She left me because I don't spend enough time with her

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This doesn't make any sense.

She has kids, yet somehow you guys have the exact same week on/week off schedule so you can spend an entire week having sleepovers? That's highly unlikely.

First you said all you do is "hang out" at your place from 5pm-9pm, and now suddenly you're also hiking, going out to restaurants, etc. Why does the story keep changing?

First it was she broke up because she wants more time, then you changed it to "my value only depends on my income!" The two are not the same.

Either you're a troll, or you're not telling the whole story.

Either way, it's fine to breakup because you want different things. I'm a single mom and ended things with a guy recently because he wanted someone who can drop everything and travel with him several times a month, and that's not me. It doesn't change my value as a human being because I don't have the time or money for that, it just means that despite us liking each other, what we want isn't in alignment. Not a big deal.

No sleepovers, he just used her a weekday prostitute. Bang and then leave. Second bolded is the truth.

I read it as she sleeps over at his place every night, they hang out 5-9, he leaves for a few hours, comes back, then leaves at 5am.

I mean, look, if that's true, I do give OP credit for spending time with her from 5pm-9pm when he could be out driving. I think he deserves acknowledgement for that.

But, it's probably not very fulfilling for her to drive to her boyfriend's house every night to just hang out. I've had those boyfriends where they never came to see me, I just went over and sat around at their place. And that's not fun.

It would make more sense for OP to instead spend 3-4 nights a week just driving (5pm-11pm or whatever he does), then 2 nights a week do zero driving and instead plan and execute a real date with her. That way it feels more like a dating relationship and less like Netflix & chill.

I see her every day during the week I don't have my kids. She comes after work and we are together until 9 PM or so then I head out drive a bit come back..and then I leave again around 5 am.

This is worded a bit confusingly (I assumed this meant she left at 9) - but I guess it doesn't really matter if she hangs out at his house alone. Is that a sleepover? You f***, he leaves, you stay at his house and fall asleep, eventually he comes back, and then leaves again at 5am. I'd hate to be a woman that puts up with that BS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This doesn't make any sense.

She has kids, yet somehow you guys have the exact same week on/week off schedule so you can spend an entire week having sleepovers? That's highly unlikely.

First you said all you do is "hang out" at your place from 5pm-9pm, and now suddenly you're also hiking, going out to restaurants, etc. Why does the story keep changing?

First it was she broke up because she wants more time, then you changed it to "my value only depends on my income!" The two are not the same.

Either you're a troll, or you're not telling the whole story.

Either way, it's fine to breakup because you want different things. I'm a single mom and ended things with a guy recently because he wanted someone who can drop everything and travel with him several times a month, and that's not me. It doesn't change my value as a human being because I don't have the time or money for that, it just means that despite us liking each other, what we want isn't in alignment. Not a big deal.

No sleepovers, he just used her a weekday prostitute. Bang and then leave. Second bolded is the truth.

I read it as she sleeps over at his place every night, they hang out 5-9, he leaves for a few hours, comes back, then leaves at 5am.

I mean, look, if that's true, I do give OP credit for spending time with her from 5pm-9pm when he could be out driving. I think he deserves acknowledgement for that.

But, it's probably not very fulfilling for her to drive to her boyfriend's house every night to just hang out. I've had those boyfriends where they never came to see me, I just went over and sat around at their place. And that's not fun.

It would make more sense for OP to instead spend 3-4 nights a week just driving (5pm-11pm or whatever he does), then 2 nights a week do zero driving and instead plan and execute a real date with her. That way it feels more like a dating relationship and less like Netflix & chill.

Really? He said in a pp that he schedules his uber driving for the most profitable time. Likely because there are less drivers late at night and super early AM. It's not like he's prioritizing his GF on purpose from 5-9, he just wouldn't be working that time anyways because it's less profitable. You're looking for gold in a turd here.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she doesn't like being woken whenever he gets in, and then woken again at 5.

[Anonymous]

OP's ex girlfriend is a divorced woman receiving child support. I am not sure she is exactly a catch. Frankly good riddance.

If she wants a man who will spend more time with her perhaps she should bring something else to the table other than her vagina. What is she bringing that's making her a better catch than OP? She is not paying child support so its likely she earns less than her ex and probably broke just like OP.

So folks tell me, why is she a catch that deserves a man who can devote the time with her she thinks she deserves.

OP is clearly not a high value man. He is struggling financially. She is not a high value woman either. She is divorced (of of course she is a woman she is not at fault it must be her ex ). She has kids (probably can't have more or isn't willing to have more). And she has custody as well which means if she meets a guy who wants more time she won't be able to give that time because she has custody.

Y'all are commenting as if this woman is a catch who deserves a man who has time for her. She is just another divorced woman with kids who is probably broke and only surviving thanks to child support and alimony.

OP should not date. And she should not date either. She has nothing but vagina to offer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP's ex girlfriend is a divorced woman receiving child support. I am not sure she is exactly a catch. Frankly good riddance.

