Women in your 40s, what's your age limit filter set to?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 42 and my filters are 37-49. I strongly prefer men within 3 years of my age, either way, and all of my lifelong relationships have fallen with that range. I’m retiring at 50 and fit relative to my peers, and would also like to avoid being homebound due to an aging spouse. My only kid goes off to college in a couple of years. I basically target divorced dads in a similar stage of life.

Divorced dads will have much younger kids than you. I’m 47 yo empty nester and most men in their 40s have kids in primary and middle school. Realistically professional men become empty nesters by mid 50s.
It’s a trade off between dating someone who is almost never available on weekends and an older man in his mid 50s.
I find it very problematic dating men jn 40-50s, so I do get it when women just go for younger single men hookups . Divorced older men with kids still at home don’t have much to offer and no time to build a relationship

+1. Also 47 but my kids are 11 and 13. My ex-husband is almost 52 and he will not be an empty nester until he is 60. Men in their 40s usually have a little kids or middle school kids. They’re not divorced empty-nesters.

PP here who is 42. I don't mind younger (or older kids), as long as they're roughly ages 8 and above. I've tended to attract more ex-military, defense contracting types and fortunately those guys often married and had kids younger as well. I have relatively young parents, so I've never been attracted to older men at any age.

Average paternal age for the first newborn for men with grad degree is 33.5 yo in the US. So yea, professional men on average become empty nesters by mid 50s

https://biox.stanford.edu/highlight/fathers-american-newborns-keep-getting-older#:~:text=Older%2520dads%2520and%2520college%2520degrees&text=Asian%252DAmerican%2520dads%2520%E2%80%94%2520and%2520in,degree%2520is%252033.3%2520years%2520old.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 42 and my filters are 37-49. I strongly prefer men within 3 years of my age, either way, and all of my lifelong relationships have fallen with that range. I’m retiring at 50 and fit relative to my peers, and would also like to avoid being homebound due to an aging spouse. My only kid goes off to college in a couple of years. I basically target divorced dads in a similar stage of life.

Divorced dads will have much younger kids than you. I’m 47 yo empty nester and most men in their 40s have kids in primary and middle school. Realistically professional men become empty nesters by mid 50s.
It’s a trade off between dating someone who is almost never available on weekends and an older man in his mid 50s.
I find it very problematic dating men jn 40-50s, so I do get it when women just go for younger single men hookups . Divorced older men with kids still at home don’t have much to offer and no time to build a relationship

+1. Also 47 but my kids are 11 and 13. My ex-husband is almost 52 and he will not be an empty nester until he is 60. Men in their 40s usually have a little kids or middle school kids. They’re not divorced empty-nesters.

PP here who is 42. I don't mind younger (or older kids), as long as they're roughly ages 8 and above. I've tended to attract more ex-military, defense contracting types and fortunately those guys often married and had kids younger as well. I have relatively young parents, so I've never been attracted to older men at any age.

Average paternal age for the first newborn for men with grad degree is 33.5 yo in the US. So yea, professional men on average become empty nesters by mid 50s

https://biox.stanford.edu/highlight/fathers-american-newborns-keep-getting-older#:~:text=Older%2520dads%2520and%2520college%2520degrees&text=Asian%252DAmerican%2520dads%2520%E2%80%94%2520and%2520in,degree%2520is%252033.3%2520years%2520old.

“In the US”….DC has the latest average age of marriage for women. It is all older in DC.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 48, and my age range is 30-60. I’m currently casually seeing a 36 y.o., and it’s been very enjoyable thus far. A few days ago I went on a date with a 58 y.o. man, and he is so much looking for serious, committed relationship, started planning our future life together on the first date and then sent me a message saying how he would want to pour all his energies, heart and soul into me, but he would need the same in return. I’d rather keep dating the guys in their 30s, much less demanding.

I don’t know any guy in their 30s who would date old 48yo women.

I agree it’s not the majority but I need only one man at a time. The 36 y.o. that I’m seeing said that he is very attracted to me. When he invited me on a third date, I asked how much he wants to see me, and he said 153/10 or maybe more. He is smart, funny, and handsome, and that’s fine if it lasts just for a few months.

