How can I break up with this friend in the most cut and dry way possible?

[Anonymous]

I don't want to ghost but long story short... I felt comfortable opening up to her about my past eating disorder. She's a person who talks a lot about "safe" foods, "healthy" food and calories and it just makes me really uneasy. I told her before, I don't want to talk about calorie counts while we eat. She brought it up again recently and I just came out with the fact that I used to struggle with bulimia and I don't like going into the headspace. She asked if my husband knows. I said no. She said it is dishonest of me not to tell him about this part of my past. So when she came to my house after the meal, she told him.

She maintains that she fixed a problem and now I will be able to "have a dialogue" with DH. I don't want to. There's nothing to discuss with him.

I no longer wish to be friends with her. This isn't the first time she has steamrolled my decision. Is this something that is acceptable to just text and then block her? What can I say to her that makes it clear I'm done, and I don't want to discuss it further?

[Anonymous]

WOW just WOW. She is a lunatic. Who does that????

You have my full permission to either ghost her (I would). Or to tell her "what you did was completely out of line. I cannot be friends with someone who so blatantly disrespects my wishes and meddles in my marriage. Do not respond to this message. This is not up for discussion."

[Anonymous]

What she did is unforgivable. Just don't respond to texts or calls anymore. If ever there was a reason to ghost, it is this.

[Anonymous]

While she was out of line, your lies of omission to your husband are even worse.

[Anonymous]

Ghost them, and if they come to you asking why you ghosted, tell them they were completely out of line and the friendship is over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While she was out of line, your lies of omission to your husband are even worse.

Are you the friend OP is talking about?

[Anonymous]

Just ghost.

She sounds like a cover narcissist.

[Anonymous]

⬆️ covert narcissist

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While she was out of line, your lies of omission to your husband are even worse.

Op here,

My husband knows about my current health (physical and mental) concerns. I never felt the need to tell him about an eating disorder I had and got treatment for before we even met. I haven't relapsed in over a decade using my coping skills (therapy, etc).

After she told him, he asked her to leave. And we discussed the ED for a total of 10 mins and then talked about how wild it was that she felt the need to expose something that way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While she was out of line, your lies of omission to your husband are even worse.

None of YOUR or OP's "friend's" business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While she was out of line, your lies of omission to your husband are even worse.

Op here,

My husband knows about my current health (physical and mental) concerns. I never felt the need to tell him about an eating disorder I had and got treatment for before we even met. I haven't relapsed in over a decade using my coping skills (therapy, etc).

After she told him, he asked her to leave. And we discussed the ED for a total of 10 mins and then talked about how wild it was that she felt the need to expose something that way.

I'm proud of your husband. That was the only correct response to someone trying to "out" his spouse. She is a pathetic loser. Just ghost her.

[Anonymous]

Block her, delete her, don’t ever acknowledge her. She doesn’t exist and does not deserve ANY explanation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:While she was out of line, your lies of omission to your husband are even worse.

Op here,

My husband knows about my current health (physical and mental) concerns. I never felt the need to tell him about an eating disorder I had and got treatment for before we even met. I haven't relapsed in over a decade using my coping skills (therapy, etc).

After she told him, he asked her to leave. And we discussed the ED for a total of 10 mins and then talked about how wild it was that she felt the need to expose something that way.

I'm proud of your husband. That was the only correct response to someone trying to "out" his spouse. She is a pathetic loser. Just ghost her.

+1. Or use the wording a PP gave, but I'd just ghost, and I've never done that before but this is unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While she was out of line, your lies of omission to your husband are even worse.

Piss. Off.

[Anonymous]

Assuming that there is no other side of the story, and that what you are saying, OP, is exactly what happened, then you should completely ghost this woman and have nothing to do with her ever again and never think twice about it.