How can I break up with this friend in the most cut and dry way possible?

[Anonymous]

Block her.

[Anonymous]

Irish exit is very appropriate here.

[Anonymous]

Personally I don’t recommend blocking someone because I would want to know and have record of them harassing me if it ever came to that.

I would say - “[Name], it was not ok to disclose that information to my husband. From this point on, please do not contact me further. I wish you the best.” Do not respond to any subsequent communications from her - she will say a few things to provoke you but just ignore. It will die out after that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Personally I don’t recommend blocking someone because I would want to know and have record of them harassing me if it ever came to that.

I would say - “[Name], it was not ok to disclose that information to my husband. From this point on, please do not contact me further. I wish you the best.” Do not respond to any subsequent communications from her - she will say a few things to provoke you but just ignore. It will die out after that.

Please do not wish her the best. She does not deserve it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:WOW just WOW. She is a lunatic. Who does that????

You have my full permission to either ghost her (I would). Or to tell her "what you did was completely out of line. I cannot be friends with someone who so blatantly disrespects my wishes and meddles in my marriage. Do not respond to this message. This is not up for discussion."

I agree with everything here. And OP, yay for you getting help for your bulimia, and using the coping mechanisms through your adult life to keep that at bay and having what sounds like an awesome, supportive husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Personally I don’t recommend blocking someone because I would want to know and have record of them harassing me if it ever came to that.

I would say - “[Name], it was not ok to disclose that information to my husband. From this point on, please do not contact me further. I wish you the best.” Do not respond to any subsequent communications from her - she will say a few things to provoke you but just ignore. It will die out after that.

Please do not wish her the best. She does not deserve it.

It doesn’t matter if she deserves it. When you are dealing with unpredictable people you keep it factual, clinical and above reproach. Do not give them anything to dig into. Make it harder for them to react to your words, make them look worse blowing up at you when you were being polite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:WOW just WOW. She is a lunatic. Who does that????

You have my full permission to either ghost her (I would). Or to tell her "what you did was completely out of line. I cannot be friends with someone who so blatantly disrespects my wishes and meddles in my marriage. Do not respond to this message. This is not up for discussion."

I agree with everything here. And OP, yay for you getting help for your bulimia, and using the coping mechanisms through your adult life to keep that at bay and having what sounds like an awesome, supportive husband.

Yes to this. Good for you OP. No matter what, do not let this person detract from your hard won peace and happiness!

[Anonymous]

In this scenario, because she is someone who does not respect your feelings or boundaries on such sensitive topics, giving her an explanation might result in her urgently trying to convince you you are wrong.

I think the best approach is to ghost, but you would know better because you are in the actual situation.

[Anonymous]

Tell her never to contact you again, out of line!
If she reaches out, black her.
Sorry OP!

[Anonymous]

Wow - - what a witch!!

I would have been SOO pissed off 😠 if someone, especially a “friend” did something like this to me!!

You can give her an explanation if you feel like it but in all honesty no one would blame you if you just blocked her right now ➕ stopped having anything to do w/her.

What she did was way out of line - - she had no business overstepping such a huge boundary!

[Anonymous]

No reason to be nice. Do whatever you feel like is best to drop this crazy person. Sheesh.

[Anonymous]

I really can't believe you never told your husband!! What did he say?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While she was out of line, your lies of omission to your husband are even worse.

Not op. Utter bs.

Op that person is a lunatic. How inappropriate. I would drop her completely. No friend would do such a thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really can't believe you never told your husband!! What did he say?!

Way to miss the point. When I was in college, half of my mates were bulimic. I know women who went through short term phases because of the influence of college friends. Don't make it sound like she's hiding a marriage or two.

[Anonymous]

I would be even simpler. The next time she reaches out, write: I do not want to be friends anymore. If she solicits an argument, do not respond and block her number.