If she wants a man who will spend more time with her perhaps she should bring something else to the table other than her vagina. What is she bringing that's making her a better catch than OP? She is not paying child support so its likely she earns less than her ex and probably broke just like OP.

So folks tell me, why is she a catch that deserves a man who can devote the time with her she thinks she deserves.

OP is clearly not a high value man. He is struggling financially. She is not a high value woman either. She is divorced (of of course she is a woman she is not at fault it must be her ex ). She has kids (probably can't have more or isn't willing to have more). And she has custody as well which means if she meets a guy who wants more time she won't be able to give that time because she has custody.

Y'all are commenting as if this woman is a catch who deserves a man who has time for her. She is just another divorced woman with kids who is probably broke and only surviving thanks to child support and alimony.

OP should not date. And she should not date either. She has nothing but vagina to offer.

Sometimes women would rather just be single.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I date, I expect the man to be financially stable, prioritize quality time and have drive. You don’t have those qualities.

He doesn't have drive. He is driving people around so he can help support his kids.

What is your definition of a driven man? Enlighten us please. I am sure we can take learn something of value from you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP's ex girlfriend is a divorced woman receiving child support. I am not sure she is exactly a catch. Frankly good riddance.

If she wants a man who will spend more time with her perhaps she should bring something else to the table other than her vagina. What is she bringing that's making her a better catch than OP? She is not paying child support so its likely she earns less than her ex and probably broke just like OP.

So folks tell me, why is she a catch that deserves a man who can devote the time with her she thinks she deserves.

OP is clearly not a high value man. He is struggling financially. She is not a high value woman either. She is divorced (of of course she is a woman she is not at fault it must be her ex ). She has kids (probably can't have more or isn't willing to have more). And she has custody as well which means if she meets a guy who wants more time she won't be able to give that time because she has custody.

Y'all are commenting as if this woman is a catch who deserves a man who has time for her. She is just another divorced woman with kids who is probably broke and only surviving thanks to child support and alimony.

OP should not date. And she should not date either. She has nothing but vagina to offer.

With this hateful attitude towards women, you should try dating men.

What does having more kids have to do with this? OP can barely afford the ones he has, how would a woman wanting MORE children be of any benefit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP's ex girlfriend is a divorced woman receiving child support. I am not sure she is exactly a catch. Frankly good riddance.

If she wants a man who will spend more time with her perhaps she should bring something else to the table other than her vagina. What is she bringing that's making her a better catch than OP? She is not paying child support so its likely she earns less than her ex and probably broke just like OP.

So folks tell me, why is she a catch that deserves a man who can devote the time with her she thinks she deserves.

OP is clearly not a high value man. He is struggling financially. She is not a high value woman either. She is divorced (of of course she is a woman she is not at fault it must be her ex ). She has kids (probably can't have more or isn't willing to have more). And she has custody as well which means if she meets a guy who wants more time she won't be able to give that time because she has custody.

Y'all are commenting as if this woman is a catch who deserves a man who has time for her. She is just another divorced woman with kids who is probably broke and only surviving thanks to child support and alimony.

OP should not date. And she should not date either. She has nothing but vagina to offer.

Sometimes women would rather just be single.

Rather be single than date that pp - a field of walking red flags for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP's ex girlfriend is a divorced woman receiving child support. I am not sure she is exactly a catch. Frankly good riddance.

If she wants a man who will spend more time with her perhaps she should bring something else to the table other than her vagina. What is she bringing that's making her a better catch than OP? She is not paying child support so its likely she earns less than her ex and probably broke just like OP.

So folks tell me, why is she a catch that deserves a man who can devote the time with her she thinks she deserves.

OP is clearly not a high value man. He is struggling financially. She is not a high value woman either. She is divorced (of of course she is a woman she is not at fault it must be her ex ). She has kids (probably can't have more or isn't willing to have more). And she has custody as well which means if she meets a guy who wants more time she won't be able to give that time because she has custody.

Y'all are commenting as if this woman is a catch who deserves a man who has time for her. She is just another divorced woman with kids who is probably broke and only surviving thanks to child support and alimony.

OP should not date. And she should not date either. She has nothing but vagina to offer.

[phone].

Divorced and kids at home. Sorry I'll take a pass. Plenty of single never married women.

And she has the audacity to ask for more time. Perhaps she can get a better job herself so her ex won't have to send her child support.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP's ex girlfriend is a divorced woman receiving child support. I am not sure she is exactly a catch. Frankly good riddance.

If she wants a man who will spend more time with her perhaps she should bring something else to the table other than her vagina. What is she bringing that's making her a better catch than OP? She is not paying child support so its likely she earns less than her ex and probably broke just like OP.

So folks tell me, why is she a catch that deserves a man who can devote the time with her she thinks she deserves.

