Retirement finances in an age-gap relationship or marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only reason a woman should ever get married is if there's a giant, guaranteed, financial incentive for her. Otherwise it's just too risky. Add in his kids and the age gap and this just doesn't seem worth it. I agree with the person who says to divorce and cohabitate.

This is the answer. Divorce. Cohabitate. You don't even have to tell your friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only reason a woman should ever get married is if there's a giant, guaranteed, financial incentive for her. Otherwise it's just too risky. Add in his kids and the age gap and this just doesn't seem worth it. I agree with the person who says to divorce and cohabitate.

In addition to financial incentives I would wanting to have/provide stability for children or religious reasons. It doesn’t sound like any of these factors are the case for Op though so agree in her case marriage seems a pretty bad decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only reason a woman should ever get married is if there's a giant, guaranteed, financial incentive for her. Otherwise it's just too risky. Add in his kids and the age gap and this just doesn't seem worth it. I agree with the person who says to divorce and cohabitate.

In addition to financial incentives I would wanting to have/provide stability for children or religious reasons. It doesn’t sound like any of these factors are the case for Op though so agree in her case marriage seems a pretty bad decision.

OP's DH is divorced, so I'm not certain how much stability that first marriage provided. Plus what younger woman marries an old man, or older man, and a divorced with kids one at that, who doesn't have a lot, I mean a lot of money, like F/U money, money. But not only that you picked one, an older wrinkly one, or soon to be, who looks at you with the sad little boy eyes, Take care of me. Oh no! Why? Just why?

Sorry maybe I'm just too far past that stage of my life, and no longer prone to sentimentality, but I just don't see the what was/is in it for you.