gym, where I can already gauge fitness and income level).

I’ve tried hooking up with men who didn’t meet the standard and I just can’t get into it. Last weekend I tried, and couldn’t get turned on, ended up asking if he would leave. I felt bad, but I can’t really help what I want.

I can be flexible on the 6 figures. The last guy I dated made far less, but was absolutely perfect physically. I don’t mind paying for dates. I just don’t want to marry that guy, ya know?

I kept my profile private because I found having to wade through 100 likes a day to be annoying and frustrating- like - these guys swipe on anyone- even from many states away. I didn’t find it a flex, but a frustration.

Can you tell me more about asking men for nude photos before meeting or becoming intimate with them? If their member appears insufficient do you just fade off, or do you tell them you don’t want to go out again? Curious how this works, as a woman if a man asks for nudes before he’s seen me nude- I mismatch cause I think he’s a creepy loser. Curious how this works when it’s the woman asking for a nude..

PP. I don’t find it frustrating - it takes maybe 10 minutes to get through profiles - I always figured that people who can’t be bothered to take a few minutes (whether it’s swiping, uploading photos, writing a bio, etc) aren’t really serious about finding someone. Plus I have some standards that make it easier, such as I never swipe right on someone who hasn’t bothered to fill out their profile.

A LOT of men are really eager to send nudes and will suggest it first. I usually accept. Or if they mention they’re at the gym, I’ll ask for a gym selfie, and often you can see outlines and whatnot. Or, if we’ve gotten to the sexting phase but haven’t slept together, I’ll ask for one. You just have to judge the situation, if a man has been more respectable towards me, I don’t ask, at least not for a few dates.

If I’m not into their body, I’ll usually do the slow fade (if we haven’t gone out yet) or come up with another reason why we’re not a match. I’m obviously not going to say I’m not attracted, that’s cruel.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think this is necessarily unusual, but as I’ve gotten older (I’m a 40F), I’m basically only attracted to 6/6/6/8+ men. At least 6 feet, 6 pack, 6 figures, and 8 inches. And they need to have a muscular 6 pack, not deathly skinny 6 pack.

I don’t know why. In my 20s and 30s I was attracted to a wide range of men, short, fat, broke, etc. But now I can’t do it.

It’s an unfortunate attraction, because you’re less and less likely to attract this type of man yourself.

I’ve actually been attracting more of them. When I was younger I was too intimidated by them, despite being very attractive myself. Now I see myself as their equal, I make just as much money as they do, and I get a lot of interest from attractive men who don’t want their own kids and would prefer stepkids (which there are a surprising number of). Also helps that I’m a lot of fun and plan good dates! I have a date with a cute one tonight.

A “man who prefers step kids”- honestly this might be a phrase that’s never been spoken. Is that what they tell you?

NP. Massive red flag for someone looking for kids to molest

[Anonymous]

I like guys who readily demonstrate fine motor skills - musicians, watchmakers, luthiers, some woodworkers. Once I see those fingers move, I am ready.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think this is necessarily unusual, but as I’ve gotten older (I’m a 40F), I’m basically only attracted to 6/6/6/8+ men. At least 6 feet, 6 pack, 6 figures, and 8 inches. And they need to have a muscular 6 pack, not deathly skinny 6 pack.

I don’t know why. In my 20s and 30s I was attracted to a wide range of men, short, fat, broke, etc. But now I can’t do it.

It’s an unfortunate attraction, because you’re less and less likely to attract this type of man yourself.

I’ve actually been attracting more of them. When I was younger I was too intimidated by them, despite being very attractive myself. Now I see myself as their equal, I make just as much money as they do, and I get a lot of interest from attractive men who don’t want their own kids and would prefer stepkids (which there are a surprising number of). Also helps that I’m a lot of fun and plan good dates! I have a date with a cute one tonight.

A “man who prefers step kids”- honestly this might be a phrase that’s never been spoken. Is that what they tell you?

NP. Massive red flag for someone looking for kids to molest

It’s possible. That’s why I am very diligent about never allowing the men I date to meet my kids. My standard is that they won’t meet my kids until we are talking about marriage, and we don’t talk about marriage until 2+ years in and multiple discussions on important topics like finances. And I’m not in any rush to get married, my standards are very extremely high.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think this is necessarily unusual, but as I’ve gotten older (I’m a 40F), I’m basically only attracted to 6/6/6/8+ men. At least 6 feet, 6 pack, 6 figures, and 8 inches. And they need to have a muscular 6 pack, not deathly skinny 6 pack.