I have 30s men and even 29-year-olds who want to date me. I am turning 38. At least 6 people text me in a regular basis. I look younger than my ages. Two people I was with for more than a year.

I am the poster above. I mistyped. I am turning 48 (not 38).

They are certainly beta males who have been rejected by young females.
A real alpha 29/30 year old male would never settle for a 48 year old grandma.

My two kids are in middle school. My youngest is 10. I won’t be a grandma for at least 15 more years. I can also still have a baby but I never would.

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this is why downtown leesburg is great thursday-saturday evenings. all the 40 year old women are out looking for some dick. I keep myself in great shape. one of the bars has a bed and breakfast over it and i keep a room rented up there. Man i put some work into em.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 42 and my filters are 37-49. I strongly prefer men within 3 years of my age, either way, and all of my lifelong relationships have fallen with that range. I’m retiring at 50 and fit relative to my peers, and would also like to avoid being homebound due to an aging spouse. My only kid goes off to college in a couple of years. I basically target divorced dads in a similar stage of life.

Divorced dads will have much younger kids than you. I’m 47 yo empty nester and most men in their 40s have kids in primary and middle school. Realistically professional men become empty nesters by mid 50s.
It’s a trade off between dating someone who is almost never available on weekends and an older man in his mid 50s.
I find it very problematic dating men jn 40-50s, so I do get it when women just go for younger single men hookups . Divorced older men with kids still at home don’t have much to offer and no time to build a relationship

+1. Also 47 but my kids are 11 and 13. My ex-husband is almost 52 and he will not be an empty nester until he is 60. Men in their 40s usually have a little kids or middle school kids. They’re not divorced empty-nesters.

PP here who is 42. I don't mind younger (or older kids), as long as they're roughly ages 8 and above. I've tended to attract more ex-military, defense contracting types and fortunately those guys often married and had kids younger as well. I have relatively young parents, so I've never been attracted to older men at any age.

Average paternal age for the first newborn for men with grad degree is 33.5 yo in the US. So yea, professional men on average become empty nesters by mid 50s

https://biox.stanford.edu/highlight/fathers-american-newborns-keep-getting-older#:~:text=Older%2520dads%2520and%2520college%2520degrees&text=Asian%252DAmerican%2520dads%2520%E2%80%94%2520and%2520in,degree%2520is%252033.3%2520years%2520old.

I'm aware and I'm not looking for empty nesters, though I do meet a few here and there. I also don't at all mind a man who is still working for awhile following my own retirement. What I am hoping to avoid is settling with an older men who can't travel or be active much at all for health reasons. My ideal man has middle school to HS aged kids, but slightly younger or college aged would not eliminate an otherwise great man. It's not impossible to find. In fact, most of my friends with kids are married/remarried to men with kids within a year of their own.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 42 and my filters are 37-49. I strongly prefer men within 3 years of my age, either way, and all of my lifelong relationships have fallen with that range. I’m retiring at 50 and fit relative to my peers, and would also like to avoid being homebound due to an aging spouse. My only kid goes off to college in a couple of years. I basically target divorced dads in a similar stage of life.

Divorced dads will have much younger kids than you. I’m 47 yo empty nester and most men in their 40s have kids in primary and middle school. Realistically professional men become empty nesters by mid 50s.
It’s a trade off between dating someone who is almost never available on weekends and an older man in his mid 50s.
I find it very problematic dating men jn 40-50s, so I do get it when women just go for younger single men hookups . Divorced older men with kids still at home don’t have much to offer and no time to build a relationship

+1. Also 47 but my kids are 11 and 13. My ex-husband is almost 52 and he will not be an empty nester until he is 60. Men in their 40s usually have a little kids or middle school kids. They’re not divorced empty-nesters.

PP here who is 42. I don't mind younger (or older kids), as long as they're roughly ages 8 and above. I've tended to attract more ex-military, defense contracting types and fortunately those guys often married and had kids younger as well. I have relatively young parents, so I've never been attracted to older men at any age.