OP is clearly not a high value man. He is struggling financially. She is not a high value woman either. She is divorced (of of course she is a woman she is not at fault it must be her ex ). She has kids (probably can't have more or isn't willing to have more). And she has custody as well which means if she meets a guy who wants more time she won't be able to give that time because she has custody.

Y'all are commenting as if this woman is a catch who deserves a man who has time for her. She is just another divorced woman with kids who is probably broke and only surviving thanks to child support and alimony.

OP should not date. And she should not date either. She has nothing but vagina to offer.

With this hateful attitude towards women, you should try dating men.

What does having more kids have to do with this? OP can barely afford the ones he has, how would a woman wanting MORE children be of any benefit?

As a man I agree with you. PP is crazy. However I do agree with him that her options are not as much as she thinks they are. I am single and I avoid divorced women with kids as far as resinous relationship. However other men seek such women. We all have preferences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP's ex girlfriend is a divorced woman receiving child support. I am not sure she is exactly a catch. Frankly good riddance.

If she wants a man who will spend more time with her perhaps she should bring something else to the table other than her vagina. What is she bringing that's making her a better catch than OP? She is not paying child support so its likely she earns less than her ex and probably broke just like OP.

So folks tell me, why is she a catch that deserves a man who can devote the time with her she thinks she deserves.

OP is clearly not a high value man. He is struggling financially. She is not a high value woman either. She is divorced (of of course she is a woman she is not at fault it must be her ex ). She has kids (probably can't have more or isn't willing to have more). And she has custody as well which means if she meets a guy who wants more time she won't be able to give that time because she has custody.

Y'all are commenting as if this woman is a catch who deserves a man who has time for her. She is just another divorced woman with kids who is probably broke and only surviving thanks to child support and alimony.

OP should not date. And she should not date either. She has nothing but vagina to offer.

With this hateful attitude towards women, you should try dating men.

What does having more kids have to do with this? OP can barely afford the ones he has, how would a woman wanting MORE children be of any benefit?

As a man I agree with you. PP is crazy. However I do agree with him that her options are not as much as she thinks they are. I am single and I avoid divorced women with kids as far as resinous relationship. However other men seek such women. We all have preferences.

TBF I think everyone overestimates their market appeal. The divorced mom/dad with kids on the same schedule could work for a lot of people, and a divorced parent with kids understands the dynamics of the other divorced parent with kids. And people who don't want more children should pair up with other people who don't want/more children.

[Anonymous]

My ex wife left me because I was working too much and wasn't willing to cut my hours and subsequently money. I make a lot of money and I want more. I was not willing to work less and earn less. So my wife left. I don't blame her. She is now dating a younger who seems like he has a lot more time for her. Good for her. I am also dating a woman who is willing to put up with my hours. You have one life to live. You should not throw that life away because your partner is not willing to make sacrifices for you. So I am on OP's ex side.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Retired attorney here. Unfortunately a lot of men (and some women but mostly men) have to take 2 to 3 jobs to afford child support and alimony. We can argue about the need to "maintain the pre-divorce lifestyle" all day long, but in practice it is rarely the case. Often the payer of child support and alimony ends up with a lower standard of living.

Often the receiver of alimony and child support end up with a lower standard of living. It’s simple math. The same income now supports the same people in 2 different households. No one maintains the same standard of living post divorce unless they get a new job, a side gig or get a raise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP's ex girlfriend is a divorced woman receiving child support. I am not sure she is exactly a catch. Frankly good riddance.

If she wants a man who will spend more time with her perhaps she should bring something else to the table other than her vagina. What is she bringing that's making her a better catch than OP? She is not paying child support so its likely she earns less than her ex and probably broke just like OP.

So folks tell me, why is she a catch that deserves a man who can devote the time with her she thinks she deserves.

OP is clearly not a high value man. He is struggling financially. She is not a high value woman either. She is divorced (of of course she is a woman she is not at fault it must be her ex ). She has kids (probably can't have more or isn't willing to have more). And she has custody as well which means if she meets a guy who wants more time she won't be able to give that time because she has custody.

Y'all are commenting as if this woman is a catch who deserves a man who has time for her. She is just another divorced woman with kids who is probably broke and only surviving thanks to child support and alimony.

OP should not date. And she should not date either. She has nothing but vagina to offer.

[phone].

Divorced and kids at home. Sorry I'll take a pass. Plenty of single never married women.

And she has the audacity to ask for more time. Perhaps she can get a better job herself so her ex won't have to send her child support.

Yes, there are plenty of single, never married women out there. What exactly does the OP have at this point to offer them — or anyone? Yes, I noticed that the OP never commented on this. Perhaps the OP thinks that sex is somehow enough?

PP, “child support “ isn’t about this woman’s job “better” or not. It’s about her children’s father supporting his kids. Do you think, for some reason, that parents — or, specifically, fathers — shouldn’t financially support their kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t date men who were stretched so thin.

Should men avoid women who are stretched so thin like OP? Just wondering. Should men avoid these women?

Or does it only apply to men?

NP Applies to both ..