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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t think this is necessarily unusual, but as I’ve gotten older (I’m a 40F), I’m basically only attracted to 6/6/6/8+ men. At least 6 feet, 6 pack, 6 figures, and 8 inches. And they need to have a muscular 6 pack, not deathly skinny 6 pack.

I don’t know why. In my 20s and 30s I was attracted to a wide range of men, short, fat, broke, etc. But now I can’t do it.[/quote]

I have seen the numbers on this stupid viral standard and just the 6/6/6/ standard in less half a percent of men. Throw in the 8" requirement and you probably have better odds of walking through a random forest and spotting a unicorn.

Ironically, in this area the 6' and 6 figure income probably aren't that hard to find. The six pack is where it starts to get tricky, there are more millionaires in the US than men with 6 packs.[/quote]

PP. That tracks, of the men on dating apps who swipe right on me, I swipe right on way less than 1% of them. But I get at least 100 men a date swiping right on me, so I still get around a match a day who fits my criteria (well, except the 8” since I can’t see that, but I just ask for nudes early on). That’s 7-10 matches a week and I go out with around 2 of them. Plus I meet men in public and exchange numbers, too (usually at places like the gym, where I can already gauge fitness and income level).

I’ve tried hooking up with men who didn’t meet the standard and I just can’t get into it. Last weekend I tried, and couldn’t get turned on, ended up asking if he would leave. I felt bad, but I can’t really help what I want.

I can be flexible on the 6 figures. The last guy I dated made far less, but was absolutely perfect physically. I don’t mind paying for dates. I just don’t want to marry that guy, ya know?[/quote]

I kept my profile private because I found having to wade through 100 likes a day to be annoying and frustrating- like - these guys swipe on anyone- even from many states away. I didn’t find it a flex, but a frustration.

Can you tell me more about asking men for nude photos before meeting or becoming intimate with them? If their member appears insufficient do you just fade off, or do you tell them you don’t want to go out again? Curious how this works, as a woman if a man asks for nudes before he’s seen me nude- I mismatch cause I think he’s a creepy loser. Curious how this works when it’s the woman asking for a nude.. [/quote]

PP. I don’t find it frustrating - it takes maybe 10 minutes to get through profiles - I always figured that people who can’t be bothered to take a few minutes (whether it’s swiping, uploading photos, writing a bio, etc) aren’t really serious about finding someone. Plus I have some standards that make it easier, such as I never swipe right on someone who hasn’t bothered to fill out their profile.

A LOT of men are really eager to send nudes and will suggest it first. I usually accept. Or if they mention they’re at the gym, I’ll ask for a gym selfie, and often you can see outlines and whatnot. Or, if we’ve gotten to the sexting phase but haven’t slept together, I’ll ask for one. You just have to judge the situation, if a man has been more respectable towards me, I don’t ask, at least not for a few dates.

If I’m not into their body, I’ll usually do the slow fade (if we haven’t gone out yet) or come up with another reason why we’re not a match. I’m obviously not going to say I’m not attracted, that’s cruel. [/quote]

I don’t mind spending ten min but I sure don’t like wearing ten min. Most of OLD is an inefficient low ROI endeavor. Because I’m so picky and really only date attractive men, keeping it private meant I could swipe and only the men I selected could see my profile. I found it more efficient and generally appreciated knowing that thousands of lonely desperate men weren’t pawing through my profile. Feel more comfortable sharing a bikini pic too. Interesting. I don’t swap nudes with men I’m not intimate with or try to gauge the size of their erect  penis from a gym selfie, so I appreciate you sharing how it’s working for you. When you slow fade after not being attracted to them do you worry that random men now have nude photos of you? [/quote]

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