Average paternal age for the first newborn for men with grad degree is 33.5 yo in the US. So yea, professional men on average become empty nesters by mid 50s

https://biox.stanford.edu/highlight/fathers-american-newborns-keep-getting-older#:~:text=Older%2520dads%2520and%2520college%2520degrees&text=Asian%252DAmerican%2520dads%2520%E2%80%94%2520and%2520in,degree%2520is%252033.3%2520years%2520old.

I'm aware and I'm not looking for empty nesters, though I do meet a few here and there. I also don't at all mind a man who is still working for awhile following my own retirement. What I am hoping to avoid is settling with an older men who can't travel or be active much at all for health reasons. My ideal man has middle school to HS aged kids, but slightly younger or college aged would not eliminate an otherwise great man. It's not impossible to find. In fact, most of my friends with kids are married/remarried to men with kids within a year of their own.

In my experience men with teens and young adults don’t have time and resources to building a relationship. College payments, alimony, CS. But I’m a wealthy woman with lifestyle so my criteria for the lifestyle are hard to match

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Anonymous wrote:I am 46. Currently dating a 38 year old for the last 6 months. I think my filters might be at 35-50. Older men who are single tend to either have commitment issues or mental health issues, unfortunately.

I don’t really prefer to date so young but this person is unusually mature for his age. And there are pluses… he’s energetic, passionate, and very gentle/ emotionally intelligent. pop I am enjoying this so much. It is totally different than any connection I’ve had with a man my age or older.

Would that 36 year old same
The same about you ?

Yes! He has.

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When I was on OLD at exactly 40, I set it to 30-50. I ended up changing it to 32-48. I ended up with someone 5 years older.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m 42 and my filters are 37-49. I strongly prefer men within 3 years of my age, either way, and all of my lifelong relationships have fallen with that range. I’m retiring at 50 and fit relative to my peers, and would also like to avoid being homebound due to an aging spouse. My only kid goes off to college in a couple of years. I basically target divorced dads in a similar stage of life.

Divorced dads will have much younger kids than you. I’m 47 yo empty nester and most men in their 40s have kids in primary and middle school. Realistically professional men become empty nesters by mid 50s.
It’s a trade off between dating someone who is almost never available on weekends and an older man in his mid 50s.
I find it very problematic dating men jn 40-50s, so I do get it when women just go for younger single men hookups . Divorced older men with kids still at home don’t have much to offer and no time to build a relationship

+1. Also 47 but my kids are 11 and 13. My ex-husband is almost 52 and he will not be an empty nester until he is 60. Men in their 40s usually have a little kids or middle school kids. They’re not divorced empty-nesters.

PP here who is 42. I don't mind younger (or older kids), as long as they're roughly ages 8 and above. I've tended to attract more ex-military, defense contracting types and fortunately those guys often married and had kids younger as well. I have relatively young parents, so I've never been attracted to older men at any age.

Average paternal age for the first newborn for men with grad degree is 33.5 yo in the US. So yea, professional men on average become empty nesters by mid 50s

https://biox.stanford.edu/highlight/fathers-american-newborns-keep-getting-older#:~:text=Older%2520dads%2520and%2520college%2520degrees&text=Asian%252DAmerican%2520dads%2520%E2%80%94%2520and%2520in,degree%2520is%252033.3%2520years%2520old.

I'm aware and I'm not looking for empty nesters, though I do meet a few here and there. I also don't at all mind a man who is still working for awhile following my own retirement. What I am hoping to avoid is settling with an older men who can't travel or be active much at all for health reasons. My ideal man has middle school to HS aged kids, but slightly younger or college aged would not eliminate an otherwise great man. It's not impossible to find. In fact, most of my friends with kids are married/remarried to men with kids within a year of their own.

In my experience men with teens and young adults don’t have time and resources to building a relationship. College payments, alimony, CS. But I’m a wealthy woman with lifestyle so my criteria for the lifestyle are hard to match

You'll find someone if you're reasonably attractive. Water seeks its own level.