I don’t know why. In my 20s and 30s I was attracted to a wide range of men, short, fat, broke, etc. But now I can’t do it.

I have seen the numbers on this stupid viral standard and just the 6/6/6/ standard in less half a percent of men. Throw in the 8" requirement and you probably have better odds of walking through a random forest and spotting a unicorn.

Ironically, in this area the 6' and 6 figure income probably aren't that hard to find. The six pack is where it starts to get tricky, there are more millionaires in the US than men with 6 packs.

PP. That tracks, of the men on dating apps who swipe right on me, I swipe right on way less than 1% of them. But I get at least 100 men a date swiping right on me, so I still get around a match a day who fits my criteria (well, except the 8” since I can’t see that, but I just ask for nudes early on). That’s 7-10 matches a week and I go out with around 2 of them. Plus I meet men in public and exchange numbers, too (usually at places like the gym, where I can already gauge fitness and income level).

I’ve tried hooking up with men who didn’t meet the standard and I just can’t get into it. Last weekend I tried, and couldn’t get turned on, ended up asking if he would leave. I felt bad, but I can’t really help what I want.

I can be flexible on the 6 figures. The last guy I dated made far less, but was absolutely perfect physically. I don’t mind paying for dates. I just don’t want to marry that guy, ya know?

I kept my profile private because I found having to wade through 100 likes a day to be annoying and frustrating- like - these guys swipe on anyone- even from many states away. I didn’t find it a flex, but a frustration.

Can you tell me more about asking men for nude photos before meeting or becoming intimate with them? If their member appears insufficient do you just fade off, or do you tell them you don’t want to go out again? Curious how this works, as a woman if a man asks for nudes before he’s seen me nude- I mismatch cause I think he’s a creepy loser. Curious how this works when it’s the woman asking for a nude..

PP. I don’t find it frustrating - it takes maybe 10 minutes to get through profiles - I always figured that people who can’t be bothered to take a few minutes (whether it’s swiping, uploading photos, writing a bio, etc) aren’t really serious about finding someone. Plus I have some standards that make it easier, such as I never swipe right on someone who hasn’t bothered to fill out their profile.

A LOT of men are really eager to send nudes and will suggest it first. I usually accept. Or if they mention they’re at the gym, I’ll ask for a gym selfie, and often you can see outlines and whatnot. Or, if we’ve gotten to the sexting phase but haven’t slept together, I’ll ask for one. You just have to judge the situation, if a man has been more respectable towards me, I don’t ask, at least not for a few dates.

If I’m not into their body, I’ll usually do the slow fade (if we haven’t gone out yet) or come up with another reason why we’re not a match. I’m obviously not going to say I’m not attracted, that’s cruel.

I don’t mind spending ten min but I sure don’t like wearing ten min. Most of OLD is an inefficient low ROI endeavor. Because I’m so picky and really only date attractive men, keeping it private meant I could swipe and only the men I selected could see my profile. I found it more efficient and generally appreciated knowing that thousands of lonely desperate men weren’t pawing through my profile. Feel more comfortable sharing a bikini pic too. Interesting. I don’t swap nudes with men I’m not intimate with or try to gauge the size of their erect penis from a gym selfie, so I appreciate you sharing how it’s working for you. When you slow fade after not being attracted to them do you worry that random men now have nude photos of you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think this is necessarily unusual, but as I’ve gotten older (I’m a 40F), I’m basically only attracted to 6/6/6/8+ men. At least 6 feet, 6 pack, 6 figures, and 8 inches. And they need to have a muscular 6 pack, not deathly skinny 6 pack.

I don’t know why. In my 20s and 30s I was attracted to a wide range of men, short, fat, broke, etc. But now I can’t do it.

It’s an unfortunate attraction, because you’re less and less likely to attract this type of man yourself.

I’ve actually been attracting more of them. When I was younger I was too intimidated by them, despite being very attractive myself. Now I see myself as their equal, I make just as much money as they do, and I get a lot of interest from attractive men who don’t want their own kids and would prefer stepkids (which there are a surprising number of). Also helps that I’m a lot of fun and plan good dates! I have a date with a cute one tonight.

A “man who prefers step kids”- honestly this might be a phrase that’s never been spoken. Is that what they tell you?

