How can I break up with this friend in the most cut and dry way possible?

[Anonymous]

You should say "both DH and I feel you violated boundaries and don't want to communicate with you."
Otherwise she will contact him to try to weasel her way in.

[Anonymous]

She sounds kind of bovine, like she will steam-roll any attempt to ghost her anyway.

Just lay it out.

"What you did was a complete betrayal of trust, it was unforgivable and I never want to hear from you again."

and then silence. No discussion, just make sure you delete / block her numbers etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While she was out of line, your lies of omission to your husband are even worse.

Op here,

My husband knows about my current health (physical and mental) concerns. I never felt the need to tell him about an eating disorder I had and got treatment for before we even met. I haven't relapsed in over a decade using my coping skills (therapy, etc).

After she told him, he asked her to leave. And we discussed the ED for a total of 10 mins and then talked about how wild it was that she felt the need to expose something that way.

It sounds like your husband put her in her place, and I am glad for both of you that he did. So you don't even need to let her know why you are erasing her existence at all.