NP. Massive red flag for someone looking for kids to molest

It’s possible. That’s why I am very diligent about never allowing the men I date to meet my kids. My standard is that they won’t meet my kids until we are talking about marriage, and we don’t talk about marriage until 2+ years in and multiple discussions on important topics like finances. And I’m not in any rush to get married, my standards are very extremely
high.

So you date many men who want to stepfather your children they’ve never met? I find this……fascinating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t think this is necessarily unusual, but as I’ve gotten older (I’m a 40F), I’m basically only attracted to 6/6/6/8+ men. At least 6 feet, 6 pack, 6 figures, and 8 inches. And they need to have a muscular 6 pack, not deathly skinny 6 pack.

I don’t know why. In my 20s and 30s I was attracted to a wide range of men, short, fat, broke, etc. But now I can’t do it.

I have seen the numbers on this stupid viral standard and just the 6/6/6/ standard in less half a percent of men. Throw in the 8" requirement and you probably have better odds of walking through a random forest and spotting a unicorn.

Ironically, in this area the 6' and 6 figure income probably aren't that hard to find. The six pack is where it starts to get tricky, there are more millionaires in the US than men with 6 packs.

PP. That tracks, of the men on dating apps who swipe right on me, I swipe right on way less than 1% of them. But I get at least 100 men a date swiping right on me, so I still get around a match a day who fits my criteria (well, except the 8” since I can’t see that, but I just ask for nudes early on). That’s 7-10 matches a week and I go out with around 2 of them. Plus I meet men in public and exchange numbers, too (usually at places like the gym, where I can already gauge fitness and income level).

I’ve tried hooking up with men who didn’t meet the standard and I just can’t get into it. Last weekend I tried, and couldn’t get turned on, ended up asking if he would leave. I felt bad, but I can’t really help what I want.

I can be flexible on the 6 figures. The last guy I dated made far less, but was absolutely perfect physically. I don’t mind paying for dates. I just don’t want to marry that guy, ya know?

I kept my profile private because I found having to wade through 100 likes a day to be annoying and frustrating- like - these guys swipe on anyone- even from many states away. I didn’t find it a flex, but a frustration.

Can you tell me more about asking men for nude photos before meeting or becoming intimate with them? If their member appears insufficient do you just fade off, or do you tell them you don’t want to go out again? Curious how this works, as a woman if a man asks for nudes before he’s seen me nude- I mismatch cause I think he’s a creepy loser. Curious how this works when it’s the woman asking for a nude..

PP. I don’t find it frustrating - it takes maybe 10 minutes to get through profiles - I always figured that people who can’t be bothered to take a few minutes (whether it’s swiping, uploading photos, writing a bio, etc) aren’t really serious about finding someone. Plus I have some standards that make it easier, such as I never swipe right on someone who hasn’t bothered to fill out their profile.

A LOT of men are really eager to send nudes and will suggest it first. I usually accept. Or if they mention they’re at the gym, I’ll ask for a gym selfie, and often you can see outlines and whatnot. Or, if we’ve gotten to the sexting phase but haven’t slept together, I’ll ask for one. You just have to judge the situation, if a man has been more respectable towards me, I don’t ask, at least not for a few dates.

If I’m not into their body, I’ll usually do the slow fade (if we haven’t gone out yet) or come up with another reason why we’re not a match. I’m obviously not going to say I’m not attracted, that’s cruel.

I don’t mind spending ten min but I sure don’t like wearing ten min. Most of OLD is an inefficient low ROI endeavor. Because I’m so picky and really only date attractive men, keeping it private meant I could swipe and only the men I selected could see my profile. I found it more efficient and generally appreciated knowing that thousands of lonely desperate men weren’t pawing through my profile. Feel more comfortable sharing a bikini pic too. Interesting. I don’t swap nudes with men I’m not intimate with or try to gauge the size of their erect penis from a gym selfie, so I appreciate you sharing how it’s working for you. When you slow fade after not being attracted to them do you worry that random men now have nude photos of you?

PP. I don’t send nudes to men. I’m upfront about it, that I don’t do it but I would love to see them. Never had a man turn me down. I also don’t have bikini pictures on my profile, the most revealing I have are gym clothes (a tank top and shorts). So I don’t really worry about who sees my profile, it’s literally all things I wear in public anyway, and hundreds of men see me in public.

Glad you found a method that works for you! I hadn’t considered trying setting mine to private - I didn’t even know that was a thing.